Buzz
If you're fond of someone and reasonably confident that they feel the same way, you might be wondering if it's time to share your first kiss. The first kiss is always filled with emotion, but it's natural to feel nervous and uncertain about what to do. In fact, the other person may be feeling the exact same way. When you're ready, pick the right moment, like during a date, and gently touch them before leaning in for the kiss. Once it's over, you can hold their hand or linger a little longer to share a sweet moment.
Steps
Set the Scene
Choose the right environment for your first kiss. No matter how excited you are, it's important to pick a time and place where both of you feel comfortable. Wait until it's just the two of you, with no distractions around. Then, check in with the other person to make sure they're feeling at ease and happy.
- For example, it wouldn't be a good idea to kiss someone who is busy with something or feeling upset.
- A perfect setting for a first kiss could be during a date or at a school dance.
Flirt a little to set the mood for the kiss. Smile at them, open your arms wide to avoid seeming closed off. Lightly touch their hand, arm, or thigh if they're comfortable with it. Don't forget to compliment them, ask questions, and listen to their responses.
- Observe their body language to see if they are flirting back. If they look into your eyes, smile, maintain an open posture, and chat more, it means they are flirting with you too.
- On the other hand, if you notice them pulling away, crossing their arms, or looking down, slow down and give them some space.
Apply lip balm, but avoid sticky lip gloss. No one wants to kiss dry, cracked lips, so remember to use lip balm for soft and smooth lips. Opt for a scent-free balm as they might not like the fragrance.
- Sticky lip gloss can feel awkward and unnatural. Stick to regular lip balm instead.
- If you normally wear lipstick, you can still kiss with it on, but choose a long-lasting, non-smudging formula. Also, don't apply lipstick right before the kiss.
Chew a mint or gum to freshen your breath. Bad breath can cause someone to pull away, so be polite to the person you want to kiss. Chew a mint or gum to freshen your breath before the kiss.
- Opt for sugar-free gum or mints, as sugar can worsen bad breath.
- Carry a pack of gum or mints so you're always prepared to freshen your breath before a kiss.
Tip: If you're planning to kiss at the end of the day, avoid foods with strong odors like garlic, onions, and dairy.
Lean in for the kiss
Gently touch them to initiate physical contact. Start by touching their arm or shoulder. Then, move your hand to their hair or face and lightly touch for a few seconds. When you feel ready, gently tuck their hair behind their ear, place your hand on their shoulder, or softly cup their cheek.
- You can also try draping your arm over their shoulder.
- Take it slow with the touches. Begin with small gestures like holding their hand, and only continue if you see them smile and lean towards you.
Tip: If you change your mind and don’t want to kiss anymore, that’s perfectly fine. Feeling tense or second-guessing yourself is normal. If this happens, you can deflect the situation by asking them something like, “Remember when we talked about playing a game together?” or “I wonder what everyone is up to. Should we step outside to check?” or “I’m getting hungry! Want to grab something to eat?”
Look into their eyes to express your feelings. Catch their gaze and hold it for about 1-3 seconds, then look away for a few seconds. Continue to glance at them but avoid staring.
- If they make eye contact with you, it’s likely they’re into you and might be open to the kiss.
- If they avoid your gaze, they may not be ready for the kiss.
Ask if they want to kiss. The best way to ensure both of you are on the same page is to ask. Though it might feel a bit nerve-wracking, it’s also quite romantic. Here are a few suggestions:
- “Can I kiss you?”
- “May I have a kiss?”
- “Would you like me to kiss you?”
Tip: If you’re too shy to ask, that’s okay too! Many people feel awkward asking for a kiss. You could consider writing a sweet note instead, like “Can I kiss you?” or “Would it be okay if we kissed?”
Move closer to that person. Decrease the space between you by edging closer or leaning toward them. Afterward, wait for them to move closer to you, a gesture indicating they might want to kiss you too.
- If they move away, it suggests they may not be interested in kissing. It's best to stop and give them space.
Tilt your head away from the other person. Observe if they tilt their head to the left or right, then tilt yours in the opposite direction. This posture helps avoid bumping noses during the kiss.
- You don't need to tilt your head much. Just enough to ensure your nose isn't directly in front of theirs.
