How to Invite a Girl Over to Your Place

Are you thinking about the easiest way to invite a girl to your house? Perhaps you'd like to get to know her more deeply, away from the distractions and interruptions of others. Or maybe you're hoping to become closer with your girlfriend. In this article, we'll share some tips to help you show genuine interest and speak in a way that makes her trust you. Try out these ideas if you're planning to invite a girl over and strengthen your connection with her.

Make it convenient for her if she wants to visit. Choose a main road that's about 5-10 minutes from your place. It's also a good idea to ask about her schedule so she can plan accordingly. You could give her some options like:

• "There's a newly opened restaurant that looks great. I was thinking about trying it out. Does this Friday work for you?"
• "Would you like to go for sushi or grab coffee? How about this Saturday?"
• "I want to take you to this live music performance I really enjoy. Would this weekend be okay?"

She will see you as reliable and feel more at ease. Make sure to plan your day so that you arrive when she expects you. Check how long it will take to get there and consider other factors like traffic. Text her on your way so she'll know you're on schedule. When you show up, she'll recognize you as someone punctual.

• Think about how long you need to shower, groom, and dress. First impressions matter a lot.
• Send a confirmation message earlier in the week, and then a quick check-in right before you arrive.
• Show up and greet her when you get there. You'll instantly score points in her eyes.

Create a connection by asking her about meaningful topics. Try asking about her job or where she's from. You can then dive a bit deeper and focus on her interests or passions. Once the food or drinks are served, you can ask for her thoughts on them. She'll enjoy the attention. Start with these opening lines:

• "Ah, so you're an accountant! What’s that like? Is it really all numbers all day, or is that just a rumor?"
• "We've talked about work. So, what do you usually do to unwind?"
• "Do you like online stand-up comedy? Do you think it's better to watch live on stage?"

Break the touch barrier to test her interest. First, look at her and let her see that you're enjoying what she's saying. Then, glance at her lips and move on to the prominent features of her face. Test how open she is to physical contact. A light touch on her arm is enough to spark some chemistry.

• If she quickly glances at your lips, it may mean she's genuinely interested in you.
• If she shows affection, try a more intimate touch. Place your hand on her knee.
• Give her subtle compliments, such as, "It’s funny… that guy keeps staring at you!"

She’ll feel special, and your sincerity could leave a lasting impression. Be clear about how you feel so she knows exactly what’s on your mind. If you've been dating for a while and there's mutual attraction, tell her that you'd like to see her more often. For example, you could say:

• "I'm so glad I finally got to take you out. I feel like we've known each other for ages."
• "I'm not sure if you know, but I really like you. You're incredibly smart and strangely alluring."
• "I just want to be honest with you—I’d still be happy if you don’t feel the same way, but I feel a strong connection with you."

Be natural and make it clear that it's entirely up to her. Be honest with her! Let her know you'd like to extend the date and get to know her better without any distractions. Invite her over with lines like:

• "Hey, how about we continue the conversation at my place? I have a million questions I want to ask you!"
• "There’s so much more I want to talk about. How about you come over to my place nearby and we can continue this discussion?"
• If she's not ready to come over, tell her that's fine. You’ll win her trust this way.

Take her on a tour of your home and give her enjoyable experiences. For example, you could show her your bookshelf or movie collection. You could also suggest doing something together like cooking or mixing cocktails. She'll see a different side of you. Invite her to enjoy these moments with phrases like:

• “I have a book on the shelf that I think you’ll like. I’ll show you some of the best quotes.”
• “I just watched some cocktail mixing tutorials but never tried it. Would you like to make a cocktail together?”
• “I’m not sure if my home décor is great, but let me give you a tour, and you can give me some feedback...”

Set the mood so she can relax. Choose songs that reflect your personality. Play them at a moderate volume so she can hear them while you talk. Let the songs flow and see how she reacts. If she asks about your music taste, share more details. For example, you could say something like:

• “Oh, by the way, this band is amazing. I saw them perform two years ago.”
• “The lyrics are great, right? I love this song because the singer’s voice is so wonderful and soothing.”
• Music also helps fill in the silences. It’s useful when both of you are thinking about what to say next.”

Sit on the sofa instead of the bed so she doesn't feel uncomfortable. When she sits down, start with light and fun topics. Give her plenty of time to adjust and decide how the rest of the date will unfold.

• Share little details with her and ask questions. For example, you could say “This is a photo from my trip to Nepal. Do you enjoy traveling?”
• Pay attention to where she sits to gauge her comfort level. She may sit far away or right next to you.
• You could also start a movie. If she leans on your arm while watching, she’s probably signaling that she’s enjoying your company.

Put her at ease by saying you’re comfortable with however the date unfolds. Let her know that you just want to talk and enjoy whatever feels right for both of you. This way, she can focus on what she wants for the date. To let her take charge, you can start with phrases like:

• “I’m not expecting anything tonight. I’m just happy to be here with you.”
• “I’m really enjoying being with you. I could listen to you talk for hours.”
• You can also ask, “What would you like to do now?”

Let her know that your main concern is her safety. If you give her the option to stay longer or head home, she’ll appreciate your thoughtfulness. After 3-5 hours, ask what would be best for her. Remind her that her preferences matter most to you. You might say something like:

• “Let me check the time. Oh, we’ve been together for a few hours. Do you still feel like hanging out?”
• “Do you need to be home at a certain time?”
• “Do you have a way to get home? If not, I can chip in for your ride!”

Send a thoughtful message to let her know you appreciate her. Send a short but sincere message. For example, you could mention something you enjoyed from the date or compliment her personality. Try leaving a note like:

• “Thanks for coming over! I really enjoyed your story about haunted houses! I’m usually tough, but I was getting chills.”
• “You’re such a great storyteller. The waiter couldn’t stop laughing! I’m so glad I had you by my side after dinner.”
• “I had a blast playing axe throwing with you. You’re no ordinary girl! I’m really lucky to experience your sweet side when you came over to my place. 😅”