How to Kiss a Girl if You're a Girl

Ensure she's open to kissing other girls. Before you make your move, it's important to gauge whether your advances will be welcome, so avoid being too forward. If the girl is interested in women, she is likely to be receptive to kissing other girls. However, if she's just curious, open to new experiences, and enjoys experimenting, you might have a chance—just approach her gently and show interest through subtle cues.

Keep your breath fresh. Always maintain fresh breath—no one enjoys kissing someone with bad breath. Breath mints, chewing gum, or a breath spray can come in handy.

• Also, soften your lips with a good lip balm (not thick, sticky gloss!) before the kiss.

Ask if your partner is comfortable with kissing. Never force the moment. The most memorable kisses are those that happen naturally. If you're unsure whether your partner wants to kiss, just ask or say, "Hey, wanna kiss?" If you're feeling hesitant, try saying, "I’d really like to kiss you now, is that alright?" If they agree, you can ask if it's okay to take it further, like "Can I touch you here?"

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Make eye contact. To signal that you're ready, lock eyes with your partner and offer a subtle smile. Before diving into the kiss, you can lean your head against theirs, touch their face, caress their leg, or give them a quick kiss on the lips. This helps create a bond and makes your partner more open to kissing you; rushing in without notice can make the kiss awkward.

Start off slow and be gentle. Begin slowly, especially when changing positions, to avoid awkward moments like bumping heads or clashing teeth. You can add more passionate techniques as you go, but remember to slow down to maintain a comfortable rhythm. Start with a soft kiss on the lips, then gently introduce your tongue into their mouth as they mirror your actions.

Keep things light-hearted. This isn’t a scripted movie scene! You're both human, and no matter how many tips you read, there will be awkward moments. If something embarrassing happens, quickly diffuse it with a laugh or a playful nudge. Making out is as much about having fun as it is about building desire.

Keep your hands active. This doesn’t mean aggressively groping your partner whenever possible. To stay relaxed while kissing, it's best to keep your hands resting in your lap. When you're comfortable, start exploring your partner's body, especially if you're sitting down, as long as both of you are happy with it. Move your hands occasionally to avoid staying in the same position. Cupping their face, stroking their waist, or holding hands are all great options.

• You can gently run your fingers through their hair from front to back, down to their neck if their hair is short, or tuck a stray lock behind their ear.

Take a breather. If you need a pause or want to stop kissing for a while, slowly pull away from your partner while giving them a lingering kiss. There's no need to end things abruptly. If you're feeling tired or need to leave soon, gently start creating some distance. Don't feel guilty about taking a break—everyone needs one now and then.

• Taking a pause from kissing is completely normal and can help you reset for the next round. If you're tired but not ready to stop, slow down the pace, or don't hesitate to ask for a glass of water.

Let her know how much you enjoyed it. Tell your kissing partner how much you loved the moment. Whether it's a big hug, a final kiss, a beaming smile, or simply saying, "I love kissing you." If you genuinely feel it, even something like "I can’t get enough of you" works. It's important that your special someone feels appreciated and confident about the experience, ensuring it can happen again.