How to Make Her Like You Even If She’s Already in a Relationship

• For example, if you're just looking for a challenge or trying to win her out of spite or revenge against her boyfriend, this probably won’t lead to a healthy or satisfying relationship.

• If possible, observe how the two interact. Is there tension, or do they have awkward silences? Does he criticize her or belittle her? Or do they seem happy with lots of laughter, smiles, and physical affection?
• You could also consider asking one of her close friends about the state of her relationship.

Tip: Even if you think her relationship is in bad shape, don’t expect her to leave it easily. It’s often very hard to walk away from an unhealthy relationship.

• Make consistent eye contact when talking to you?
• Laugh and smile frequently around you?
• Seek out time to be with you?
• Open up to you easily?
• Touch you often?

• Are you ready to face the potential pain and discomfort your actions may cause for her boyfriend, you, and her?
• Do you believe you can build a stronger relationship with her than the one she currently has?
• If she chooses to leave her boyfriend for you, are you ready for the possibility she might eventually leave you for someone else?

• To make her feel more at ease, consider inviting her to hang out with a group of friends initially. This way, she won’t feel like you’re pushing her into a date.
• For example, invite her to a party or a casual movie night with others.

Tip: You may be concerned about falling into the “friend zone,” but studies indicate that friendship can actually serve as a solid foundation for a romantic relationship. Don’t hesitate to establish a friendship first before advancing the relationship to something deeper!

• For instance, if she tells you, “I don’t like it when you make fun of my boyfriend,” don’t get defensive—simply apologize and stop the behavior.

• For example, if she mentions wanting to become a doctor, don’t just respond with “Oh, that’s cool,” and move on. Ask her, “What inspired you to pursue medicine?”
• Avoid planning your next sentence while she’s talking. Focus on what she’s saying and respond thoughtfully.
• Put away your phone and other distractions when spending time with her.

• For instance, you might reveal a personal secret, admit a flaw, or let her see you stepping out of your comfort zone.
• If you get emotional during a sad movie, don’t try to hide it. Let her see your vulnerability!

• Playfully teasing her, but ensure it's light-hearted and kind. Avoid any negative or hurtful comments.
• Exuding confidence. Sit up straight, speak clearly, and use open, relaxed body language when interacting.
• Focusing on your mouth. While it may seem strange, drawing her attention to your lips can subtly suggest kissing. Smile often and touch your chin slightly. If you’re holding a drink, linger by your mouth a few seconds longer than usual.

• For example, if her boyfriend never jokes with her, and you have a good sense of humor, let that shine through. She’ll probably appreciate having someone who can make her laugh.
• If her boyfriend doesn’t engage with her hobbies, ask questions or find ways to get involved. For instance, you might say, “You love board games? I’ve been wanting to try Catan—let’s play together sometime!”

• For subtle hints, you could give her a sincere compliment, like “You look amazing today, Charlotte!” or “I really enjoy spending time with you; you brighten my day.”
• Another approach is through gentle touch—such as placing your hand on her shoulder or brushing her hand while talking. Just make sure she’s comfortable with it.
• If you're confident that she's interested in you too, you could even confess how you feel. But remember, this can be a bit risky!

Inquire about the seriousness of her relationship. Ask if she’s truly in love with him and if she envisions a future with him. It’s possible that she’s considering moving on from her current boyfriend and might be open to exploring a new relationship with you.

• Don’t put pressure on her! Even if she’s interested in you, she’s already in the difficult position of choosing between you and her current boyfriend. Pressuring her will likely make her feel uncomfortable and resentful.

• Be thoughtful and compassionate. If she's going through a tough time, check in with her and truly listen if she wants to talk.
• Take a genuine interest in who she is as a person. Ask her about her passions, dreams, and ambitions, and spend time doing things that she loves.

• Don't rush her or pressure her to heal quicker than she’s ready.
• While it may be difficult to hear her talk about her ex, remember that if you want to be a supportive partner, you need to listen. Offer her comfort and let her share if she needs to talk.

• For example, you could go camping together or explore a new fun location in town that recently opened.
• You don’t need to go over the top—small gestures like surprising her with little gifts or planning a romantic evening at home can go a long way.

Tip: Don’t assume you know exactly what she enjoys or how she’s feeling. Try asking her what she’d like to do every now and then!

• When talking about your feelings, use “I” statements so she doesn’t feel blamed. For example, say, “I sometimes feel uneasy when you bring up your ex. I worry that you might still have strong feelings for him.”
• Remember, it’s not a one-sided conversation—be open to hearing her perspective, even if it’s uncomfortable for you.

• Before you attempt to pursue someone already in a relationship, it’s important to approach the situation with realistic expectations. There’s a high likelihood that she may not be willing to end her current relationship. If she’s not interested, respect her decision and don’t persist.
• It might turn out that remaining just friends is the best option after all.

• Consider how you would feel if this person were your girlfriend. As the saying goes: "do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
• If her boyfriend is extremely jealous, possessive, or violent, it’s best to walk away and forget about her.