Buzz
There are various reasons why we kiss each other, whether to express affection or for a special occasion. It could be a casual kiss on the cheek, a mother's kiss on her child's forehead, or a deep, passionate kiss on the lips. However, there are moments when you want to show your intense feelings, and not every kiss can achieve that. In such cases, if you don't know how to kiss properly, it can become awkward and overly wet. On the other hand, if you master a few techniques and have the ability to feel the moment, a kiss can become the best way to express affection.
Steps
Before Kissing
Maintain Fresh, Minty Breath. Typically, brushing your teeth thoroughly is enough, but you can also chew a mint before kissing if you're unsure about your breath. Just remember to finish the candy before kissing!
- Be careful, as some mints can leave an aftertaste that might make your breath worse. Water is the safest option! It doesn't leave any flavor after drinking, freshens your mouth, and ensures you're not thirsty.
Kiss with confidence. You should kiss on the cheek so that your partner will also tilt their head toward your kiss. If you choose the right moment, your partner will definitely not refuse, especially if it's your first kiss with them. So, be confident and decisive. If they don't want to kiss, they'll let you know after the kiss, so act with professionalism when you kiss.
Prepare the right mindset. If you truly want an intense kiss, you need to mentally prepare yourself. This doesn't mean you have to lay rose petals all over the place or light many candles, but you should choose a place where you won’t be distracted while kissing, so that you can fully focus on your partner (and the kiss as well).
While Kissing
Lean in and slightly tilt your head. Leaning in signals your desire to kiss, and tilting your head prevents your noses from touching each other.
Start slowly. Don't rush to push your tongue into their mouth immediately. Instead, gently press your lips against theirs. Close your eyes to enhance the intimacy and to avoid staring at the pores on their nose. Think of it as adjusting the brightness of your eyes with a dimmer switch.
Prolong the kiss. Kiss her once, gently, and hold it for a few seconds. Then, slowly pull your lips away, but keep them close enough to almost touch. This lingering effect will gradually heighten the emotions and completely capture her focus.
Slightly part your lips. Once the kiss is agreed upon, slowly part your lips. If your partner follows your lead, try adjusting the width of your lips (wider or more closed) during the kiss. You can also use your tongue to explore your partner's lips and mouth. There are no rules—just move in a harmonious rhythm.
- Remember, there's a fine line between a passionate kiss and an overly wet one. To check how moist your kiss might be, kiss the back of your hand as you would kiss your partner, slightly parting your lips. Normally, the kiss will leave a light moisture that dries in a few seconds. If your hand gets wetter than that or leaves a large wet circle, you may want to dial it back.
Try the French kiss. Perhaps you've heard of the French kiss and want to give it a try. To do it, gently slide your tongue into your partner's mouth and let your tongues dance together.
Build up the emotion
Turn up the intensity. After kissing for a while, you can take it a step further. Between kisses, gently bite your partner's lower lip and continue to lightly press your teeth against their lip when pulling away. (Avoid sucking or biting too hard unless they enjoy that.)
Move towards the neck. If everything is going well, you should try to add some spice to the kiss. Lower your head to kiss or gently bite your partner's neck.
Don't leave your hands idle. It's rare, if ever, to see an intense kiss where both partners keep their hands hanging loosely. At the very least, you should embrace them or pull them close to you. You can also slide your hands into their hair, caress their back, hips, or another part of their body. Wrapping your arms around your partner can also be quite an enticing gesture!
- You should find an appropriate place to place your hands, depending on the level of your relationship, the desire between you, and the signals your partner is giving, whether directly stated or implicitly understood.
Try the 10-second kiss. Some people feel that a kiss should last at least 10 seconds to create an emotional connection between the two. So, try extending the kiss longer, remembering to regulate your breathing and close your eyes.
Don't let yourself get distracted by anything. Never let yourself be distracted by what's happening around you—whether it's fireworks going off behind you (a perfect time for a kiss) or people walking by at the airport (a bittersweet feeling, saying goodbye or meeting after a long time). If you look around while kissing, your partner might feel rejected, and the natural flow of the moment will break. No matter what happens, don’t let anything distract you—focus solely on the kiss and your partner, because nothing is more captivating than being kissed.
Tips
- Keep your body pressed close together when kissing.
- Avoid kissing too intensely, especially if you're wearing braces, as it can cause discomfort for your partner.
- Stay away from foods that can cause bad breath, like garlic and onions.
- For fresh breath, it's a good idea to clean your tongue with a soft-bristled toothbrush and water. Gently scrub the surface of your tongue until it's fully clean, then rinse with water.
- Don't let distractions like noise or worries take you out of the moment. Focus on the emotion of the kiss.
Warning
- If your kiss is rejected, stop immediately and respect the other person's wishes. Also, stop if your partner seems uncomfortable during the kiss.
