Buzz
If you're looking to make someone miss you, try reducing the frequency of your communication. Resist the urge to text them constantly, and consider putting your phone on silent now and then, so you don’t respond to their messages immediately. Another trick is to leave something of yours at their place or in their car, so they’re reminded of you when you’re not there. Being occupied with your own activities, hobbies, and relationships will also make you seem less available, which could encourage them to miss you.
Steps
Making Someone Miss You Through Phone or Text
Mute your phone so you're not constantly replying to texts. It can be hard to resist the urge to text someone non-stop when you miss them, but this doesn’t give them a chance to miss you. By muting your phone, you won’t be constantly reminded of their messages. It will take you longer to respond.
- Alternatively, you can leave your phone behind when you go out with friends or switch it off while you're watching a movie. Disconnecting from your phone gives the other person an opportunity to reach out to you first, while also slowing down the pace of your responses.
Limit your social media posts. If you're used to sharing every detail of your life online, consider cutting back. They’ll miss you more when they don’t know your every move.
- Also, refrain from liking and commenting excessively on their posts. For your own peace of mind, try not to scroll through their social media feeds too much. If you can’t resist, just avoid leaving too many likes and comments that make it obvious you’re keeping an eye on them.
Send them adorable pictures of yourself. When you get a new hairstyle or a cute outfit, share a picture with your special someone, and it will make them miss you. This is especially effective for long-distance relationships.
- If you want to be more subtle, send a picture of you having fun with friends and mention how much you enjoyed the experience. Just make sure you look great in the photo!
Be the one to end the phone call. Don’t wait for the conversation to fizzle out or for the other person to hang up because they need to go. Instead, wrap up the call by saying you’ve enjoyed chatting, but you have to leave.
- End on a positive note to show that you care, but also leave them wanting more by taking the initiative to say goodbye.
Make plans that give them something to look forward to. Before you part ways, promise to do something special together next time. This way, they’ll have something exciting to anticipate and will be eager to see you again.
- Try to keep the details a surprise. Simply mention you’ve made plans for when you meet next, but don’t spoil the surprise. The element of mystery will build anticipation and make them even more eager to see you.
Leaving Reminders
Leave a personal item behind at their place. Before you part ways, intentionally leave something behind so that the person is reminded of you whenever they see it. It also creates an unspoken promise that you’ll meet again to retrieve it.
- Choose something you’re okay with leaving behind, like a bracelet, watch, or book. Avoid items like your phone or wallet that are too valuable to forget.
- If you prefer being upfront, you can tell them that it’s a token—proof you’ll return to reclaim it and reconnect.
Write a heartfelt note and leave it where they'll discover it. Write a sincere letter or card and send it to the person. This personal gesture shows more thoughtfulness than a text message and will make the person feel loved and cared for. It’s a sweet surprise that will make them miss you.
- If you spend a lot of time at their place, leave notes hidden around their home before you leave. When they find one, it will instantly remind them of your last visit.
Wear a signature scent and leave it behind on their belongings. The sense of smell is a powerful trigger for memories. Wearing the same subtle, pleasant fragrance can make someone think of you every time they catch a whiff of it. If your scent lingers on their clothes, pillows, or sheets, they’ll be reminded of you when you're not there.
- This is particularly common in romantic relationships. The smell of a lover’s shampoo, body wash, or cologne can stay on objects like pillows, sparking memories every time it’s smelled.
- Signature scents can also work in platonic relationships. For example, if you’re known for baking, the smell of fresh bread can remind someone of the warmth of your home.
Give a thoughtful surprise gift or parting gift. When you leave, offer a gift. It doesn’t need to be extravagant—a simple gesture like a coffee mug will make them think of you every time they use it. If they’re far away, consider mailing them a gift. A surprise gift through the post will feel far more meaningful than just a text.
- If they enjoy reading, send a book you think they’d love. If they’re into fashion, gift them a stylish scarf. If you're an artist, send them a piece of your artwork.
Keeping Yourself Occupied
Spend time with your loved ones. Make plans to see friends or family regularly. The more enriching relationships you nurture, the less dependent you’ll feel on the person you’re missing. This will give them a chance to start missing you as well.
- You’ll find yourself less likely to constantly text the person you miss when you're having a great time with your friends.
Engage in your hobbies. Focusing on your personal interests gives you a healthy distraction from the person you miss. Not only can it be fulfilling, but it’s also an excellent stress reliever. Don’t hesitate to explore new hobbies and challenge yourself. Pushing your boundaries can provide an enjoyable diversion. For instance, if you love drawing, set aside time each week to practice. Working on your hobbies not only enhances your personal growth but also makes you a more intriguing dating prospect.
- Engaging in hobbies will provide a refreshing distraction from your crush, which can be particularly helpful if you’re feeling lovesick.
Exercise for at least 30 minutes daily. Regular physical activity floods your body with endorphins, improving your mood and distracting you from missing someone long enough that they’ll begin to miss you instead. It also enhances your overall health, boosts your confidence, and makes you appear more attractive.
- Taking care of yourself makes you seem organized and in control, which is very appealing.
Go on dates if you're open to it. If you're not deeply in love with the person you miss, consider going on some dates. New romantic connections can be exciting and help you focus less on the person you're missing. Of course, this doesn’t apply if you’re in a relationship with the person you miss or if you're trying to make them jealous.
- If dating isn’t your thing, try filling your calendar with plans with friends and family. The person you miss will see that you’re surrounded by loved ones.
Do things you enjoy that the other person doesn’t. If the person you’re missing doesn’t enjoy hiking, shopping, or watching your favorite TV shows, go ahead and indulge in those activities while they’re not around. It will bring you joy and show that you have a life beyond them.
- By making time for the things that make you happy, you'll show that you’re not just focused on missing the other person, but also on taking care of your own well-being.
