How to Make a Great Impression on a Date

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Make a great first impression by looking your best.

Arrive on time for the date.

Greet your date with a smile.

Be yourself and let your personality shine.

Display your good manners.

Engage your date with questions.

Delve into a more meaningful conversation.

Give your date your full attention when they speak.

Share your own stories with your date, too.

Avoid discussing controversial topics.

Don't bring up your ex.

Offer to split the check.

If you’re interested, don’t hesitate to ask for another date.

Make your first date unforgettable with expert tips from this series.

Finding someone you like and inviting them out can be challenging, but preparing for the date itself can add a whole new layer of anxiety. It’s completely natural to worry about what to say or how to behave, even if you feel like you're overthinking it. With these tips, you can focus on enjoying your time together rather than stressing over the small details (and don’t forget: your date is likely feeling just as nervous as you are!).

Steps to Success

Make a great first impression by looking your best.

When you look your best, you feel confident too. Choose an outfit that you feel great in, wash your face, and comb your hair. If you enjoy wearing makeup, feel free to apply it—if not, that’s perfectly fine too!

Your outfit choice will depend on the date’s activity. For instance, if you're going to play mini golf, casual attire like jeans and a T-shirt should work. If you're headed to a fine dining restaurant, you might want to opt for slacks or a skirt paired with a nice blouse.

Arrive on time for the date.

Make a positive first impression right away. Leave a little early so you can arrive at least 10 to 15 minutes before your date. If you’re running late, send them a quick message to let them know you’ll be there soon.

If you're visiting a place for the first time, take a moment to check the location on a map beforehand, so you can plan your departure time accordingly.

Greet your date with a smile.

Break the ice with a handshake or a hug. The first impression you make can set the tone for the entire evening, so be sure to start things off with warmth. If you're meeting someone new, shake their hand and introduce yourself. If you’re already familiar with each other, offer a friendly hug and greet them warmly.

If you're feeling nervous (or if your date appears anxious), try easing the tension with a lighthearted joke. A line like, “Do you like my outfit? I changed three times!” can help both of you relax and enjoy the date.

Be yourself and let your personality shine.

Dating is all about discovering who each other truly are. As you spend time with your date and engage in conversation, be sure you're being your authentic self. Let your true personality shine through so your date can get a genuine sense of who you are. Don't hesitate to show a little fun or quirkiness!

While authenticity is important, try not to be overly negative. Complaining too much, whether it's about the traffic, your family, or being single, may leave a bad impression on your date.

EXPERT INSIGHT

John Keegan

John Keegan
Dating Expert

Focus on creating an emotional connection during your date. Enjoy fun activities and engaging conversation to truly get to know one another. Be sure to practice active listening, showing your date that you care about what they have to share.

Display your good manners.

Being courteous is a fantastic way to show your date you're a kind person. It's important not only to use good manners with your date but also to be polite to everyone around you, such as waitstaff, hosts, or valet attendants. Let your charming nature shine by saying 'please' and 'thank you' so your date knows you're considerate.

This may seem like common sense, but you'd be surprised—some people think it's impressive to act rude or distant on dates, and it usually doesn’t lead to a second one.

Engage your date with questions.

Start a fun conversation to get to know your date better. Ask open-ended questions so they can share more about themselves. If they're a great date, they'll reciprocate by asking you questions too! Try questions like:

“What’s your job?”
“Where’s your favorite place to visit?”
“Do you enjoy your work?”
“How long have you lived here?”

Delve into a more meaningful conversation.

Once the small talk is out of the way, make an effort to really connect with your date. Ask them about their family, past experiences, or even their thoughts on life's bigger questions. You can even throw in something fun, like whether they believe in aliens or Bigfoot! Try out questions like:

“Have you ever witnessed a UFO?”
“What was it like growing up in a small town?”
“What’s a childhood memory that always brings a smile to your face?”

Eliminate distractions to truly focus on your date. Set your phone aside and make eye contact as they speak. Show you’re engaged by nodding and asking thoughtful follow-up questions.

Being glued to your phone can be a huge turn-off. Keep it tucked away in your pocket or purse and only take it out briefly to check the time or send a quick text.

Share your own stories with your date, too.

Asking too many questions can make the conversation feel like an interview. Keep things natural by balancing the flow of questions and answers. Avoid canned jokes or one-liners as they can come across as stiff.

If you feel like you’ve been talking too much about yourself, try saying, “Enough about me, let’s hear more about you!”

Avoid discussing controversial topics.

Keep the conversation light-hearted and enjoyable on your date. Avoid bringing up sensitive subjects like politics or religion that might lead to disagreements. If you really like each other, you'll have plenty of opportunities to discuss those topics down the road.

If they come up naturally, feel free to share your thoughts—but keep it respectful, and avoid turning it into a debate.

Don't bring up your ex.

This topic can be a bit too heavy for a first date. Even if you have only positive things to say about your ex, your date may not want to hear about them yet. Save conversations about past relationships for later when you’ve built a stronger connection.

Many people consider talking about an ex too often as a red flag, and for good reason: it can suggest you might not have fully moved on.

Offer to split the check.

Offering to split the bill is a kind gesture that your date will appreciate. If you'd prefer, you can offer to pay the full amount; otherwise, suggest splitting it evenly. This keeps things light-hearted and prevents anyone from feeling pressured to overspend.

There's some debate over who should pay on a first date—some believe the person who initiated the date should cover the cost, while others prefer the traditional approach where the man pays. Ultimately, there’s no right or wrong way, so go with what feels right for you.
If you're on a budget, opting for a casual setting like a coffee shop or smoothie bar can avoid any awkwardness about who pays.
Reader Poll: We asked 502 Mytour readers who had successful first dates, and 64% of them agreed that the best budget-friendly option is a coffee shop. [Take Poll]

If you’re interested, don’t hesitate to ask for another date.

If you enjoyed your time together, there’s no reason to play games! Simply ask your date if they’re available again next week to hang out, or follow up with a message after your date to see if they’re interested in meeting again.