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It’s both painful and confusing when you start suspecting that your girlfriend may be cheating via text messages, especially when all you’ve ever wanted is to offer her your love and trust completely. But recently, something about her behavior has seemed off, and it could be due to you paying too much attention to her texting habits or it could be that she's deceiving you. We understand how disorienting this feeling can be, which is why we’ve compiled a list of signs that might indicate she’s talking to someone else through text messages. Read on to find out what might be happening and what steps you should take.
Steps to take
She texts constantly.
Increased frequency of texting might be a sign of cheating. People who cheat often start texting more frequently, which could indicate she is talking to someone else.
- Don’t immediately assume that frequent texting means infidelity. It's possible your girlfriend is simply comforting a friend who is going through a tough time, for example.
She clings to her phone and never lets it go.
She openly carries her phone everywhere - even to the bathroom. Not only is she texting more frequently, but she also takes her phone everywhere, even when she doesn't need it. She may not want you to see the message notifications, or perhaps she is eagerly awaiting a message from someone and wants to respond immediately.
She hides the screen of her phone from you.
Turning the phone screen away from you or quickly turning it off are suspicious behaviors. She might flip the phone face down to hide the notifications or turn off the lock screen notifications altogether. This could be a sign she’s texting someone else and doesn’t want you to know. She may also be secretive about the screen of her computer if she uses it for messaging.
- For example, if she’s texting and you sit next to her, she might quickly change the screen or leave the room altogether.
- Hiding the screen doesn’t necessarily mean she’s cheating—she could just be responding to a private matter.
She has set a password on her phone.
Suddenly setting a password on her phone is a red flag. It could be that she never had a password before, or she suddenly changed it to a new one that you don't know. If that's the case, she may be intentionally hiding something to prevent you from reading her messages.
- Everyone deserves privacy, and if she wants to set a password, that's perfectly normal. So don't jump to the conclusion that setting a password means she’s hiding something from you.
She deletes all her messages.
Deleting phone messages, social media conversations, and browsing history is a warning sign. You might catch her doing this yourself, or you might notice it later, even when she hands you her phone. This could indicate she is trying to cover up the evidence that she’s texting someone else with content that’s not exactly innocent.
- If she uses a computer for communication, you may notice that she frequently deletes her browsing history or email conversations.
- She could also delete messages for other reasons, like clearing space on her phone or computer.
She takes longer to reply to your messages.
She might be spending time with someone else. If she used to reply to your texts quickly, this change might be a sign that she’s prioritizing someone else. She seems more distant now, but the reason is unclear.
- For example, she may not respond to your messages in the morning, leaving them unanswered until the afternoon, even though you know she has a free day.
- Be cautious, though, as she might just be taking time to relax or enjoy a personal hobby.
She changes the way she texts.
Has she become distant or noticeably withdrawn? Lately, she seems emotionally detached, no longer as excited, and even seems irritable. When talking, she’s less detailed than before? This could be a sign that she’s no longer investing in your relationship because she’s preoccupied texting someone else, or she might be justifying her behavior by blaming you.
- For instance, she used to send good morning and good night texts every day, or send you lots of hearts and call you cute nicknames—but now she doesn’t do that anymore.
- It’s possible she’s just going through some personal issues or experiencing a crisis. Consider checking in with her if you’re concerned about her well-being.
She avoids when you bring it up.
Avoiding the issue is a sign something might be off. Whether you casually hint that you have something to talk about, or subtly ask questions, she seems uncooperative. This could be an indication she’s texting someone else and doesn’t want it to be noticed.
- For example, if you ask who she’s texting, she might simply say, 'No one.'
Ask her directly if you’re really worried.
Have an open conversation with your girlfriend about the issue. If she’s texting non-stop and things seem off, ask her directly who she’s talking to and what’s going on. Make it clear that she doesn’t need to share details if it’s a personal matter, but you just want to make sure you’re not misunderstanding or overthinking the situation.
- Texting has become such a normal part of daily communication that, even if she’s texting someone else, she might not consider it to be cheating.
Advice
- Even if you notice some of the signs mentioned above, there could be a reasonable explanation for everything. Try to avoid jumping to conclusions. If you’re really concerned, the best approach is to ask her directly.
- Don’t invade your girlfriend’s privacy by secretly checking her phone. Everyone deserves their own personal space, so it’s better to have an open conversation with her instead.
