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Whether you're just starting out in a new relationship or have been in a long-term one, everyone wants their boyfriend to be fully engaged and attracted. As relationships evolve, the intense passion you once shared might lessen or manifest differently. While he may still care about you, there are ways to reignite that crazy attraction. You want him to feel wanted, and by doing so, you encourage this desire by being a desirable partner.
Steps
Making Your Boyfriend Feel Wanted
Give him compliments. Complimenting your boyfriend is a great way to make him feel valued and loved. Compliments show that you appreciate him for who he is and that you enjoy the little and big things he does. While it’s important to praise him for his significant achievements, don’t forget to compliment him for the small things as well. For example:
- “That was an amazing kiss.”
- “You looked so handsome and strong mowing the lawn.”
- “You were so impressive in the game today; it’s such a turn on watching you play.”
Lock eyes with him. Making eye contact is a powerful, nonverbal way to show affection. When we like someone, we instinctively look into their eyes. By gazing into your boyfriend's eyes, you convey your love and acceptance. If he feels the same, he’ll reciprocate with a deep gaze.
Kiss passionately. A kiss is one of the most intimate ways to connect with your partner, and being a great kisser is essential. Kissing can also intensify your boyfriend’s attraction and bond with you. Keep these tips in mind to make your kisses unforgettable:
- Start with a gentle, closed-mouth kiss and let it naturally evolve into something more intense if the mood strikes.
- Ensure your breath is fresh and your teeth clean before you kiss.
- Be fully present during the kiss and focus on him. Distractions can ruin the moment.
- Enhance the kiss by gently touching his neck, head, or caressing his arm.
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Surprise him. A bit of spontaneity can ignite or reignite passion. Breaking away from the usual routine shows him you’re still mad about him, which could spark him to feel the same. Stay flirty and spontaneous, and he’ll always be excited to be with you. Here are some fun ideas:
- If your car breaks down in the rain, don’t sit idly—jump out and dance with him on the roadside.
- Instead of watching his favorite sports team at home, surprise him with tickets or take him to a lively restaurant with big screens to enjoy the game.
- Adopt a sultry alter ego and stay in character for your entire date.
Encourage him. A crucial part of stirring up desire is making him feel confident and appreciated. Encourage his aspirations the same way you would support a close friend. Be there for him and show that you’re his biggest cheerleader.
- If your boyfriend’s stressed about a job interview, reassure him by saying something like, "You’ve got this! They wouldn’t have called you if they didn’t already think you were perfect for the job!"
Being a Desirable Partner
Exude your confidence. Confidence is an incredibly attractive trait, so embrace it when you're with your boyfriend. You can show your confidence by talking about your achievements and recognizing your strengths.
- Be aware that some people might find confidence overwhelming. If your boyfriend struggles with low self-esteem, showcasing your confidence may not necessarily boost his attraction to you.
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John Keegan
Dating Coach
Dating Coach
Don't stress if you're not confident just yet—it’ll develop with time. The more you engage with others, the more natural it will feel. Start small, like with a simple wave or smile. Regular practice will lead to deeper and more fulfilling connections!
Open up about yourself. Sharing personal details with your boyfriend can deepen his emotional connection to you. Tell him about your interests, aspirations, and family background. However, be mindful not to reveal everything at once. Keeping certain aspects of your life, goals, and emotions a bit mysterious can spark more curiosity, potentially increasing his attraction.
Pay attention to his preferences. Your boyfriend may have specific things that draw him to you, so notice when he mentions what he finds sexy. Perhaps he has a particular fondness for lingerie, or he may find you most attractive right after a workout. Here are a few tips to help:
- Wear eye makeup. Studies show that eye makeup can make women appear more appealing to some men. Try adding eyeliner, eyeshadow, and mascara when you’re around him.
- Use unscented or lightly scented products. Your natural scent can boost his attraction, so consider unscented deodorants and bath products to let your natural fragrance shine through.
- Wear red occasionally. Research shows that men are particularly attracted to the color red. Try wearing a red dress or sweater on your next date and see how he reacts.
Keep things playful and fun. Apart from being attractive and desirable, another way to make your boyfriend go crazy for you is to be an enjoyable, lighthearted person. You want him to look forward to spending time with you, so showing that you're always up for a good time is key. Just be yourself—there are endless ways to enjoy each other's company. Here are a few ideas:
- Take a hike together and race to the top. The thrill of friendly competition can bond you and create lasting memories.
- Join him and his friends to watch a sports game, and impress them with your knowledge of the sport.
- Play a game of truth or dare to show him you can be silly and spontaneous.
Boosting His Attraction
Stay close. Studies show that physical proximity can strengthen feelings between people. The more you spend time together, the stronger your connection will grow. To take advantage of this, try visiting your boyfriend's locker before class, suggest regular study dates, or find other ways to see him more often.
Honor your boyfriend’s personal space while enjoying your own. A great way to make your boyfriend go wild for you is by allowing him to miss your company. Sometimes, the initial spark fades because you grow too comfortable with each other. You want him to yearn for you, but also remind him that you find joy beyond just his presence.
- Set aside one evening each week to spend with your girlfriends and encourage him to have a guys' night as well.
Match his movements. Mirroring someone's actions can heighten their attraction toward you. Try mimicking his physical gestures from time to time. For instance, if your boyfriend shifts in his seat and rests on his right hand, wait a moment and do the same, but use your left hand so that you resemble a mirror image of him.
- Keep it subtle. Mirroring often happens instinctively, and making it too obvious could seem awkward.
Keep him guessing. Even though you're already in a relationship, you can still stoke his desire by playing a little hard to get. Some simple ways to do this include:
- Waiting a little while to reply to a text, or missing a non-urgent call now and then.
- If he asks for a date and you have other plans, suggest rescheduling.
- Occasionally deny him a kiss.
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Only act in ways that feel right to you. You are never obligated to do anything with your boyfriend that makes you uncomfortable or is something you’re not ready for.
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Always stay true to who you are. If you feel the need to pretend to be someone else around your boyfriend, it may be a sign that you're not a great match. Find someone who loves you just as you are.
