Buzz
Kissing a guy for the first time can be quite nerve-wracking. The hardest part is likely figuring out when and how to initiate the kiss, but it’s actually easier than you think! Start by flirting with him to let him know how you feel. Then, when it’s just the two of you, slowly move closer and wait for a natural pause in the conversation to make your move. Gently place a sweet peck on his cheek and transition into a French kiss when you’re both ready.
Steps
First Kiss
Wait for a natural pause in the conversation. Choosing the right moment to kiss can be tricky! It’s best to wait for a natural lull in the conversation and lean in closer, preparing for a hug or a kiss. Let the conversation flow naturally, but stay close to him.
Look into his eyes. Be bold and gaze into his eyes, especially right before you move closer to give him a kiss. Looking deeply into his eyes is not only a romantic gesture but also helps you establish a genuine connection more easily.
Test the waters with a peck on the cheek. If you're unsure how he might react to a kiss on the lips, try kissing his cheek first. You can quickly plant a kiss on his cheek when he says something sweet, or lean in and linger for a few seconds to let him know how you feel.
- If he seems startled or pulls away, you might want to slow things down a bit.
Ask if you can kiss him if you're unsure. This might sound awkward, but it can turn into a sweet and endearing moment! Your guy will also be prepared for what’s coming, and you’ll avoid outright rejection if he’s not in the mood.
- Try saying, “Today was so fun. Can I kiss you now?” If you’re feeling bolder, you could even say, “Let’s kiss, okay?”
- Boundaries are important, so if you’re unsure, just ask.
Lean in, close your eyes, and tilt your head slightly. While you don’t have to close your eyes, it might feel a bit awkward if you keep staring at him! It’s best to just close your eyes. Additionally, tilt your head slightly to the side just before your lips meet.
Tip: Kissing is easier if one person’s mouth is slightly tilted to the side. This position also prevents your noses and teeth from bumping into each other!
Start by gently brushing your lips against his. Lightly glide your lips over his as you first make contact. Keep the pressure soft, moving slowly and tenderly. Keep your lips relaxed at this stage. If he seems into it, you can gradually intensify the kiss.
- Avoid pressing your lips too tightly, as this might make him think you’re not enjoying it.
Experiment with different types of kisses. Kisses don’t always have to be on the lips! Give your lips a break and try kissing his earlobe, neck, or the inside of his wrist. For something even more enticing, kiss the hollow of his neck near the collarbone.
- You can also take a breather by gently kissing his nose or forehead.
- Don’t rush! Go at a pace that feels comfortable for both of you.
French Kiss
Try using your tongue if it’s clear he wants more. Part your lips slightly, just enough to let your tongue slip through the gap between his lips. Gently run your tongue along his lower lip before pulling back.
Tip: Keep the pressure light and movements gentle. Remember, you can always build up to faster and more intense kisses later.
Use your tongue sparingly. Gently and slowly introduce your tongue into his mouth, pulling it back every few seconds. For example, you can touch your tongue to his and then retreat. Circle your tongue around his before withdrawing. If you don’t pull back occasionally, the kiss might feel too aggressive, and saliva could become an issue!
- Pulling back also gives you a chance to catch your breath.
Avoid biting or leaving hickeys. Lightly nibbling on his lower lip is fine, but avoid biting or letting your teeth get in the way. Gentle kisses along his jawline are great, but don’t suck on his neck like a vacuum cleaner. Most people aren’t fans of hickeys!
- Additionally, visible marks from your affection could cause trouble with parents. Keep it moderate!
Gently communicate your preferences. If he’s kissing too aggressively or too fast and you’re not into it, don’t stay silent! Pull back and softly say something like, “I don’t enjoy kissing like this,” then describe what you prefer. He’ll appreciate the guidance!
Use your hands skillfully while kissing. Don’t let your hands hang limp—use them to make the kiss even better! Pull him closer and try wrapping your arms around his shoulders, placing your hands on his hips, chest, or cheeks.
