Buzz
Once you've found the perfect guy to kiss, it's crucial to know what to do and how to do it. Being a great kisser is truly important, but fortunately, it’s something you can easily master with good habits. Just follow these simple steps, and you’ll become an expert in no time!
Steps
Before the Kiss
Make sure your breath is fresh. Fresh breath is essential when kissing because you want to give the guy as many reasons as possible to keep kissing you. Use gum or mints, and always brush your teeth before meeting him. Remember, bad breath isn’t the end of the world, but it’s best to avoid it if you can.
- Avoid eating strong-smelling foods, spicy dishes, or anything with garlic before seeing him. Again, if you can’t avoid them, it’s not the end of the world, but it’s better to steer clear altogether.
Make sure you’re wearing your best outfit. You can’t always plan where and when you’ll kiss a guy, but you can prepare for it. If you’re dressed well and feel comfortable, you’ll feel like you’re walking on air. This means you’ll be more confident, and confidence increases the chances he’ll want to kiss you again.
- Avoid lip gloss and regular lipstick. Both, especially regular lipstick, can smudge on your partner, leaving him looking shiny or messy, depending on the situation. Stick to lip balm instead.
- Don’t overdo accessories like wide-brimmed hats or hairstyles that get in the way. Guys appreciate natural beauty. Consider trying a kiss while your hair is tied up, so he focuses on you and the kiss rather than stray hairs tickling his face.
Find the right place to kiss. Public spaces aren’t ideal for a first kiss, as you might attract unwanted attention or interruptions. Look for a spot that’s public enough but still private for you two to share that special moment.
Ease your nerves by flirting through body language. This not only signals your interest but also gives him time to get comfortable with you, ensuring things don’t escalate too quickly.
- Hold his hand or wrap your arm around his neck. Move closer to him; it would feel awkward if you had to stretch too far to kiss him.
- Gently touch his hair or face to show your interest. Lightly brush his nose with your finger and smile at him.
- You could also start with a hug, then lean back slightly and move in for the kiss. This creates a natural connection from the moment you embrace.
Ensure you’re both ready for the kiss. This readiness is both physical and emotional. A kiss means, “I like you more than a friend,” and sometimes it’s hard to maintain a friendship after crossing that line. If you’re unsure, wait until you’re certain.
- Look into his eyes. When he looks back, slowly glance at his lips and return to his eyes. If he does the same, he’s ready. If he seems uncomfortable or avoids eye contact, it’s best to hold off.
While Kissing
Slowly bring your lips closer to his, closing your eyes at the last moment. You need to see to aim for his lips, but you don’t want to keep your eyes open during the kiss, so close them just before your lips meet.
- Keep your eyes closed while kissing. When the kiss ends, you can open them and gently pull away.
- Approach the kiss at a slight angle. If his face is straight, tilt yours slightly to the left or right, whichever feels more comfortable. This prevents your noses from bumping into each other.
Focus on using your lower lip during the kiss. Don’t pucker your lips like you’ve just eaten a sour gummy or are kissing your grandma. Keep your lips relaxed and natural.
- Give him a soft, lingering kiss. You don’t need to overdo it to make an impression the first time.
- Your goal is to leave him wanting more. Give him enough to stay interested, but not so much that he feels overwhelmed. Try to keep the first kiss under 20 seconds if possible.
- Breathe gently through your nose. Avoid breathing into his mouth or onto his lips.
- Don’t try French kissing on the first kiss. Save that for when you’re ready to really surprise him.
While kissing, try a gentle open-mouth kiss. Simply part your lips slightly and kiss his lower lip with yours. Don’t make it last too long—about 5 seconds—and be ready to pull back soon.
While kissing, place your hands on his back and lean into him. This way, you’re doubling the connection! If he puts his hands on your back or wraps them around your waist, it means he’s protective and you’ve likely succeeded!
- If he plays with your hair or gently strokes your cheek, it’s a sign he’s in tune with his emotions and definitely likes you.
- Remember to keep your eyes closed the entire time. No peeking! Your focus should be entirely on his lips and the kiss.
After the Kiss
When you pull away from the kiss, open your eyes. This is the moment to look at the guy you just shared a kiss with. If it went well, he’ll be blushing, his eyes slightly dazed, and he’ll be smiling.
- Smile back at him. He might be nervous about how he did, so you’ll want to reassure him that he did great. A simple smile can do that.
