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Bookish guys are often deep, intelligent, and thoughtful, but they can also be a bit secretive, and sometimes even quite shy when it comes to showing affection. To help you figure out if the bookish guy likes you and win his heart, we've created a list of signs that he might be into you. Are you ready to learn more about your guy?
Steps
He gets nervous when he sees you.
Is he fidgeting or struggling to find the right words? Watch out for moments when his face turns red, he speaks faster, or seems distracted during the conversation. Bookish guys tend to be shy, so they may get nervous in front of the girl they like. In those awkward silences, help him relax by asking a follow-up question to keep the conversation going, like 'What are your plans this week?' or 'Can you tell me more about that game you just bought?'
He imitates your body language.
What is his body language like when you're talking to him? The bookish guy may not directly tell you that he likes you, but his body language can reveal quite a bit. Pay attention to when he mimics your movements and gestures.
- When seated at a table, try interlocking your fingers and see if he does the same.
- If standing, try leaning in a little and observe if he mirrors you.
- To add a playful twist, you could casually mention, 'Hey, did you know that mirror neurons in our brain cause us to mimic the behaviors of the person we like?'
He glances at you, then quickly looks away.
Have you ever caught him looking at you secretly? You might catch his gaze, but he quickly turns away. Bookish guys may not have the courage to make eye contact if they like you. If you do lock eyes, smile at him to let him know you like him too.
He shows off his intellect.
His intellectual abilities are perhaps what the bookish guy is most proud of about himself. Whether he takes pride in his book-smart knowledge or his in-depth expertise in a particular field, he will try to show you how clever he is. Watch for these signs that he’s putting his intellect on display:
- He tries to explain random pieces of information to you.
- He volunteers to answer difficult questions when you're around.
- He offers to help you with schoolwork, fix things, or introduce you to great documentaries.
He interacts with you on social media.
He may not have the courage to speak to you directly. Instead, he shows interest by following your online activities, texting you, or sending direct messages. Pay attention to how often, how quickly, and how consistently he engages with you online.
- To hint that you're interested too, tag him in posts related to his favorite subject. For example, if he's passionate about physics, tag him in something by Neil deGrasse Tyson.
- Learn more about his interests by checking out the posts he likes and the people he follows.
- Send him a meme related to his favorite documentaries or subjects.
- Send him a playful, knowledge-based flirtatious message.
He finds reasons to be close to you.
Does he often come closer when you're in a group? Does he choose to sit next to you in class or at work? If you're hanging out with a group of friends, he might stand closer to you than to others.
- Next time you all hang out, watch if he tries to have more private conversations with you than with anyone else. Wanting to be near you alone is a good sign.
His friends tease him when you two meet.
Do his friends make a big fuss when you two meet? Even if your bookish guy is shy to the point of not showing any signs of liking you, his friends may spill the beans. They might tease him, whisper among themselves, or stare at you and him while you're talking.
- Pay attention to what happens if you walk over to his friends and ask, 'What are you all talking about?' as if you want to join in. If they stumble for an answer, it’s likely they know that he has feelings for you.
He shares his knowledge with you.
A bookish guy might engage with you to build a connection. If he’s introverted and a bit shy, he’ll only open up to those he truly likes. If he’s into you, he’ll feel comfortable talking to you about his peculiar interests and discussing topics he’s passionate about, whether it’s a school subject or a sci-fi series. Show him you like him too by encouraging him to talk, for example:
- Ask questions about his area of expertise. For example: 'What’s the main difference between Python and Java?'
- Join a fan community that he’s a part of. You might even wear a t-shirt with the logo of his favorite comic or TV show.
He remembers the little details you’ve mentioned.
Does he often bring up things you've mentioned before? Bookish guys tend to pick things up quickly, and when they’re smitten, they want to know more about you! If he remembers the names of the games you like, your favorite color, or anything you've casually mentioned, that’s a great sign. Not only will you be sure that he likes you, but you’ll also know that he’s thoughtful and attentive.
He waits for you to make the first move.
If you want to know for sure whether a bookish guy likes you, you need to ask him! Bookish guys tend to be reserved, and they may not have the courage to tell you themselves. If you feel like there’s even a tiny chance that he likes you, just ask him! Set up a casual and natural hangout. Find simple ways to ask him out, like:
- 'Tùng, would you like to grab a coffee and study together this Saturday?'
- 'I have two tickets for the sci-fi movie you mentioned the other day. Would you like to come with me?'
- 'I like you! How about we hang out sometime?'
