How to Make Your Boyfriend Jealous

Have you been feeling that your boyfriend seems a little distant recently, or that his mind is elsewhere? If so, it's time to remind him just how amazing you are as his girlfriend. One way to grab his attention is by making him feel jealous, but always be careful with this trick; you certainly don't want him to misunderstand your intentions. The best way to make your boyfriend jealous isn't by acting cold, but by enjoying your wonderful life without him. Your ultimate goal should be to have a healthy relationship with him, as well as with others around you.

Spend more time hanging out with friends. The best way to spark jealousy in your boyfriend is by showing him that you can be happy without him. Enjoy fun times with your friends, and if he asks, tell him how you used to miss those moments and now you're excited to participate in girls' nights out. You need to make him believe that you’re completely content and happy even when he's not around.

• Call your friends, go to clubs, or join group activities that everyone enjoys. Have a girls' night out. If you feel your boyfriend is becoming indifferent to you, enjoying life without him is a great way to make him miss you, and it also helps protect you from feeling hurt by his coldness.
• Don’t just “use” your friends to make your boyfriend jealous. No one wants to hang out with someone who seems to be using them to get their partner jealous. You need to genuinely care about your friends and spend time with them – you’ll need them even if you break up with your boyfriend.

Stay calm. If the reason you're trying to make your boyfriend jealous is because he's chatting or texting with other girls, causing you to feel jealous, the first thing you need to do is stay composed. If he's trying to provoke you, reacting with anger and sulking is exactly what he wants. Instead, remain calm and act as though you couldn't care less about what's going on.

• It's possible that your boyfriend flirts with other girls without even realizing it, so assume he's innocent. If it bothers you, try having a gentle conversation with him. Make sure to approach it with understanding, without accusing him or getting upset.
• If you see him talking to other girls just to tease you, the best response is to act like nothing's happening. You can casually talk to others, or if he talks to the girl in front of you, join in the conversation and be overly friendly with her. This may throw him off as it shows you don't mind him chatting with other girls. Additionally, if this behavior continues, you might want to reflect on why you even started dating him in the first place.

Don’t respond right away. To make him wonder what you’re up to, try waiting some time before replying to his texts or calls. Don't overdo it (like waiting for days), but if he leaves a missed call, wait an hour or two before calling him back.

• If he asks what you were doing earlier, pretend you were busy with something fun and exciting. You might just want to respond in a casual tone, but this could disappoint him and make him think you’re not interested in chatting. Let him feel like he missed out on something enjoyable.
• Another option is to stop texting him altogether.
• If you engage with your boyfriend too much, he’ll know he has you.
• He may get jealous if you don't reach out.

Hang out with other guys. Flirting with other guys is a risky move that could anger your boyfriend or make him act possessive, but simply hanging out with other guys is harmless and an effective strategy. Spend time with male friends, join activities you truly enjoy, and chat with them. If he asks, keep the details minimal – he’ll wonder what the nature of your friendships is.

• Your boyfriend may not care if you hang out with other guys, so make sure to show that these guys are close friends who make you happy. If he doesn't seem to care, continue spending time with them until he realizes you’re choosing to spend time with your friends over him.
• Another idea is to invite your guy friends to hang out with you and your boyfriend. If they get along better with him than with you, this might not be as effective. But if you’re close with these guys, show your happiness in front of your boyfriend. Don't be overly flirtatious, but give them a friendly hug when they arrive and compliment their style. You might even say something like, “You should try that hairstyle, it’d look good on you,” or “I love that outfit, you should dress like that more often.”

Do things he enjoys with other people. Maybe your boyfriend loves the chocolate chip cookies you bake, or he's really into soccer. Instead of baking for him or buying tickets for his favorite sports events, bake something for someone else or join activities with someone else. It doesn’t have to be another guy, but it will definitely work!

• If you bake something for someone else, send your boyfriend a message saying “fresh cookies out of the oven” with a picture, and if he asks, tell him you baked them for someone. Then, even if there are leftovers, claim they’re all gone.
• If he's into sports, buy tickets and attend with someone else, then send him a picture of you at the stadium enjoying the game. Go with someone who actually enjoys the event to avoid looking like you intentionally left your boyfriend out.

Revamp your appearance. A great tactic to catch your boyfriend's attention is by looking amazing. Change your hairstyle, clothing style, or start working out to achieve a well-balanced body. The key is to exude confidence and actually feel confident because confidence is the most attractive trait for men.

• Change your hairstyle. Opt for a modern, glamorous look, trim it, or even add extensions. Dye it a completely different color or go for highlights. Curl your hair if it's straight or straighten it if it's naturally curly.
• Buy some alluring outfits like shorts, tight-fitting clothes, crop tops, skinny jeans, and high heels. Some guys also find tracksuits sexy. Alternatively, you could go the opposite route and wear elegant, classic outfits to show him that you’re completely confident with your shape and personality.
• Try a different makeup style. If your usual look is light, create smoky eyes with black eyeliner and shades of gray. Or, if you usually wear bold makeup, try a more natural style that still highlights your best features.

Remember, communication is key. If your boyfriend is making you jealous and not paying attention to you, talk to him. Don’t accuse him, but try to have a serious conversation to express how it makes you feel about your relationship. Choose a time when he seems calm and relaxed – you definitely don’t want to bring up this sensitive topic after he's had a tough day.

• A relationship is a partnership, which involves compromise and sometimes sacrifices for each other. If you feel like you're always the one sacrificing without being reciprocated, it might be time to consider ending the relationship.

Explain to your boyfriend that you feel neglected. If you sense that your boyfriend seems distant or disengaged, let him know that you don't feel cared for. Encourage him to be more affectionate and loving when you're together, rather than using tricks to manipulate him.

• If you think he might be bored because of the monotonous relationship between the two of you, try coming up with more creative activities. Do things he's genuinely interested in and keep the relationship exciting. It might also help if you ask him if he’s getting bored with you or just with the dynamic between the two of you. This will greatly assist you in finding ways to spice up your romantic life.

Stop using tricks on each other. If you feel like you need to act a certain way to make your boyfriend jealous, that’s a bad sign. It means there’s a lack of open communication, and the relationship may be becoming unhealthy. Even if you succeed in making him jealous, you might end up with him breaking up with you instead of becoming closer. If you want him to pay more attention to you, tell him that you need his commitment and that you can't continue with a one-sided relationship.

End the relationship if things are heading in the wrong direction. If the person is no longer interested in you, they might have ‘lost the spark’ or become complacent in the relationship. You need to reassess your relationship and the kind of person your boyfriend is to determine whether it’s worth trying to salvage it or if it’s better to break up.