Close your eyes when leaning in and kiss. When their lips are close to yours, gently shut your eyes and keep them closed until the kiss is over. This can make them feel more comfortable during the kiss.
- If you kiss with your eyes open and stare, they may feel awkward. Also, the mood could drop if you open your eyes mid-kiss.
Part your lips and press them to theirs. Relax your lips; don't keep them stiff. Remember to tilt your head slightly to avoid bumping noses. Gently kiss them for a few seconds, ensuring you don't leave any saliva behind.
- You can close your lips during the kiss.
- Avoid opening your mouth or using your tongue while kissing.
Place both hands behind their head or on their waist. Where you place your hands while kissing can sometimes make the other person nervous. Try placing both hands behind their head. You can play with their hair or caress their neck as you kiss.
- You can place your hands elsewhere, but these are ideal spots when you're kissing for the first time.
End the kiss
Separate to catch your breath. Don't keep kissing for more than a few seconds. Stop and move apart slightly. Take a moment to breathe and reflect on what just happened.
- You can kiss again, but it's best to take a short break first.
Smile at them to show you enjoyed the kiss. Remember, they might be feeling just as nervous as you. Let them know you liked the kiss by looking at them and smiling.
- You could also hold hands or wrap your arms around them.
Only kiss again if the other person seems ready. Look into their eyes and lean in again. Wait to see if they lean in too. If you're unsure, you can ask if they want a second kiss.
- Say “Would you like to kiss again?” or “Shall we do it again?”
- Only kiss again if you feel like it. You’re not obligated to if you don't feel the urge.
Caress or hold their hand a few minutes after kissing. After the kiss, show some affection. Hug, hold hands, or lean into them. Do whatever feels right to make both of you feel comfortable.
- Relax and enjoy the moment together. You could watch a movie, chat, or take a walk.
Nói gì đó về nụ hôn khi bạn đã sẵn sàng. Có thể bạn còn đang choáng ngợp hoặc hồi hộp sau khi hôn; như vậy cũng không sao. Cũng có thể bạn thực sự phấn khích và vui vẻ. Dù sao đi nữa, bạn cũng hãy nói với người ấy về trải nghiệm vừa rồi khi bạn cảm thấy sẵn sàng, ngay sau khi hôn hoặc sau một khoảng thời gian trong ngày hoặc đêm hôm đó.
- Ví dụ, bạn có thể nói “Anh đã chờ đợi được hôn em từ rất lâu rồi”, “Nụ hôn thật tuyệt vời”, hoặc “Anh hôn giỏi lắm”.
- Bạn không cần phải nói ngay sau khi hôn. Đợi một khoảng thời gian cũng được.
Liên lạc lại với người ấy vào ngày hôm sau. Nhắn tin, gọi điện hoặc trò chuyện với người ấy để hỏi xem họ thế nào. Cho người ấy biết là bạn mong đợi buổi hẹn hò tiếp theo hoặc đi chơi thêm nữa. Và đừng quên nói rằng bạn rất thích nụ hôn đó.
- Nhớ rằng bạn không buộc phải luôn luôn ưng thuận hôn sau khi đã có nụ hôn đầu. Bạn có thể đợi một thời gian mới hôn lần nữa. Mặt khác, nếu bạn háo hức chờ đợi cơ hội để có một nụ hôn nữa thì cũng là điều hoàn toàn tự nhiên.
- Hãy nói gì đó như “Đêm qua vui lắm. Nụ hôn thật là ngọt ngào. Anh có muốn đưa em từ trường về nhà sau khi tan học không?”
Lời khuyên
- Hãy thả lỏng. Nhờ thế nụ hôn của bạn sẽ càng tuyệt vời hơn.
- Nụ hôn đầu có vụng về một chút thì cũng là bình thường. Hãy cứ cố gắng tận hưởng khoảnh khắc đó.
- Cảm giác hồi hộp khi hôn ai đó lần đầu rất thường xảy ra.
- Nếu bạn cảm thấy hồi hộp, hãy nói với họ về cảm giác của bạn. Có lẽ người kia cũng lo lắng không kém gì bạn.
Cảnh báo
- Avoid kissing someone who shows signs of illness, such as coughing or sneezing. Don’t kiss someone with sores around their mouth either. Although it may just be a pimple, they could be suffering from herpes, a contagious infection.
