How to Practice Orgasmic Meditation

Orgasmic meditation is a practice designed to increase bodily awareness and enhance pleasure during intercourse. By regularly engaging in orgasmic meditation, your sexual experiences with your partner can become more exciting, while also deepening the emotional connection between you both. You can learn to practice orgasmic meditation even if you've never meditated before.

Find a quiet, distraction-free space. Dim the lights in your bedroom or living room, and remove electronic devices such as phones, TVs, and laptops. Keep the room at a comfortable temperature—too hot or too cold will cause distractions.

• You'll also want to place a few pillows on the floor to sit on during meditation. Arrange the pillows so that you and your partner can sit close to each other while still maintaining comfortable space.

Comfort. Prepare a comfortable posture for both you and your partner. You may choose to lie down or sit in the lotus position. You and your partner can meditate in comfortable clothing or without any clothing if you prefer.

• Keep your spine straight whether lying down or sitting, with your arms relaxed at your sides. If sitting, rest your arms gently on your thighs.
• Lift your chin slightly and keep your head aligned with your spine while sitting.

Close your eyes. Once you're ready, both you and your partner can close your eyes and begin your meditation. Start by becoming aware of your surroundings. Focus on your body, your breath, and any sounds you hear.

• Try to let go of any intrusive thoughts and focus on the present moment. If a thought arises, acknowledge it and let it pass. For example, if thinking about work, tell yourself, 'Yes, that happened,' and let that thought drift away.

Focus on space and breath. While meditating, concentrate on the space around you and your breath. Breathe deeply and gently, paying attention to the air entering and leaving your body. As you inhale, allow the air to fill your belly, and as you exhale, imagine any tension leaving your body with the breath.

• Try to be aware of yourself and feel your present state. Pay attention to how your body feels in the surrounding space, or how each part of your body from your hands to your feet feels.

Visualize your body. As you begin meditating, picture your body in your mind. Think about your body from the inside out, and imagine what its energy looks like. Consider the shape, color, and sensation of your current emotions. For example, you might envision your desire for your partner as a red sphere.

• Focus on physical sensations. Do your best to become aware of both your body and the physical sensations you're experiencing. The goal of orgasmic meditation is to heighten awareness, which will help increase sexual arousal.

Focus on your partner. Once you've completed the self-visualization, shift your attention to your partner. Try to think about their body and emotions in the present moment.

• Look at your partner. You may open your eyes and gaze into your partner's eyes. Be sure to also notice their breath. You might observe the rise and fall of their stomach and chest with each breath.
• Communicate with your partner without words. Use your facial expressions, hands, and eyes to express your feelings to your partner, while also observing their reactions. Try to understand what they're experiencing.

Engage in intercourse. After meditating for 20 minutes, you can begin intercourse. If it feels more enjoyable after meditation, discuss with your partner about incorporating regular meditation practice.

Play soft music or nature sounds. It can be difficult to concentrate with outside noise, so try playing soft music or nature sounds to help you and your partner relax. You might try sounds of rain, ocean waves, or new age music.

• Make sure to choose a track long enough to play throughout the meditation and intercourse.

Try Taoist orgasmic meditation. Once you’ve experienced basic orgasmic meditation, you may want to move to a more complex form. Taoist orgasmic meditation focuses on the harmonious desire between you and your partner.

• Synchronize your breath. This technique involves matching your breath with your partner’s, inhaling and exhaling together until your breathing becomes one.
• Pulse play. Pulse play is another Taoist technique. Gently open and close your partner’s hand or squeeze it in a soft, rhythmic motion. Your partner can also reciprocate by squeezing your hand back.

Practice Tantra. Tantra is a way of using sexuality as a form of meditation, so integrating Tantra into your sexual practices can make them more exciting for both of you. Here are some Tantra practices you both can easily try:

• Look into each other’s eyes. Maintain eye contact with your partner during intercourse and as you reach orgasm.
• Alternate breathing rhythms. Try alternating your breath with your partner. For example, inhale when your partner exhales, and vice versa.