Buzz
Maintaining a long-distance relationship can be incredibly tough, particularly when your partner seems less invested. If you feel like your boyfriend is neglecting you, a hint of jealousy might make him think about you more often. However, keep in mind that jealousy can lead to other relationship issues and isn’t always the best solution. Below are 10 different strategies to make your boyfriend think about you more during a long-distance relationship (and maybe stir up a little jealousy).
Steps
Send him a sizzling photo
Let him wonder what you’re up to and who you’re with. Get ready and snap a picture to send his way. If he asks where you’re going or what you’re doing, keep your answers vague and avoid giving too much away. Even if you’re just dressing up and staying in, he’ll start questioning who you’re all dolled up for.
- This tactic works even better if you send the photo and then disappear for a few hours without responding.
Hang out with friends
Make sure to post plenty of pictures. Dress up and head to a bar, club, or explore the city. Then, share photos on social media so he can see them. When he notices you’re having a great time without him, he’ll wish he were there by your side.
- You can also ask your friends to post pictures and tag you. This way, he won’t suspect you’re intentionally trying to make him jealous.
Ignore his messages
Or at least wait a while before replying. If you always respond to his messages within minutes, he’ll know you’re constantly waiting for him to text. It’s better to wait 10 to 30 minutes before replying.
- You can also apply this tactic to phone calls. If he calls you, pretend you didn’t hear it, wait a bit, and then call back. He’ll wonder what kept you so busy that you missed his call.
- While this can grab his attention, in the long run, it’s better to have an honest conversation about your concerns.
Don’t promise when you’ll see him next
Be a little vague about when you two can meet. If he suggests visiting you soon, respond with, “Yes, let me check my schedule first.” If you seem too busy to make time for him, he might start wondering if you’re making plans with someone else.
- Be careful with this approach—meeting in person is crucial in a long-distance relationship. If you decline too often, he might lose interest.
Act extremely busy
Make it seem like you’re always occupied. If he asks what you’re up to, say you’re heading to a restaurant or hanging out with friends. Don’t let him know you’re bored or just staying at home, or he’ll think you have no fun without him.
- You can also say things like, “Oh my gosh, I’m so tired. This week has been crazy busy.”
Be ambiguous about your activities
Keep your plans a bit mysterious. If you’re going out for dinner, don’t specify who you’re going with (even if it’s just your close friends). When you don’t provide details, he’ll start speculating, and this might make him jealous.
- You could also say, “I’m planning to head downtown today and catch up with some old friends.”
Let him know someone else is interested in you
Casually mention that someone has been showing interest in you. Bring it up naturally during a phone call or text conversation. You don’t need to go into too much detail—you can even make it up if necessary.
- For example, you could say, “Yesterday, someone kept asking for my number. I turned them down, but they don’t seem to be giving up.”
Bring up other guys
Mention other male friends casually in conversation. Talk about how a male friend gave you a ride home or how someone got a new haircut. The more you mention them, the more your boyfriend will wonder who you’re spending time with and what you’re doing together. You could say things like:
- “Last night, my car broke down after work, and Tuan Anh gave me a ride home.”
- “Thai just posted a new haircut photo. Have you seen it? It looks pretty good!”
Compliment his friends
Make him think you like his friends more. Even if you don’t see his friends often, you can still learn about them through social media. Casually compliment his friends (or even compare him to them). For example:
- “Manh is so chivalrous—he even helped his girlfriend move. When I moved, I didn’t see you anywhere.”
- “Today I saw Hung with his new car. It looks really nice.”
Talk about your ex
This might be the best way to make him jealous. You don’t need to overdo it—just mention things your ex used to do that you really liked. Even if your current boyfriend isn’t the jealous type, bringing up someone you used to date will definitely make him feel uneasy.
- For example, you could say, “Hieu and I used to come here all the time. This restaurant is so romantic, don’t you think?”
- “Let’s go to Hawaii this summer. Hieu and I went there once, and it was absolutely perfect.”
Warning
- Intentionally making someone jealous isn’t a healthy way to build a relationship. If you have something to say to your boyfriend, it’s best to communicate openly and honestly with him.
