How to Make a Guy Chase After You

Whether you're feeling drained from pursuing the guy you like, or simply want to experience the thrill of flipping the situation with your secret crush, you can absolutely make a guy chase after you instead. If you stop chasing him, he'll become intrigued by you, and desire you even more. If you want to learn how to make a guy pursue you, check out Step 1 to begin.

Catch him staring at you but walking past without acknowledging you. Of course, you could approach the person who's staring at you and start a conversation. He'll enjoy chatting with you and will be more likely to fall for you... or, he might become even more intrigued when he sees a beautiful woman pass by him and will want to know more about her. Let him notice you and approach you. Or, if you know you'll see him again, you could approach him in the future.

• Of course, if you truly want to approach him, he'll also become excited and interested. You don't have to be too elaborate if that's not your style.

Has her own life. Men often find women with their own lives incredibly attractive. Having a meaningful and fulfilling life where you can pursue your career or passions and enjoy a few hobbies or interests will make you someone worth getting to know. Whether you want to be a writer or simply love painting, he'll be more intrigued by you when he sees that you care about many things other than him. If all you do is watch TV and wait for him to call, he won't be interested.

Impress him with confidence. Men often feel threatened by confident women, but they are also drawn to them. Show him that you love yourself and what you can offer the world. Instead of feeling insecure, complaining, or seeking validation from men, you should know that your value comes from within. If you're satisfied with who you are, he'll be happier with you because he knows he can enjoy being with you, rather than always seeking to validate your worth.

• Of course, anyone can work on becoming more confident. Right now, you can start by spending more time doing what you love, owning an open body language and good posture, and addressing the things you don't like about yourself.

Flirt with him. You need to know how to flirt if you want a guy to chase you. You need to make eye contact, play with your hair, tease him, and even blush and be a little feminine to grab his attention. You can playfully touch his arm, smile gently even when there's nothing funny, and just be fun and humorous when you're together. Flirting is meant to spark his excitement and let him understand how it feels when you're together. Keep it light, fun, and interesting.

• Don't be too forward. Flirt a little, then pull back. Make him work for it.

Maintain your charm. Find what charm means to you and make it happen. If it means doing your hair and nails, go ahead. If it means keeping a natural look with just a bit of lip gloss and a bright smile, don't hesitate. You can wear clothes that are flattering or just outfits that make you feel great. Do whatever makes you feel confident and gives you the sense that you're taking care of your appearance. If you want a guy to chase you, you need to put in a little effort.

• This doesn't mean you have to do things that make you feel unnatural. You want him to chase you, not the version where you have to pile on makeup and wear uncomfortable high heels.

Show him that other guys are also paying attention to you. Don't talk too much about meeting other guys, or he’ll think you’re trying too hard to get his attention. Instead, let him see you talking to another guy, and just be yourself throughout. Don't laugh too loudly, touch the other guy too much, or make it look like you're trying to make him jealous. Everything should happen naturally. Whether you're meeting or just hanging out with the guy you secretly like, or even just a platonic guy friend, you should focus on being enthusiastic, and he will get jealous.

• Though it may seem silly, the truth is that seeing other guys notice you will make you more desirable. He'll want you more if he sees that others desire you.
• However, don't take it too far. If he sees you with other guys too often, he might think you're a flirt or that you're not interested in him.

Avoid always being available for him. If you pick up the phone the moment he calls, or agree to go on a date even when he just asked an hour ago, he'll start to think your life is only interesting when you're out with him. To make him chase you, you need to make him feel that you're busy and hard to get. Of course, you don't want him to think you're too busy to ever meet up, or he'll get bored, but you should balance being busy with having enough time to meet him, so his excitement is kept alive.

• If he calls, don't pick up on the first ring. It's better to wait a few hours before returning his call.
• Similarly with texting. If he texts you, wait a while before replying, unless it's urgent.

Be a little mischievous. Once the relationship has progressed and you've met a few times, don't hesitate to let him know you're in the mood for some fun when you're apart. You could call him on a workday and talk about the naughty things you want to do with him. It will make him eager until he can finally be with you. Just don't overdo it, and pick the right moment, and you'll have him wrapped around your finger.

• Choose the right timing. You don't want to tell him you're feeling playful right before he's about to go into an interview or spending the day with his grandmother.

Occasionally, surprise him with kindness. While being a little difficult may seem fun, if you go overboard, he'll start thinking you're too hard to get. You need to step back and show him that you care. Cook him a meal on his birthday. Call just to check in with him. Buy two tickets to see his favorite team's game. Doing kind things will keep his interest alive, and then, continue being a bit distant. If you cook for him every day, he'll start taking you for granted.

• Find a balance between being hard to get and occasionally making an effort. You can't constantly act one way or the other.

Don't reveal everything about yourself right away. If, the moment he meets you, you tell him you have five sisters, that you dream of becoming an actress, and that you have a complicated relationship with your mom, he'll feel like there's no effort needed to get to know you. Instead, make him work for it. Tell him one interesting and unique thing about yourself when you first meet, and then share more tidbits, like little chocolate treasures, in subsequent meetings. You should make him put in the effort to discover you; if he thinks you'll just expose everything, he won't try as hard.

• Men really like women who are shy or a little reserved with them. They feel like they've won a reward.

Don't reach out to him more than he reaches out to you. Let him be the one to initiate contact more often. Allow him to call you first. Let him text to say hi. Wait for him to suggest a fun event you both should attend. While you don't have to do this all the time, you should wait for him to take the lead, acting as if you're busy with important things and not constantly wondering if he'll reach out. Of course, you can still reach out to him or suggest a great outing, but make sure he’s the one to decide on the next move.

• No one said these strategies are for the impatient. If you're the type who can't wait for him to contact you, preferring to take control and steer the relationship your way, this method will definitely be challenging for you.

Have fun with your girlfriends. Don't become someone who stops calling her female friends once she's in a relationship. You should enjoy your girl time, regardless of your relationship status. If he sees you having fun dancing with your friends or simply spending quality time with them, he’ll think it’s amazing that you prioritize your friendships. He'll also feel jealous because he'll imagine other guys could be eyeing you while you're out with your girlfriends!

• Spending time with your friends will help you stay grounded and prevent you from getting too caught up in the excitement of dating.

Be unpredictable. If you want him to chase you, you need to keep him guessing about what's going to happen next. Suggest a spontaneous weekend getaway. Jump into the ocean even when it’s a bit chilly and windy. Go on a date at a McDonald's. If you always do similar activities or say the same things, he’ll get bored and stop chasing you. But if he doesn’t know what’s coming next, you’ll have him hooked whenever you want! You don't have to be spontaneous 24/7, but make sure to prioritize surprising him when the moment is right.

• Resist the urge to plan everything and let fate take the wheel. You should let him pick you up without asking what you’re going to do next at every minute of your date.

Remember that the chase never ends. Even if you think he’s in love with you, you must keep his focus. This doesn’t mean you shouldn't gradually open up to him or that you should stop being yourself, but you must stay alert and never settle for the current state of your relationship. Don’t worry about relaxing, but also keep things fresh and interesting.

• Continue complimenting him, making him feel special, and giving him the sense that he has to work for it – in a great relationship, both partners put in a little effort to keep the love and affection healthy!

• Be cautious: he might notice that you're trying too hard!