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If you're bisexual or a lesbian and you're interested in a girl, take a look at these helpful tips. Before you start, it's important to note that the term 'bisexual' can have different meanings depending on the person. Some people define bisexuality as being attracted to both men and women, while others believe it's about being attracted to both binary and non-binary individuals. Be sure to understand their definition of gender to avoid misunderstandings.
Steps
Find an Attractive Girl at School/Work.
- If you're straight (heterosexual), don't force yourself to be attracted to someone of the same gender! You can try, but it's not possible since you can't control which gender you're attracted to. If you've already developed an interest in a girl, then skip this step.
Get to Know Her.
- Unless she's already your close friend, if you just met her, take the time to get to know her better and try to become close friends with her.
Flirt a little. Lightly flirt, but be subtle so that she doesn't realize you're interested. Smile, laugh softly and cutely to make her laugh, or if you're close enough, invite her to hang out! Also, ensure that she's comfortable with your approach, whatever it may be. If she seems unsure, stop immediately.
Ask her if she's interested in women. If you're really close, you can ask if she identifies as bisexual or a lesbian. Don't ask this if you feel she doesn't trust you yet. However, once you've gained her trust, feel free to ask. To build trust, share a secret with her—nothing too personal, just something you feel comfortable telling her. Don't make it too serious; ask casually.
Ask her out. Dating is an essential part of any relationship! If you feel like she's already someone special, casually invite her on a date, like 'let's grab a coffee' or take her to a sports event. First, find out what she enjoys and then plan dates around her interests.
Ask for her phone number. You'll need her number to text or call, helping to build a closer connection with her.
Connect on social media. Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, etc. Send her a friend request or follow her on one of these platforms, as it will give you a better chance to understand her.
If she's truly a great friend, confess your feelings to her! Don't be afraid. If she doesn't feel the same way, that's okay! There are plenty of other girls you can get to know!
Advice
- If you're not interested in women, don't force yourself to be.
- Understand different genders:
- Heterosexual - attracted to the opposite gender.
- Gay - attracted to the same gender.
- Bisexual - attracted to more than one gender.
- Asexual - not sexually attracted to any gender (though romantic attraction is possible).
- Pansexual - attracted to all genders/doesn’t matter what gender someone identifies with.
- Take care of your appearance by caring for your skin, brushing your teeth, showering, styling your hair in a cute way, and applying makeup (if you prefer a natural look, feel free to go without makeup unless you really want to).
- Remember that even if you're interested in an asexual girl, she could still like you. Asexuality simply means she’s not sexually attracted to anyone, but she might still be romantically interested. Have a conversation and see if she feels the same.
Warnings
- If she's not part of the LGBT community (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender), don’t try to flirt, as she may not be interested in women. Don’t force yourself to like someone who's not a match for you, and don’t tie yourself down to someone who isn't interested.
- Romantic attraction can differ from sexual attraction. It’s possible to only feel romantic feelings for men while being sexually attracted to women. Be clear about your romantic preferences if you're looking for a long-term connection with someone.