- You can also run your fingers through his hair.
- Stop if he seems uncomfortable with your touch.
Experiment with different techniques to keep things exciting. As you grow more comfortable, you can take things a step further. Try varying the intensity and speed of your kisses. Don’t stick to one technique for too long!
Leave him wanting more. Ending the kiss before it becomes monotonous is ideal. If you stop while the excitement is still high, he’ll immediately look forward to the next time! Pull away, look into his eyes, and smile before you part.
Flirting and Setting a Romantic Mood
Greet him when you see him and strike up a conversation. Instead of hesitantly asking how things are, prepare specific topics to keep the conversation flowing smoothly. Tell him about your upcoming plans or bring up an inside joke only the two of you understand. Remember to ask open-ended questions that can’t be answered with just “yes” or “no.”
- For example, you could say, “I heard you and your friends are going to the end-of-year costume party? That sounds fun. What are you planning to wear?”
- You could also say something like, “I couldn’t hear anything when the history teacher assigned the homework. Can you help me out?”
Find excuses to touch him lightly. Gentle touches can help you build the courage to break the physical barrier in a romantic way. For instance, during a conversation, you can lightly touch his arm when he says something funny or “accidentally” brush against him while walking side by side.
Offer sincere compliments. Everyone loves compliments, and this is a great way to show that you’ve been paying attention to him. Focus on a quality you genuinely admire—whether it’s his eyes, hair, or sense of humor—and let him know how much you appreciate it.
Tip: A good compliment doesn’t have to be complicated! Try saying something like, “Has anyone ever told you how effortlessly charming your hair looks?”
Maintain positive and open body language. Your posture can tell him how you’re feeling! Plus, it’ll make it much easier to lean in for a kiss, and he won’t be too surprised. Avoid crossing your arms, fidgeting with your fingers, or clasping your hands together. Instead, turn your body toward him.
- For example, when standing, point your feet in his direction. When sitting, angle your knees toward him.
- If you can’t stop fidgeting, place your hands behind your back to keep your front open and inviting.
Look for convenient opportunities to be alone with him. It doesn’t have to be completely private, but a little intimacy helps. For instance, if you’re hanging out with a group of friends, suggest stepping outside for some fresh air. If you’re in a public place, try finding a quieter, more secluded spot. For example, if you’re at a mall, look for a bench in a less crowded area.
- You could also invite him to walk home together or stop by his place to ask if he’d like to take a stroll.
- If you want to ensure it’s just the two of you, you can ask him out on a solo date.
Move a little closer to him. A kiss will feel more natural if you gradually close the distance between you. This subtle gesture also hints that you’re interested in getting closer, which is better than surprising him with a sudden move.
- If you’re sitting on a couch or in a car, scoot closer to him. When standing, take a small step forward to see if he pulls you in.
- You could also try holding his hand or resting your head on his shoulder.
Lean in for a hug to create a romantic moment. This works best when you’re about to say goodbye, but you can try it anytime, like while watching a movie together. Move closer, wrap your arms around his neck or shoulders, and hold the hug for 2-3 seconds before pulling away.
- You want an intimate moment, but don’t hug him for too long, or it might get awkward!
Tips
- Avoid glossy lipstick. It might look attractive, but it’s a nightmare for kissing!
- Don’t forget to breathe!
- If he’s mentioned wanting to kiss you, don’t hesitate to make the first move.
- If you’re not ready, there’s no obligation to kiss him.
- Experiment with different techniques in future kisses to discover what he enjoys most.
- If the first kiss doesn’t go as planned, try a different approach next time.
- Make sure you genuinely like him first; otherwise, things might feel awkward. Practice kissing with your fingers beforehand. Avoid using your tongue for the first kiss. Also, smile afterward and keep the kiss brief.
- If you wear glasses, take them off before kissing. They can get in the way and sometimes cause discomfort.
- Exfoliate your lips and apply lip balm before meeting him to ensure they’re soft and inviting.
