How to grab the attention of the person you secretly like

Having a secret crush on someone is never easy, especially when they have no idea you even exist! While there’s no guaranteed way to make your crush notice you, there are certain strategies you can use to catch their attention. First, showcase your best qualities. This means becoming the most attractive, energetic, positive, and confident version of yourself. Then, try to place yourself in situations where you can interact with them, so they’ll notice your unique charm and appeal.

Spend extra time perfecting your appearance. You should set aside an additional 10 or 15 minutes to look your best before meeting your crush. Small changes can make you appear more attractive in their eyes. A polished appearance doesn’t just grab attention; it also boosts your confidence to approach them.

• Pay attention to your hair. A quick comb through can make a noticeable difference. Girls often feel more confident with straightened or curled hair.
• If you wear makeup, make sure it’s long-lasting and stays put throughout the day.
• Additionally, take care of your body by getting enough sleep and maintaining healthy skin to look refreshed and vibrant.

Stand out from the crowd. Dressing in a way that’s unique from those around you is an excellent way to attract attention. This is especially effective in environments where everyone tends to dress similarly.

• If everyone at school dresses the same or wears uniforms, try wearing a bold necklace or a cool pair of sneakers to grab your crush’s attention.
• If you're in a professional setting, wear outfits that are appropriate but stand out. For example, you could wear a collared shirt with an interesting print or a sparkly headband.

Wear red. If red suits you, wear it. Studies have shown that both women and men attract others when wearing red. Choose a red dress or a red shirt from your wardrobe to capture your crush's attention. If red isn’t your color, choose another bright shade to help you stand out in the crowd.

Don’t overdo it with your outfit. Trying too hard to impress your crush can lead to an overly extravagant outfit. You want to look stunning, but remember to dress appropriately for the situation.

• For example, if your crush is in your yoga class, don’t wear workout clothes as if you’re walking the red carpet.
• Remember, things are always better in moderation. This is especially true when it comes to perfume or fragrance.

Make sure your crush knows you’re there. Try to get into their line of sight. If you’re in the same class, sit close or directly in front of them. If you see them at the gym, try working out nearby. Do this until you’re sure your crush has noticed you and is aware of your presence!

• Don’t hover around your crush too much. There’s a difference between stalking your crush and simply ensuring they notice you.

Get involved more. Wherever your crush is, try to join in. If you're in school with them, join a sports team or extracurricular activity. If you volunteer with your crush, take on extra hours. Participating in more activities will increase your visibility while showing that you’re a driven and goal-oriented person—qualities that are highly attractive.

Meet your crush’s friends. If you’re too nervous to talk to the person you like, try initiating a conversation with their friends. If any of your friends know one of their friends, you can approach together. If you don’t have any connection with your crush’s friends, try to strike up a conversation with one or two of them in similar situations, like in a class or on a project.

• You could start with simple questions like: "When is the English assignment due?"
• If you get along with a lot of their friends, before long, you'll have opportunities to meet or hang out with your crush. Becoming friends with their friends is a way to enter their world.
• Avoid mentioning your crush to their friends. If you ask about them right after meeting, your feelings will be obvious. Stay calm and composed.

Flirt non-verbally. If you feel nervous approaching your crush, try these subtle techniques to catch their attention and spark interest.

• Make eye contact and smile. Eye contact and a smile show you’re friendly and approachable, but don’t overdo it. If your crush doesn’t respond immediately, keep trying.
• If you’re a girl, play with your hair, especially if you have long hair. Twist it around your finger or brush it to one side. Drawing attention to your hair highlights your natural beauty.

Start a conversation. If you haven’t spoken to your crush before, now is the time to act. Find a reason to talk, preferably when there are fewer people around to avoid interruptions. If you don’t know much about your crush, discuss something related to the situation you’re both in.

• For example, if you’re waiting in line, ask: "Do you think this wait is worth it?" If you’re in a break room at work, say: "Have you tried the cookies Sam brought in? They’re so good!"
• Asking a question is a great way to start a conversation. For instance, if you both attend the same class, you could ask: “Hey, what did Mr. Nam assign for the homework?"
• You could also ask for help. Asking your crush for assistance is a wonderful way to initiate a conversation, whether it’s opening a jar, grabbing something for you, carrying a heavy bag, or helping with homework. It will make your crush feel good about themselves and create a positive interaction between you two.