- If your hands are still around him, leave them there for a few seconds before pulling away. It would feel awkward to suddenly let go right after the kiss ends.
Say something nice about him, if you want. Sometimes the kiss speaks for itself. But other times, you might want to say something after the kiss, like:
- "You’re an amazing kisser."
- "I’ve wanted to do that for so long."
Listen to what your heart is telling you. So, you’ve finally kissed the guy you’ve been dying to kiss for the past six months. Now what? You have a few options:
- Wait for him to make the next move. If you initiated the first kiss, you might think it’s his turn to start the next one. Just be yourself, do what you normally do, but be friendly and supportive. He’ll try to kiss you again.
- Kiss him whenever you feel like it. Maybe you don’t care about who initiates the kiss—just go for it. That’s fine too, but make sure he’s comfortable with it. Kissing him often is more likely to lead to a relationship.
- Know when to stop kissing. Maybe he’s not a great kisser, or he touches you in ways you’re not okay with, or you just have a bad feeling about him. That’s perfectly fine. Be friendly around him, but avoid putting yourself in situations (like being alone in secluded places) where he might try to kiss you again.
Remember the unwritten rules of kissing. There are some unspoken guidelines you should know about kissing. Pay attention and try to follow them when possible and if you think they make sense.
- Don’t overshare about your love life. We know—it’s so tempting. But that doesn’t make it right. What happens between you and your crush is your business alone. Don’t gossip too much about it.
- Don’t kiss when you’re sick and contagious. Kissing is intimate, but it doesn’t mean your partner wants everything from you, including your cold. Try to avoid kissing when you’re feeling unwell.
- Kiss one person, not everyone. Kissing can be fun, but that doesn’t mean you should go around kissing anyone you want. Focus on someone you really like, give it a try, and move on if things don’t work out. You’ll be much more respected, and you’ll definitely be happier.
Tips
- Close your eyes: a guy or girl with wide-open eyes might give the impression they’re shocked or uncomfortable! Shut your eyes for a beautifully long first kiss.
- Different kissing cues have different meanings. Pay attention! When a guy holds you in various places, here’s what he’s trying to say:
- Hands on your waist — he’s smitten and wants to protect you.
- Arms around your back — he desires you and doesn’t want to let go. He feels comfortable with you.
- Hands on your arms — he wants to hold onto you and enjoys your presence.
- Arms around your neck — he’s craving more.
- Hands caressing your face — he’s infatuated and can’t get enough of you.
- Fingers running through your hair — he’s trying to be a gentleman.
- Hold him where you feel most confident. Remember to keep the kiss from lasting too long, as it’ll leave him wanting more next time.
- Make sure you’re in a place that’s not too public and that you’re comfortable with your surroundings.
- If you feel he’s touching you with bad intentions, you have every right to tell him to stop.
- Enjoy the moment. A first kiss is special. Don’t stress over anything; relax and let him embrace you.
- Let him lead the kiss but don’t be too passive. Guys like feeling in control, but make sure you’re also guiding the kiss. If something feels off, pull away.
- Keep a breath spray handy and use it before kissing him.
- You can also use mints instead of breath spray.
- Don’t tell him you’re about to kiss him. It might freak him out.
- Before kissing him, talk and ensure you genuinely want to kiss him. Don’t just go for it; he might feel confused, scared, or uncomfortable.
- Don’t feel shocked or embarrassed by what you’re doing. Everyone kisses; it’s not a big deal—if you love him, that’s all that matters!
Warnings
- If this is your first kiss, make sure it’s just the two of you. Kissing in front of friends can be awkward. You don’t want to feel like they’re staring at your kiss.
- Ensure you’re not doing this just because you feel there’s no other hope; make sure you truly like him. It’s not good to be known as someone who kisses anyone and everyone.
- Remember, if you feel uncomfortable, you have the right to pull away. Don’t do something you don’t want to!
- Make sure the other person is ready too. Don’t surprise them. Both of you should be aware of each other’s actions before the kiss.
- Always ensure the guy sharing your first kiss doesn’t misinterpret your intentions. Touching him inappropriately might make him think you want more than you’re ready for.
- Don’t chew gum; it makes you produce more saliva. While saliva has antibacterial properties, no one wants to feel like they’re kissing a dog.
- If you wear braces, make sure there are no sharp edges, or your partner might end up with a cut lip or tongue!
