How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel at Ease

Develop trust with her. Ensure she feels confident that you can keep her secrets safe by being trustworthy. Share some of your own secrets too, so she understands you trust her as well. When she opens up to you, keep her confidence, so she feels secure sharing her feelings and thoughts in the future.

• Reader Poll: We asked 223 Mytour readers why a girl might hesitate to share her feelings, and only 7% said personality or communication style. [Take Poll] Generally, people need to feel a deep sense of trust before they can fully open up, so be patient and show her that you're someone she can trust.

Be truthful and transparent. Open up about your emotions and desires. When you do this, your girlfriend will feel more at ease sharing her own expectations, which will help build a stronger foundation of trust between you both.

Spend meaningful time with her. The more time you spend together, the more relaxed she'll feel around you. It doesn't require constant companionship, but simple moments like weekly dates, hanging out at school, having lunch together, or doing fun activities will help you grow closer.

Let the relationship unfold naturally. If you want to nurture a strong and healthy connection, start with casual dates, like meeting at a coffee shop. For a little more fun, try activities like bowling or mini-golf. Avoid going to the movies for your first date as it typically offers little time to converse before or after the film.

Notice when she’s uncomfortable. If something is bothering your girlfriend, you’ll likely notice a shift in her tone or behavior. Gently ask her what’s wrong and address it immediately. Ask her how you can make things better—she might have a simple solution.

• If you can solve the issue and ensure it doesn’t happen again, she’ll appreciate having you by her side. Aim to be a calm and dependable presence in her life by helping her through difficult moments.

Get to know her. The more you understand someone, the more at ease you'll feel around them. Take the time to learn about her, and let her learn about you. This mutual understanding will help make the relationship more comfortable for her.

Never embarrass her. There's nothing more humiliating for a girl than when her boyfriend announces to everyone that she's 'his,' followed by an inappropriate remark, or when he brags about 'getting her in bed tonight.' These comments are disrespectful and should never be made about anyone. Compliment her beauty, but avoid making any sexual comments about her appearance, as this can be uncomfortable for girls. Keep the intimate details of your relationship private unless she chooses to share them. Never tease her in front of others, and never disregard her feelings.

Address issues or disagreements immediately. Effective communication is key, so if something your girlfriend said or did bothers you, it’s important to talk it through with her rather than giving her the 'silent treatment' or handling it immaturely.

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Respect her personal boundaries and comfort zone. Your girlfriend may feel uneasy around you if she fears that you'll pressure her into doing something she's not ready for. This can include anything from physical affection like kissing and touching to engaging in behaviors like smoking, drinking, or even getting a tattoo. Be sure to never push her into anything she isn’t comfortable with.

Always ask for consent before being physical. Never assume that someone is okay with being physical, even if they’ve shown interest before. Ask, 'Is it alright if I hug you?' or check in during intimate moments with questions like, 'Is this okay?' and 'How does this feel?' Showing that you care about her comfort and respecting her boundaries will encourage honest communication, and in turn, strengthen the trust in your relationship.

Introduce her to your circle of friends. Show that you value her by facilitating these introductions. Say something like, 'This is an old friend of mine, and I’m excited for you to meet—I'm sure you two will get along great.'

• It’s also helpful to highlight things they have in common, like, 'This is Joe, he’s a huge soccer fan, just like you,' or 'I went to high school with Maya, she’s a dog lover too, so you’ll have plenty to talk about.'

Make sure your friends treat her well. It can be a bit awkward for a girl to hang out with her boyfriend’s friends, especially if she doesn’t know them well. Ensure your friends are respectful towards her and avoid flirting, name-calling, or making comments about her appearance. This will help her feel more comfortable around them. Also, never let your friends use sexist language when talking about women—your girlfriend might worry they talk about her the same way when she’s not around.

• If your friends do something that bothers your girlfriend, address it right away. Pull them aside and say, 'I didn’t like the way you spoke to my girlfriend,' or if you need to be more straightforward, 'I know you thought that was funny, but it wasn’t okay.' Stay calm but firm, and focus on how you feel, not on accusing them.

Make her a priority over other friendships. If you spend more time with your friends than with her, she might feel neglected or even suspect that you're losing interest in the relationship. Be careful not to send the wrong signals! Treat her like a priority to make her feel secure and valued in your relationship.

Don’t flirt with her friends! Doing so will make her feel insecure and create unnecessary tension between her and her friends. She should never have to feel like she has to choose between you and her friendships.