Talk about common interests. Once you’ve started talking to each other, bring up things you both have in common. People are often attracted to those with similar interests, so sharing your passions can create a bond.

• For example, if you both are on the school's track team, ask your crush: "How do you feel about the upcoming competition?"

Ask about her. Pose questions to your crush to show that you’re interested in getting to know her better. People generally enjoy talking about themselves, so this can be a great way to keep the conversation flowing.

• For instance, you could ask, "How long have you worked here?" or "Are you taking any other classes this semester?"

Be a good listener. After asking about your crush, you might not always know what to say next, how to respond, or how to fill the silences in the conversation... all of this can be addressed by simply listening. It’s hard to worry while you’re focused on listening—active listening helps you manage your nerves and take control of the moment.

• Try following up with interesting questions or remarks to show that you’re engaged and listening. If your crush talks about taking diving lessons, ask about their diving experiences, where they’ll be learning, or when they’ll receive their certification.
• Don’t view gaps in the conversation as opportunities to shift the focus to yourself. Conversations should flow back and forth, so don’t monopolize the talk or wait for him to pause so you can talk about yourself.
• Show that you’re a good listener and truly care about your crush’s thoughts, so they’ll feel comfortable sharing with you.
• If you’re not too nervous, maintain eye contact to show that you’re paying attention. Don’t stare intensely, but try to look him in the eye occasionally.
• You can also express listening through subtle cues like nodding or making confirming sounds (e.g., "Mmm-hmm" or "Right").

Compliment your crush. Most people enjoy receiving compliments. During your conversation, make an effort to praise something about your crush. Compliments are a great way to keep the conversation going as they introduce new topics.

• If you know your crush through a sport, you could say, "I saw you play soccer. You’re an amazing goal-scorer!"
• You could also comment, "I like your shirt," or compliment other aspects of her appearance.
• Be mindful not to overdo it, so your compliments don’t come across as insincere.

Laugh at his jokes. You can flatter and bond with your crush by laughing at his jokes. This shows that you also have a sense of humor and that you find him entertaining. Laughing together is a great way to connect and share a moment.

• When laughing, you could even say, "You’re really funny!"
• If you want to flirt more, lightly touch his arm while laughing. This adds a personal touch and will make your crush feel closer to you.

Stay in touch. Keep meeting up and talking with your crush. Greet each other whenever you bump into him in the hallway or somewhere around town. Pick up your previous conversations where you left off. If you sense that your crush likes you, you can increase the flirting or even suggest going on a date with him!

Define your personal style. Take a moment to look through your wardrobe. Make sure that every piece of clothing you own suits you, not old outfits that no longer fit. Your clothing reflects who you are and your personality. If you can define your style, your crush will better understand who you are, and this might make them more inclined to talk to you.

• If you're passionate about sports, wear your favorite team's jersey. If you're more of a feminine and graceful type, celebrate yourself with soft-colored outfits or delicate lace pieces.
• If you have a bold personality, opt for a black button-down shirt and jeans.
• Avoid copying your crush's style. Just because your crush dresses casually for school doesn't mean you should force yourself to dress in a country club style if it’s not your thing. You need to feel comfortable and confident in your own clothes.

Speak your mind. Don't be afraid to voice your thoughts when your crush is around. If you're in the same class as your crush, participate and answer questions. Share your opinions in meetings at work or clubs. Even trying to chat with friends around your crush can help them learn more about you.

• Maintain a positive and upbeat attitude when your crush is nearby. Happy, confident people tend to attract others, so always stay positive when they're around.

Utilize social media. Social media is an excellent way to indirectly get closer to your crush. Even if you're not friends with them on Facebook or they're not following you on social media, they can still see your posts or photos through mutual friends.

• Be mindful of your personal social media presence, making sure your posts and photos show you as a positive and engaging person.
• Make sure you're not tagged in unflattering or embarrassing photos.

Be confident with your body language. Even if your crush makes you nervous, try to stay confident. Stand tall and relax your smile. Avoid crossing your arms, looking down, or fidgeting, as these gestures make you appear stiff and tense. Try to face your crush directly with your body.

• Take things one step at a time if you're feeling nervous around your crush. Spending time fixing your appearance can boost your confidence, helping you take bolder steps moving forward.
• Don't feel like you need to become someone else to catch their attention. Being yourself is always the best approach.
• Avoid over-flirting. It’s better to tone down your voice and speak to them like a friend rather than being overly forward.