Buzz
A kiss for someone you love is often distinct from a kiss after a casual date or with someone you've just met. Many imagine a perfect first kiss because they deeply care about their partner. This might not be your first time kissing someone you love, but you likely always want to express your affection through your kisses. While not every kiss mirrors the classic "first kiss" seen in movies, it still carries a sweet and captivating essence.
Steps
Recognize the Signals
Determine if you're ready. The first kiss in any relationship often elevates it to a new level, so ensure you're prepared before taking action. You might be friends, but you genuinely care and want to take things further, or you're already dating and ready to express your feelings. In any case, you wouldn't want to act without careful consideration.
- While kissing someone might not seem like a big deal to you, kissing someone you love goes beyond casual flirtation. In this case, ensure you're trustworthy, meaning you're serious about the relationship, one with potential.
- It's truly sweet to confess your feelings to a friend or loved one with a kiss. This action genuinely advances the relationship, showing thoughtfulness and seriousness about your feelings.
- If you realize you're falling for a close friend and want to kiss him, consider the possible outcomes. You wouldn't want to ruin the friendship or make him uncomfortable, so assess if your friendship is at a favorable point.
- The key to understanding your feelings is being willing to take the risk of confessing, regardless of the outcome.
Observe your friend or loved one. Along with deciding when you're ready, you should also determine if they are willing to kiss you. Pay attention to their behavior to see if they are on the same page.
- Is he flirting with you? Is he showing romantic interest through his gestures? Does he seem serious about the relationship? Is he spending more time with you than usual? Does he help you without being asked? These signs indicate he might have feelings for you or at least is attracted to you.
- This step mainly helps you avoid disappointment in a relationship. Kissing someone who doesn't share your feelings can lead to embarrassment and hurt, so before taking action, ensure you trust that he will reciprocate your feelings.
Get to know him well. This doesn't mean you need to understand him physically, but before kissing someone you love, you should be aware of their emotions, as this will make the kiss more exciting and meaningful. Kissing someone you love is different from kissing someone during intimacy, as you want to make it special and potentially deeply inspiring for them.
- If you don't know someone well at this point, take the time to understand them. You might be attracted to how he interacts with others but haven't had the chance to truly know him. Spending time to discover his true self will make the kiss more special.
Set the Scene
Choose a location. Kissing someone you love in a romantic setting is the key to a special and captivating kiss. It doesn't have to be a clichéd romantic scene like a horse-drawn carriage ride, but it should feel sweet and appealing to you. Think of some special places you've been together or spots you find romantic. Plan to kiss them at one of these locations.
- Some romantic locations include parks with lakes or ponds, a quiet corner of a restaurant, the beach, under a starry sky, atop a building with a great view, etc.
- Often, the best kisses happen in private and quiet places to avoid distractions. However, you can kiss them in a lively spot if you find it exciting.
Plan a special date. You can kiss someone anywhere, but to add meaning, plan an exciting date to create sweet and passionate moments. As mentioned earlier, choose a romantic location and plan a date that both you and your partner truly enjoy. You might find romance not in roses and candles but in shared favorite sports events. Whatever you think will make the date exciting, plan the evening around those ideas.
- When together, you'll need the right moment to get closer. If you're constantly interrupted, it's not an ideal place for a kiss. Plan the date in places where you can be close and intimate with them.
Make the relationship unique. The most romantic moments in a relationship can also be the most profound, especially when you plan a date or give a meaningful gift. Don’t just stick to a classic "date night"—do something fun and unique. Take them to the place where you first met or where you realized you were in love with them.
- For example, for a couple who loves reading, a quiet corner in an old library can become a romantic spot for kisses. Or if they enjoy outdoor activities, kissing in a canoe could be incredibly sweet.
- If you think they’d enjoy a classic date night, go for it! There’s no perfect formula for an ideal date, so do whatever you think they’ll love.
Drop hints throughout the week. Leaving small hints or messages throughout the week will build excitement for the upcoming date. Let them know how excited you are for the date, or send sweet messages with compliments or expressions of your feelings.
Take the initiative. If you’re not usually the planner, choosing the time and place for a date might feel a bit mechanical. In this case, kiss your special someone at the right moment. You don’t need to plan a perfect date—when you’re with the person you love, look at them, feel the emotions rising, and act in the moment!
Prepare for the Kiss
Look your best. Before kissing someone you love, you need to look your best to make the moment truly special and meaningful. If you usually hang out in a t-shirt and sweatpants, try dressing up in a new style with slacks or a cute dress, and tidy up your hair. This can make you more attractive to them, turning the kiss into a more romantic and passionate experience.
- Consider using perfume or cologne to make them want to get closer to you.
Check your breath and lips. Before kissing someone, ensure your breath is fresh and your lips aren’t chapped. If you’ve just eaten, chew some mint gum for fresher breath or brush your teeth if you have time. Apply lip balm if your lips are drier than usual.
Move closer to your loved one. Now that you seem ready, it’s time to take action. During the date or wherever you are, become more intimate by closing the distance between you. Consider sitting close, putting your arm around her, or holding her hand.
Look into her eyes. This is the secret to expressing your love and making your kiss special. Eye contact can be powerful, as people who understand each other often use it to convey deep emotions. Looking into someone’s eyes also shows seriousness and builds trust.
Speak softly to her. Show how much you care and how important she is to you by expressing your feelings through sweet words. Share what you admire about her or compliment the qualities you truly appreciate. This will deepen your connection and make the kiss sweeter and more meaningful.
Move in. Start by looking into her eyes. Then, gently caress her face or brush her hair behind her ear. Now, lean in to kiss her. Slowly bring your face close to hers so your lips are almost touching but not quite, creating anticipation. Finally, softly kiss her sweet lips.
Assess the situation. After taking the first step and kissing the person you love, wait a few seconds to gauge their reaction. They might genuinely enjoy it and start kissing you back, or they could seem hesitant. Regardless, after the first kiss, let them take the next steps.
- If this isn’t your first time kissing them, try increasing the intimacy. Instead of a direct kiss, start by kissing their cheeks and forehead. This gentle approach can be incredibly endearing.
- Avoid using your tongue during the first kiss to ensure they’re comfortable. Once you sense they’re receptive, you can gradually introduce a French kiss.
