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If you're interested in a guy on Instagram, sending him a message is a great way to initiate a conversation and get to know him better. You can start with any type of message, but certain ones may encourage him to open up and share more. This article offers several useful tips on what to say and includes sample messages that you can try, whether you want to build a friendship or start a serious relationship!
Steps
Replying to his Story (Post) on Instagram.
Replying to stories is super simple, so it won't feel like you're sending a formal message. Since Instagram stories only last for 24 hours, responding shows that you're interested in his posts. If you're unsure of how to start, you can engage by reacting with an emoji or leaving a 'haha' comment if he shares something funny. If you'd like him to say something, end your message with a question to prompt him to respond.
- For example, if he shares a video of bowling, you can say: 'Oh, I love bowling! How many points did you score?'
- Another example: if he posts a travel photo, you could say: 'Great picture! Where did you go?'
- Accounts with a large following may disable the ability to respond to stories.
- You can also respond to his stories with a selfie or video by tapping the camera icon.
Talk about shared interests.
Find common interests through his profile to start connecting. By viewing his profile, you can discover the activities he enjoys. Once you find something in common, message him about it. He'll appreciate knowing that you both share something in common and will be eager to continue the conversation.
- For example, if you notice he posts a lot about comics, you can say: 'Wow, you have an impressive comic book collection! What's your favorite series?'
- Another example: if he shares about a recent football match, you could say: 'That match last night was intense! Did you feel the heat during the extra time?'
Ask him for suggestions.
You can message him asking for advice to start a conversation. Check his bio and posts to learn about his hobbies and interests. If something he shares catches your attention, feel free to ask him about it. He'll enjoy talking about his interests and will be happy to share more with you.
- For example, if you notice he often posts about shoes, you could say: 'Did you just post a picture of those Jordan sneakers? I've been looking for this style, where can I find them?'
- Another example: if he shares about a book he's reading, you could ask: 'I see you read a lot of books, and I’m looking to explore more sci-fi novels. Any authors you recommend?'
Ask open-ended questions.
Ask about his life and hobbies to help him open up. Use open-ended questions that can't be answered with just one word to start a conversation. Asking 'what,' 'how,' or 'why' can encourage him to share more. You might inquire about his hobbies, childhood, or any other topic he's comfortable with. Avoid asking overly personal questions that could make him feel uncomfortable.
- For instance, you could ask: 'There are so many great movies this year. What movies do you enjoy?'
- Or you could ask: 'What's your favorite childhood memory?'
- Don't forget to share a bit about yourself during the conversation! After he responds, share related information so he gets to know you better too.
Share funny meme images.
Appropriate meme images can help bridge the gap between the two of you with minimal effort. You can often gauge his sense of humor by looking at his posts and shared content on social media. Search the internet or meme pages on Instagram for content you think will make him laugh and send it to him. Add a short message so he can respond.
- For example, you could say: 'Haha 😂 this picture reminded me of you! Have you seen this one yet?'
Playfully flirt in a humorous way.
Making him laugh is a great way to show off your sense of humor. Even a silly joke can spark a smile. Look for a few amusing lines that you find funny and pick one to break the ice via text. If he thinks you're funny, he will laugh and respond, allowing the conversation to continue.
- For example, you could say: 'Do you know how to install Windows? Could you install an operating system where the main interface is you?'
- Or you could say 'Knock knock.' When he asks who's there, you reply 'Rabbit.' When he asks which rabbit, you say 'The rabbit who wants to get to know you!'
Send him a video or a picture.
Share what he's missed to make him look forward to more. Take a selfie or a picture of anything you're doing and send it to him. Add a message or a question with the picture to make it easier for him to respond. Avoid sending explicit or suggestive photos, as this may make him uncomfortable or your pictures could be spread around.
- For example, you could send a selfie and ask, 'How do you like my new outfit?'
- Another example would be sending a message like, 'Check out this sunset I captured! Wish you could enjoy this view with me 😊'
Choose light topics to create a relaxed vibe.
Serious or controversial topics might turn him off. Texting to get to know him should be fun for both of you; therefore, avoid topics like politics or religion. Steer clear of gossip by sticking to subjects that both of you enjoy, to prevent making him uncomfortable.
Compliment him with a touch of teasing.
Say something sweet to let him know you're hoping for more than just friendship. If you have feelings for him, let him know you'd like the relationship to go beyond friendship. You can start with friendly, lighthearted messages that don't cross any boundaries. Add a few emojis to give the message a playful, flirty tone, but don't overdo it.
- For instance, you could say: 'Your outfit looks absolutely fire 🔥🔥🔥 in the photo you just posted! Wish I could've seen you in person 😉'
- Another example could be: '📗📘📙📕 Out of all the books in the library, the only one I want to check out is the one titled YOU 😘'
Ask him out if you're feeling brave enough.
Be clear about your intentions so he doesn't feel confused. Spend a little time exchanging messages with him to see if there's a connection. If you're really into him, be upfront and see if he's open to meeting up. You could ask him to grab coffee or suggest meeting at a shopping mall.
- For example, you could say: 'Texting with you is so much fun, and I'd love to meet you in person. Would you like to grab a coffee this Saturday?'
- Or you could say: 'If you're into art, I know a gallery nearby. Would you like to check it out with me this weekend?'
- If you're far apart, consider asking if he'd like to do a video call or a virtual hangout.
Wait for him to reply before sending more messages.
Sending too many messages can come off as needy. While you're excited to chat with him, sending a flood of messages can be overwhelming for him. It's better to send one message at a time and wait for him to read and respond when he's able to.
- Find something fun to do while waiting so you're not obsessing over whether he's replied yet.
- Instead of responding instantly, match his reply speed. If he takes a few hours to respond, wait a few hours before replying, so you don't appear overly eager.
Stop if he reads your message but doesn't reply.
Stopping communication means he’s not interested in you. You may feel sad when he stops texting, but don’t lose hope. Instead of trying to convince him to message you, consider moving on and finding someone new. There are plenty of other guys on Instagram who would love to chat with you, so give them a try and see how they respond.
Tip
- Before texting, follow his account and like a few of his posts so he notices your name in his notifications.
- Remember, what people post on social media doesn't always reflect their real lives.
Warning
- The messages you send to him may be saved or shared, so think carefully before sending sensitive messages or photos.
- If you two aren’t following each other on Instagram, your message may end up in the 'Message Requests' folder, and he may not see it.
- Celebrities and Instagram accounts with over 75,000 followers may not see your message because they get so many messages from others.
