How to Make Her Like You at School

Dating in school can be awkward and challenging, especially when you develop feelings for a particular girl. Since you can't force someone into a relationship, try the following approaches to make an impression and capture her attention.

Eye contact is key. Engage with the girl you're interested in.

• Say 'hi' when you meet her at school or during outdoor activities.
• If you haven't spoken to her before, simply smile and greet her. This is a good way for her to realize you're paying attention to her.
• If you don't show any interest, she'll never know you like her.
• Don't be shy when talking to her. Confidence is much more attractive.
• Avoid staring at her for too long. It will make many girls uncomfortable and leave them wondering if there's something wrong with them.
• When introducing yourself, maintain open, energetic body language. Don't slouch, turn away, or mumble.
• Keep the first conversation natural. Ask her how she's doing, what she's up to, and so on...

Use social media to chat with the girl you're interested in. One opportunity to talk is when she spends time on Facebook or Twitter. Start the conversation by saying:

• "Hi, how are you?"
• "What are you up to?"
• Comment on a photo on her profile. If she has pets, ask her about them. If you notice her playing sports, you can discuss that topic with her.

Compliment the girl you're interested in during your conversation with her. Every girl enjoys hearing positive things about herself.

• Give her friendly compliments. Avoid complimenting her appearance too often.
• Girls don’t want to be admired only for their looks. If she’s good at something, compliment her!
• You could say things like, “I think you're an amazing dancer” or “I really liked what you said in history class today. I never thought of it that way.”
• If she's an athlete, compliment her recent performance, like, “Hey, you played great in that soccer match last weekend.”

Talk to her during lunch after school. Don’t hesitate to share more about yourself, as it will help her get to know you better.

• Ask her about her family, hobbies, and school schedule.
• Throughout the conversation, maintain eye contact and make sure she knows you're listening. You could say things like “I think that’s a great idea” or “That’s amazing. I’d love to hear more about it.”

Get to know the girl you like. Join some activities she’s involved in.

• Sharing a common interest with her will give you more time to spend together.
• Participating in something she enjoys at school will help you learn more about her. It shows you have similar interests.
• For example, volunteer for a charity event she’s involved in at school or join a drama group she’s part of.
• To start a conversation, you can say, “I noticed you’re involved in ______. I’m really good at _____, so I could help out.”

Avoid constantly talking about yourself. Girls won’t like it because they might think you're bragging.

• Ask her what she enjoys doing, or inquire about her family, pets, and school life.
• You can also share a few of your thoughts and opinions.
• Make sure the conversation is always focused on her.

Do nice things for the girl you like. Learn what she enjoys and surprise her with these things.

• If she likes a certain type of flower, it’s best not to buy them for her until your relationship is more established.
• Offer to carry her bag or books to class for her.
• Bring snacks to school and share them with her or show other thoughtful gestures.
• Volunteer to help with events she’s involved in at school.

Be a good friend. Don’t gossip or listen to rumors about the girl you like.

• It’s really hard to deal with rumors at school, especially about girls.
• If someone speaks badly about the girl you like, defend her.
• Don’t let your friends spread rumors about her friend group.

Ask if she wants to go out with you. You can suggest taking her to a movie or joining an activity she enjoys.

• After flirting with her for a while, ask if she would like to date you.
• Finish your suggestion by saying something like, “Are you free this Saturday? I can grab movie tickets” or something along those lines.
• If you know she’s interested in a particular event, offer to take her. You can say, “I heard you want to go to the dance this Friday. If you still want to go, I can drive you.”
• Set up a date to prioritize her and her interests.
• Don’t ask in a forceful or rude manner if she declines.
• This doesn’t need to be an extravagant date. What matters most is spending time together.
• If either you or she feels nervous during your first date, try a group date with other couples to ease the tension.

Avoid becoming an obsession for the girl you like. You’ll end up being boring.

• Give her space. Don’t hover around her all the time.
• Don’t follow her at school or during extracurricular activities. Communicate with her naturally, without forcing yourself.
• Don’t be overly attentive. If she says she’s not interested, don’t keep bothering her.

Dress well. Whenever you meet the girl you like, you definitely want to look your best.

• No matter your style, make sure your clothes are always clean and wrinkle-free.
• Keep yourself looking neat and tidy.
• Practice good personal hygiene – shower, use deodorant, brush your teeth, etc.
• Wearing well-fitted clothes will boost your confidence.

Be yourself. Don’t be afraid to be confident and embrace your own personality.

• Don’t change who you are just to grab a girl’s attention.
• Girls appreciate a guy who is authentic and self-assured.
• If you’re creative, join a music group, art team, or theater club. You’ll meet like-minded people, and hopefully attract the girl who shares your interests and talents.

Develop your own hobbies. Get involved in sports, arts, or other activities at school if you want to pursue a girl.

• Don’t spend all your time obsessing over the girl you like or trying to impress her.
• You need to maintain a balanced life. Use that time to focus on your own hobbies.
• Hopefully, the girl you like will have some interests in common with you. Cultivating those interests can give you more time to spend together.

Maintain your friendships. A guy with a close group of friends is more attractive to girls.

• This is a great way to meet girls through your friends.
• Invite the girl you like to participate in some activities with you and your friends.
• Friendship is important. Make sure not to ignore your friends once you start dating a girl.

Focus on your studies at school. You don’t want your grades to drop just because you’re trying to chase after a girl.

• A guy with impressive grades will attract more attention from girls than one who fails all his subjects.
• Speak up in class. Girls will notice you if you’re confident during lessons.
• If you’re struggling with a subject, ask a girl for help if she’s good at it.

• Not all girls are the same; they have different personalities and preferences.
• Make sure she’s not already in a relationship.
• She might turn you down if you ask her out, so be prepared for a rejection.