Buzz
Have you ever felt nervous when it comes to kissing your boyfriend? Are you worried that your kiss won't be good? Do you fear that you might do it wrong? If so, would you like to improve your kissing skills? Read on to discover how to have a truly valuable kiss.
Steps
Make Him Want to Kiss You
Flirt, build the relationship, and date each other to create chemistry. Never kiss your boyfriend if you don't understand each other well. Talk, plan together, and spend quality time together, fostering attraction and emotional connection. Private moments will create more opportunities for that perfect kiss.
- Since most people don’t kiss in public, it’s essential to consider whether you feel comfortable in private spaces, not only for the kiss but also for your relationship.
Use body language to signal your desire to kiss him. Send the message to your guy by standing close, turning your shoulder toward him, and leaning in when he speaks.
- Twisting your hair, taking off your jacket, and making eye contact will let him know you're opening up to him.
- Avoid crossing your arms, crossing your legs, or looking down, as this will make you seem distant and unapproachable.
Break the "physical barrier". You'll find it easier to kiss a guy you've already touched, so find ways to make physical contact before thinking about kissing him. Playing with his hair, holding hands, or gently brushing his cheek are gestures that can signal you're ready for a kiss.
- The perfect first step is to let your shoulders brush when you’re watching a movie or TV together.
Try to dress and behave appropriately. While you don't have to chase the latest fashion trends, spending a little time making yourself look more attractive will let him know you're interested and ready for a romantic connection.
- Apply a light fragrance to your body. Scent is one of the strongest subconscious senses for both men and women, but make sure to use just a moderate amount of perfume. No one likes to be overwhelmed by a strong scent.
- Protect your lips with balm or wax to keep them soft and alluring.
Find a quiet and private place. If this is your first kiss, step outside to find a comfortable space or cuddle up on the couch. Eliminate any tension from being in public and enjoy the moment together – more frequently at first, and then less over time, allowing the right moment for a kiss to come naturally.
Seize the Moment
Position your body correctly for the kiss. It’s relatively easy to kiss when standing, but if you’re sitting, turn so your shoulder aligns with his.
- Move your hips so they face him directly.
- Lean in a little closer so you're not suddenly facing him head-on.
Say something to show him you're interested in the kiss. You don't need to be poetic to create an effect. Be sincere and gentle by saying something like, "You look really attractive," "I really enjoy being with you," or "Would you mind if I got a little closer?"
- If you can’t think of anything clever or feel brave enough, just ask him if he wants to kiss you. Many guys appreciate that boldness.
Lean in closer to him. This is a clear sign that you want to kiss him, and it’s a good one! Smile softly and don't be afraid to stay close for a few seconds. You can gauge his interest based on his reaction to you.
- If he leans away or turns his face, it could mean he’s not interested.
Move forward! If he’s leaning in, looking at your lips, and lightly touching your hair, lean in and kiss him first. There's no reason for the guy to always make the first move.
If he's looking into your eyes and then at your lips, he might want to kiss you. If he leans in, go with it.
Kiss Your Guy
Slightly tilt your head to avoid your noses bumping into each other. Lean your head a little to the side to avoid any awkward collisions.
Make eye contact to keep the kiss on track. Close your eyes once you're close to his lips. This not only helps avoid any awkwardness, but it also makes the kiss feel more romantic.
Close your eyes once your lips make contact. At this point, staring at your partner up close typically feels awkward.
Kiss him! Keep your lips soft and gentle. Start with a light kiss, but pay attention to both your feelings and how he reacts.
- Don’t press your lips too tightly. Stiff lips signal disinterest or discomfort. Aim for a feeling like your lips are gently pressed against a soft peach.
- Kiss slowly, then pull away after 2-3 seconds to gauge his reaction. If he responds positively, continue with another kiss for a few more seconds.
Use the rest of your body to guide him. Pull him closer, place a hand on the back of his neck, or intertwine your fingers with his.
- If you're unsure what to do, place your hand on his hip or shoulder.
Find New Ways to Kiss
Try different kissing styles. As you both get more comfortable with each other, increase the intensity, rhythm, and duration of your kisses to discover what he enjoys.
- Move your lips closer to his.
- Kiss him three to four times in a row without pulling too far away each time.
- Continue with longer kisses, holding for 3-5 seconds, then 5-8 seconds.
- Kiss his neck, cheek, or ear.
- Don't change the kiss too quickly or aggressively. Try subtle changes slowly and gradually.
If you both seem ready, move on to an open-mouth kiss. Open-mouth kissing, or tongue kissing, can be more exciting and passionate than a regular kiss. Start by:
- Gently licking the tip of his tongue, then slide down to his lower tongue.
- Lightly nibble his lower lip.
- Lean your head slightly to one side. Open-mouth kissing is easier if your noses aren't aligned!
- Slightly part your lips to invite him in.
- Gently slide your tongue into his mouth.
- If he responds or opens his mouth, it means he wants to do the same, so continue experimenting with this style of kiss.
Talk to each other about what you like. Communication is key in every aspect of a relationship, and kissing is no exception. Saying something simple like, "I like this," or "Let’s try that," will ensure your partner knows how to keep you happy.
Advice
- If you have long hair, avoid letting it touch your lips, and keep it from falling into your face.
- If you're chewing gum, make sure to discard it so it doesn’t end up in his mouth.
- Always take your time with a kiss to preserve its specialness.
- Don’t forget to smile at him after the kiss, or whisper something sweet in his ear before letting him go.
- Don’t let friends tease or disrupt your relationship. Kiss for each other, not for the audience.
- Always carry minty candy with you, just in case an unexpected kiss happens!
- Avoid kissing in front of your parents, siblings, and try not to kiss in front of friends. It’s best to be alone or in a dark room. Elevators, bathrooms, hallways, or other secluded spots can make for the perfect kiss locations.
Warnings
- Make sure you always brush your teeth!
- Don’t let your hands hang limp while kissing; keep them around his neck, gently caressing his face as you hold him.
- If you think he’s a great kisser, give him the chance to prove it.
- As you approach him, it’s normal to feel nervous. Stay calm and just focus on how much you like him.
- If you’re unsure when to pull away, let him decide!
