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Connecting with guys in college might feel overwhelming, but remember that nearly half of the students on most campuses are male. Broaden your horizons by meeting guys in your courses, joining campus clubs, or spending time in your dorm's shared spaces. You can also explore off-campus spots like nearby cafes or community events. If you find someone who interests you, don’t hesitate to exchange contact details or connect on social media.
Key Points to Remember
- College offers numerous opportunities to meet guys, whether in your classes, dormitory, or popular off-campus locations.
- Participating in clubs, organizations, or social gatherings can significantly increase your chances of meeting someone compatible.
- With a busy college schedule, it’s essential to carve out time each week to socialize and meet new people.
Steps to Follow
Meeting Guys on and off Campus
Find potential guys in your classes. Classes are a great place to connect with guys in college. During lectures, take note of guys who catch your eye, particularly in courses related to your major.
- Meeting guys in major-specific classes ensures you’ll have common interests to build on.
Check out your dorm’s common area. Dorm lounges are lively spots filled with people and activities. Invite a friend to join you in the common room. Relax on a couch and keep an eye out for guys who might interest you.
- You can also bring a notebook or book to blend in while observing the scene.
Visit a nearby cafe. Swap the library for a local cafe a few times a week to study. Spending more time there can help you get familiar with the staff and regulars, boosting your chances of meeting new guys.
Try tailgating if you love sports. Tailgating is an excellent way to meet guys in college. Bring a friend or two to the next tailgating event before a major game. Strike up a conversation by asking a guy if he’s a regular at these events.
Join a student club or organization to meet new guys. Start by listing activities that interest you, such as intramural sports, writing, politics, or volunteering. Visit your campus’s student clubs office to find groups that align with your hobbies. Choose 2-3 clubs and attend their next meeting to decide if you’d like to join.
Become a member of a local volunteer group. Similar to campus clubs, volunteering locally is an excellent way to connect with like-minded individuals. Identify volunteer activities that appeal to you and search online for local groups that focus on those causes. Attend their next meeting to get involved.
- For instance, you could volunteer at a community garden or join a group supporting homeless veterans or human trafficking survivors.
Attend a local event. Local events are a fantastic way to meet new people, including guys, during college. Discover events by browsing local newspapers, magazines, or checking bulletin boards at nearby cafes. Bring a friend or go solo to explore events that interest you.
- For example, consider attending an arts festival or a fundraiser for a cause you’re passionate about.
Finding the Time to Meet Guys
Create a weekly schedule. Prioritize time for classes, homework, and studying first. Then, identify free time slots and fill them with activities like volunteering, club meetings, local events, or socializing with friends.
- Try to complete most of your work during the week so your weekends are free for hanging out, attending events, or going on dates.
Use extra time to get ahead on schoolwork. Sometimes assignments take less time than expected, leaving you with free time. Instead of relaxing, use this opportunity to work ahead on your studies. Being ahead on schoolwork will free up more time for socializing, hanging out, and meeting guys, while also helping you feel more relaxed during downtime.
Schedule a lunch date. Unless you’re studying during lunch, use this time to connect with guys you’re interested in. Meet at the campus dining hall between classes or head to an off-campus restaurant when your schedule is less hectic.
Dedicate a few hours each week to meeting up with a guy. A busy school schedule might make it seem impossible to find time for extracurricular activities, but taking breaks is essential to avoid burnout. Allocate a couple of hours weekly for a lunch, coffee, or movie date with someone you like.
- Compensate for this time by waking up early the next day or working extra hours later to complete your schoolwork.
Sign up for an online dating site. Online dating platforms are a convenient and effective way to meet new people. You can connect with guys from the comfort of your home. After creating a profile, the site’s algorithm will suggest potential matches. Manage your account during breaks between classes or over lunch.
- Explore dating sites tailored for college students, such as:
- Date My School
- Campus Hook
- University Love Connection
- College Passions
- Student Love
Breaking the Ice with a Guy
Make eye contact and smile. Whether you’re in class, relaxing in the common room, or attending a club meeting, eye contact is a powerful way to start an interaction. Glance at him a few times from across the room. On the third look, add a smile to show you’re friendly and approachable.
- He might walk over and introduce himself after noticing your smile.
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Introduce yourself. If he doesn’t approach you after the third eye contact, take the initiative. Smile, greet him, and introduce yourself. Kick off a conversation by asking him a question.
- For example: “Hi, I’m Taylor. I noticed you’re reading Game of Thrones. I’m a fan of the show. How does the book compare?”
- If he doesn’t seem interested, don’t worry—there are plenty of other guys on campus.
Ask his opinion about the class if you’re in the same one. You can bring it up before or after class, but asking after class might lead to a longer conversation—or even a coffee invite.
- If he seems studious, you could also ask to borrow his notes.
Ask why he joined the club. Even if you both joined for similar reasons, asking about his motivation is a great way to get him talking. The more he shares, the more you’ll learn about his interests and passions, which can help you connect.
- For example: “What made you join the Students for a Democratic Society?”
Share a statement instead of asking a question. Making a statement means expressing your opinion about something general. Unlike a question, it removes pressure and can naturally lead to a conversation if he’s interested. If he doesn’t respond, no harm done.
- For example: “I really enjoy this class—it’s so engaging,” “The weather is perfect today,” or “This café has the best coffee!”
Showing Interest in Him
Connect with him on social media. Social media is an excellent way to stay in touch if you’re unsure when you’ll see him next. Ask for his social media handle, and once you’ve added him, engage with his posts by liking or commenting. You can also send him a direct message to check in or suggest hanging out.
Ask for his phone number. Once you’ve gotten to know him better and feel confident about your interest, don’t hesitate to ask for his number. Bring it up casually during a conversation.
- For example, “Hey, would it be okay if I got your number? I’d love to text you sometime to hang out.”
Use body language to show interest. While talking, maintain eye contact and lean in slightly to show you’re engaged. Smile and laugh when he says something funny—these subtle cues will let him know you’re interested.
- If you’re comfortable, lightly touch his shoulder, arm, or hand during the conversation. Physical touch can signal that you’re interested in more than just friendship.
Invite him out for coffee or a movie. Asking him out directly is a clear way to express your interest. You can text him, message him on social media, or ask in person. If he agrees, let him know you enjoy spending time with him. If you’re feeling confident, you can even tell him you like him.
- For example: “I’ve been wanting to see that new comedy coming out this weekend. Would you like to join me? We could grab something to eat afterward too!”
- If he declines, don’t take it personally—he might not be ready for that step. Staying friends could lead to something more in the future.
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