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No matter if it's the beginning of a relationship or you've been together for a while, making a girl feel special brings out the best in both of you and strengthens the bond you share. What you put into something is often what you get back, so by making an effort to make her happy, she should recognize and value it. If she doesn’t, it may suggest the connection isn’t there, and that's fine — not every relationship blossoms into love. But at the very least, you’ll have left a lasting impression showing that you're someone who makes an effort!
Steps
Listening Attentively and Reacting Thoughtfully
Make eye contact while listening. Just don’t go overboard. Too much intensity can make it seem like you’re trying too hard. Keep your expression relaxed and avoid over-the-top facial gestures. If you react to every word she says with a lot of facial movement, it can be distracting.
Ask her about her emotions in certain situations. Women often experience a wide range of feelings, and this gives her an opportunity to express them instead of bottling them up. If you sense that something was frustrating, difficult, or upsetting, acknowledge it. Even if she doesn’t verbalize it, she will appreciate your understanding.
- It's perfectly fine not to grasp every detail of a situation, but never tell her her feelings are wrong because emotions can’t be wrong. Be careful not to blame her when she opens up. Aim for empathy, not judgment or harshness.
Give her your complete focus, avoiding distractions. Turn off your phone. Avoid looking around the room or at other people. Listening is a skill, and many people struggle with it. Going the extra mile will show her that you value her and make her feel good.
- When women express their feelings, they release a feel-good hormone. By sharing with you, she will feel good about you as well. The more comfortable she is talking to you, the safer she will feel opening up.
- Share your own dreams, hopes, and passions with her. This will help her learn more about you.
- Eliminating distractions is vital for active listening, but other signals like eye contact and asking relevant questions can make an even stronger impact.
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Show her you're actively listening through gestures. In addition to eye contact, demonstrate active listening by nodding or offering affirmations like "I would feel the same" or "I understand why you'd feel that way."
- Don't interrupt. Many people struggle with this, but waiting until she’s finished before responding will make her feel heard. This respect will be reciprocated when it’s your turn to speak.
Don’t jump to solve her problems right away. This can be challenging, as it’s natural to want to fix things immediately. However, her primary need is to be heard. Offering your solution too quickly might make her feel you don’t trust her judgment. Let her share her thoughts first, and ask her what she thinks would help. This builds her confidence and shows her you respect her thoughts.
- The more you understand her perspective, the more she'll trust you to help when needed. Wait until she asks for advice before offering yours, and always be thoughtful about it. Put yourself in her shoes before speaking.
Refrain from mocking, laughing, or being sarcastic. While humor may arise from what she says or how she says it, pay attention to her body language. If she’s serious, it’s important to treat the matter as serious. Being condescending could make her feel you don’t understand her deeply, beyond just the situation at hand.
Making Her Feel Truly Special
Make her feel cherished with small, protective acts. Women appreciate knowing that you're looking out for their well-being. It’s all about balance, though—don’t make her feel like you're hovering over her every action. Just do small things naturally, and she’ll notice and feel appreciated!
- Offer your arm when crossing the street.
- Wait to make sure she’s safely home before leaving.
- If it's been a while since you last saw her, call to check in and see how she's doing.
- If she’s unwell, call to ask if she’d like you to come over with some reading material.
Respond calmly if she says something awkwardly. In a relaxed and lighthearted way, laugh and say something like, "It’s all good, no worries." Make her feel at ease no matter what she says. If she smiles, you’ll know you’ve made her feel comfortable—she’ll appreciate that you accept her just as she is, even in her goofy moments.
Offer a soothing foot massage or shoulder rub. In today’s world of long hours spent hunched over computers and phones, offering to help relieve tension can make her feel incredibly relaxed. Take your time, applying medium pressure. Many people tend to go too fast with light pressure, but that often adds stress. Gently work the area with a slow, deliberate touch and watch her unwind completely under your hands.
Reach for her hand as you walk together. Most girls are romantics at heart, and holding hands as you walk side by side can make her feel cherished. It also signals to others that you're a couple. Keep the grip gentle, though—not too tight! If you’ve just started dating, hold hands occasionally. If she grabs your hand, it's a great sign.
- If you're not officially dating yet, try brushing your hand against hers to gauge her comfort with touch. If she pulls away, she may not be ready to hold hands just yet.
Compliment her appearance. Never assume that she already knows how beautiful she is. She wants to hear it from you. She doesn’t need to be dressed to the nines for you to give her a compliment. Even in a casual outfit, most girls make an effort to look good, and acknowledging that will surely make her feel special.
Ask her if the room feels too hot or cold. These little thoughtful gestures show her that you care about her comfort and aren't just focused on yourself. But be mindful not to overdo it. Just gauge your actions to match the situation and its needs.
Preparing a Special Dinner for Her
Create a romantic setting with a table for two. Add fresh flowers to a vase, light some candles, and arrange everything in an inviting way. Even if it's not perfect, she’ll appreciate your effort, especially if it’s something outside your usual routine.
- If things don’t turn out perfectly, that's okay. The effort itself will count and probably even make her laugh. If you're trying a new recipe, consider testing it out by cooking it for yourself first before she arrives.
- Don’t stress about having the best of the best. Authenticity matters too. If you can't afford fancy glasses, that’s fine. What’s important is that she likes you for who you are, and if she truly cares, she won’t mind one bit!
Prepare a simple but delicious pasta dish, accompanied by fresh bread and a salad. If you’re not a master chef, pasta is a great go-to option. It’s easy, and if you’re unsure whether she’s vegetarian, it’s a safe choice. Adding bread and a salad is a perfect pairing, as it keeps things simple without the need to juggle multiple side dishes while cooking the pasta.
Prepare ahead of time. If you wait until she gets there to do everything, you’ll spend more time working than enjoying her company. Try to do as much as possible before she arrives. For the pasta, have everything ready to go, except for putting it in the boiling water. Get the salad prepared beforehand.
- Be sure not to let her feel like she has to take over the kitchen duties!
Play background music during dinner, like R&B, jazz, or soft rock. When she arrives, ask if she likes it. If not, invite her to choose something she prefers. Many girls feel that guys can be inattentive or lacking in consideration. By going the extra mile, you show her that you're breaking away from that stereotype and making an effort to please her!
Make a simple yet delicious chocolate dessert, paired with coffee or tea. Chocolate is a fantastic way to make a girl feel wonderful! It contains phenylethylamine, a natural compound that releases endorphins, giving her a natural boost. Pairing it with coffee or tea adds an extra jolt of energy, especially if you’ve already had wine with dinner.
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While it's important to make a girl feel special, don’t lose yourself in the process. Women appreciate men who are confident and comfortable with who they are, rather than those who overdo it and appear desperate. Small, thoughtful gestures are the way to go. Let it flow naturally, as an extension of your true self. If she’s the right one for you, that will be more than enough.
Important Notes
- Avoid being too forward or unnerving!
