Buzz
If you wish to seem elusive and silent, this article is for you.
It’s an effective way to avoid long, tedious conversations, and there’s something fulfilling about keeping your thoughts and emotions to yourself.
Steps
Keep your words to a minimum.
- Say only what is absolutely necessary. (Example: Correct "What are your plans after school?", "Nothing." Incorrect, "What are you doing after school?", "I’m going home, reading, having dinner, and maybe shopping.") Keep the details brief.
Maintain a slight smirk or a subtle, closed-mouth smile. This creates a more mysterious aura, as if you hold knowledge others don't.
Don’t lose your temper, as it may make you appear unhinged and could lead others to believe you have anger issues—something you likely don’t want them to think. Staying calm when angered gives you the upper hand. It also adds an element of mystery, showing that you can control your emotions.
Spend time in parks or near trees, jotting down thoughts in a notepad, sketching, or reading. You could express your feelings through drawings, write in a journal, read books, listen to music, or simply observe your surroundings. Essentially, do anything that projects an image of quiet contentment, suggesting you’re at peace with yourself and don’t rely on others for fulfillment.
Avoid laughing too much, as it can make you appear more outgoing. If you must laugh, keep it subtle—opt for a deep chuckle or a quiet giggle.
Adopt a serious attitude. Complete your homework, show up for work on time, and take responsibilities seriously. Being serious about things is important—it reflects maturity and focus.
Be kind.
- If someone approaches you to start a conversation, be polite, offer a smile, and answer questions (but keep your responses brief!). If you’re uncomfortable with any questions, politely decline to answer them by saying you’d prefer not to share.
Opt for minimal makeup.
- A bit of eyeliner, some dark eyeshadow, perhaps a touch of lip balm or gloss... but nothing too heavy!
If you have acne, a bit of foundation could help. Alternatively, try a good facial wash for clearer skin.
If someone greets you with a "Hi," a quick smile can be enough. If you feel it might seem rude, you can softly respond with a whispered "hi"—keep it subtle.
If you're in a car or sitting on a sofa, position yourself at the edge. Sitting in the center may make it appear like you’re eager to engage in conversation or respond actively.
Decide which aspects of your personality you want to share openly, and which ones you want to keep more hidden. For example, you might openly dislike reading, but only reveal your fear of public speaking on rare occasions.
Remain silent. Don’t speak at every chance you get. This will show others that you understand when it’s time to speak, and when you do, your words hold significance. However, don’t completely withdraw from conversations.
Spend time reading a book or sketching. Avoid skipping rope or playing football. If you’re going swimming or ice skating, just float or observe your surroundings. Activities like playing on rafts or skating in a public place won’t give off the mysterious vibe you’re aiming for.
Limit your TV time. It’s okay when you’re by yourself, but watching shows like Zoey 101 or Wizards of Waverly Place could make people think you’re just messing around. You don’t want to give them that impression!
Wear dark, rich colors. Think deep purples, blacks, deep reds, and forest greens. Complement your outfit with vintage necklaces, beaded earrings in black and purple. Short skirts with fishnet stockings and colored tights are a stylish yet mysterious choice.
Keep your opinions and emotions to yourself. Share them only with your closest friends or family. Avoid letting your feelings show on your face. The less you reveal, the more intriguing and mysterious you appear.
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Never appear desperate or pitiable in front of others. And if you encounter someone you dislike, don’t let them know you harbor any animosity.
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Don’t ever dismiss anyone. If someone tries to talk to you when you're with another group, keep the conversation brief but polite.
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It’s important to have a few close friends; otherwise, people might think you’re simply antisocial.
The advice in this section comes from the real-life experiences of Mytour readers, just like you. If you have a valuable tip to share on Mytour, feel free to submit it in the form below.
- Pause and think before speaking. This allows you to carefully consider your words, making your responses sound more thoughtful and intelligent.
- Use simple responses like "yes," "no," or "maybe" when asked questions, and try to avoid providing too many details.
Warnings
- Your friends might start to wonder if something’s wrong.
- It’s important to still incorporate your true self into this mysterious persona.
- Being overly mysterious may make others—especially your parents—think you're hiding something. Keep things subtle and avoid going overboard.
- Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable or that you dislike.
- People might start to label you as moody.
- Others may think you no longer like them and stop trying to engage with you. If you want to keep your friends, don’t isolate yourself for too long. Being a loner can be fun, but it's not always worth it.
