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If you're between 12-15 years old and feeling nervous about kissing someone during your teenage years, that's completely fine! These feelings are entirely normal, and your first kiss doesn’t have to be stressful. Kiss someone when you feel ready and genuinely like them. When the moment feels right, lean in about 90%, and let the other person meet you halfway. After the kiss, act naturally! Everyone experiences their first kiss at some point, so there’s no need to overthink it.
Steps
Find Someone to Kiss
Get to know someone you find genuinely cute and interesting. Look for a person who captures your attention. Maybe they’re charming, smart, funny, or unique. Start a conversation to build a friendship, and begin flirting to show your interest. This could be a classmate or someone you meet in an after-school club.
- This might take time, but you’ll appreciate sharing a kiss with someone you truly like.
- To flirt, try cracking jokes, giving compliments, and maintaining eye contact.
Pay attention to body language to see if they want to kiss you. In most cases, if someone likes you, you’ll notice. Signs include frequent smiling, teasing, playful behavior, or light touching. These are good indicators that the other person might be thinking about kissing you too.
- If they brush their hair back or touch their face, it could be a sign they’re interested.
- If they joke around a lot and try to make you laugh, they might be considering a kiss.
Kiss someone when you’re ready, no matter your age. Between 12-15 years old, many people experience their first kiss. Don’t feel pressured by peers who’ve already kissed someone, and don’t rush into it if you’re nervous. Your instincts will tell you when the time is right.
- It’s completely normal to feel jittery or anxious about kissing someone.
- If someone wants to kiss you but you’re not ready, simply say, “Sorry, I’m not ready” or “I’m not comfortable with this right now.”
Play kissing games with friends if you’re struggling to find someone. Another way to find someone to kiss is by playing games like “Truth or Dare” or “Spin the Bottle.” You might kiss someone randomly or ask a friend to help you kiss someone you like. Many people have their first kiss through games, so this is an option if you’re curious.
- For example, tell a friend you like someone, and they might dare that person to kiss you during the game.
- If you play these games, be prepared to kiss someone. Make sure you’re comfortable with the idea beforehand.
Moisturize your lips and keep your breath fresh
Brush your teeth before kissing to ensure fresh breath. Bad breath can make a kiss unpleasant. To avoid this, brush your teeth twice a day for two minutes. If you know you might kiss someone, brush your teeth before meeting them.
- You can also use mouthwash for extra freshness. Swish it around for 30 seconds or longer.
- To keep your breath fresh throughout the day, chew mint gum or suck on a mint.
Apply lip balm regularly to prevent dry lips. To keep your lips soft and kissable, use lip balm 1-3 times a day. Lip balm hydrates your lips and prevents dryness, ensuring they stay smooth and ready for a kiss.
- For example, apply lip balm after brushing your teeth in the morning and/or right before bed.
Avoid using lip gloss before kissing to prevent messiness. While lip gloss can make your lips look shiny and inviting, it can also create an unpleasant sticky feeling during a kiss. If you plan to kiss someone, skip the lip gloss that day.
- You can also gently wipe your lips before kissing.
Initiating the Kiss
Choose a private or quiet spot to avoid distractions. Ideally, find a place with fewer people around so you can focus entirely on the kiss. For instance, this could be outside school, at a park, a mall, or at home.
- Avoid kissing at school. This could be considered “public displays of affection” and might get you into trouble.
- Don’t kiss when your parents or their parents are around. Since you’re still a teenager, they might not approve.
Flirt to make them feel more comfortable. If the other person seems nervous, do your best to help them relax. You can look into their eyes and smile, tell them a funny story or joke, or tease them about something silly.
- This helps them feel at ease and makes the kiss less awkward.
- For example, say something like, “You have really beautiful eyes,” or “I really like your shirt,” to compliment them.
- You can also use playful wordplay, such as, “Knock knock!” “Who’s there?” “It’s me!” “Me who?” “Me, who’s about to kiss you if you open this door!”
Slowly move your face closer to theirs, covering about 90% of the distance. When kissing, maintain eye contact, tilt your head in the opposite direction, and gently bring your lips closer. Close your eyes as you reach their lips, and stop about 3 cm away to let them respond.
- If you tilt your head the same way as them, you might accidentally bump heads.
Let them cover the remaining 10% to ensure they want to kiss you too. Pause briefly and allow them to close the gap. This ensures mutual consent and adds a playful, less awkward dynamic to the kiss.
- If they pull away, stop and apologize. It’s okay if they’re not ready. You can say, “Sorry, I didn’t mean to make you uncomfortable.”
Apply gentle pressure when your lips meet. To enjoy the kiss, slightly pucker your lips as they kiss back, and keep it brief—around 2-5 seconds. Avoid kissing too hard, as it might make them uncomfortable.
- It doesn’t need to be a long kiss, as that could make it more awkward.
Ending the Kiss
Avoid using your tongue for your first kiss. Aim for a quick, sweet kiss without adding tongue or too much pressure. Afterward, turn your head away. Using tongue can feel messy or overwhelming, especially when you’re new to kissing.
- If you’re young, focus on keeping it simple. Over time, you can explore passionate kissing.
Compliment them to boost their confidence. After kissing, you can say things like, “Wow, you’re a great kisser,” “You’re really good at this,” or “I really enjoyed that.” This reassures them that you liked the moment and helps ease back into conversation.
- You can also ask, “Can I kiss you again?” before going in for another one.
Continue the conversation after the kiss to avoid awkwardness. To help both of you feel less nervous, aim to keep the conversation natural. For example, if you were talking about weekend plans, ask them more about it. You can also bring up a new topic, like an upcoming game or event.
- If you both stay silent after the kiss, it might feel uncomfortable or make you overthink the moment.
- The length of the conversation depends on the situation. If you’re saying goodbye and need to leave, chat for 1-5 minutes before politely excusing yourself.
- If you’re playing a kissing game, just continue the game and let the next person take their turn.
Tips
- If all your friends have had their first kiss, don’t feel pressured to kiss someone. There’s no deadline for your first kiss.
- Watch movie kissing scenes for inspiration and ideas.
- Chew gum throughout the day to keep your breath fresh. Watermelon or mint flavors are great options.
- If you’re ready to kiss someone, start a romantic conversation. This will make them more likely to want to kiss you too, rather than you doing all the work.
- Don’t believe everything you see in movies! Those scenes are staged. Just enjoy the moment instead of trying to replicate a movie scene.
Warnings
- Never kiss someone if they’re not completely comfortable with the situation.
