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If you're still holding onto feelings for your ex and wishing for them to return, sending a message might be just what you need to rekindle that connection. It’s an excellent way to remind them of the bond you once shared. Crafting the perfect opening message isn't difficult, and we're here to guide you on what to say. Once the ice is broken, you can focus on reconnecting with your ex and reigniting the trust and affection between you. Keep reading to find out what you can text to make them come back to you quickly.
Steps
“Can you help me with this?”
Asking for advice is a simple and effective way to start a conversation. Use what you know about your ex to ask for their help. This can make them feel proud and more likely to respond quickly. Here are a few example messages you could send:
- “Do you know of any good games I could get as a birthday gift for my brother?”
- “I just bought a guitar. Any advice for a beginner?”
- “My computer keeps rebooting. Got any tips to fix it?”
- “I’m choosing classes for next semester. Which graphic design course do you think I should take?”
- “I can’t get past level 58 in Game Quest. Can you show me how?”
- “I just got a puppy! When did you start teaching your dog tricks?”
“You won’t believe what I’m doing right now.”
Use this phrase to capture your ex's attention without directly saying you miss them. If they respond, you can tell them you're doing something that you both enjoyed in the past or something they once encouraged you to try. Hopefully, this will start a conversation. Here are some example messages you can send if they ask, “What are you doing?”
- “I’m in the escape room you always wanted to try with me.”
- “I’m at the arcade trying to beat your record.”
- “I finally tried that coffee you said was amazing.”
- “I’m at the water park, just like you used to.”
“This made me think of you.”
Let them know that you're remembering the small details from your relationship. Tell them you just saw or heard something related to their interests, hobbies, or goals. Hopefully, this will prompt a response and keep the conversation going. Here are a few ways to express that you're thinking about them:
- “I just heard our song and it made me think of you.”
- “I rewatched the Harry Potter series this weekend and couldn’t help but think of you.”
- “I was watching basketball and kept thinking about when I saw you play.”
- “I just watched a stream of your favorite game, and I thought of you.”
- “This meme instantly reminded me of you.”
“My family asked about you today.”
Relieve the pressure by mentioning that someone else has been thinking about your ex. It can be difficult to admit that you miss your ex, and perhaps you’re not ready to confess that you’ve been thinking about them. That’s okay; you can simply borrow words from someone else, like a family member or a friend. For example:
- “Khanh told me you just made the badminton team! Congrats!”
- “My friends said they saw you at the movies last night.”
- “Today, my mom was telling the neighbor about how you saved Lucy when she got stuck up high and couldn’t get down.”
“Do you remember this?”
Remind your ex of a beautiful memory you both shared. Sharing a special moment is a powerful way to stir up fond memories and make them think of you. Pick a memory you’re sure they will appreciate. Try sending something like:
- “Do you remember when we sang duets at the karaoke bar?”
- “I can’t forget last summer when we went swimming at the lake.”
- “Do you remember that time we went camping under the candlelight at the park?”
- “Do you remember the night we stargazed together?”
- “Remember when you hit the shuttlecock out of bounds during last year’s match?”
“This picture reminds me of our best moments.”
Send your ex a picture you both took together. This is another way to help them recall the happy moments you shared. Choose a photo where you both look great to show them how they captivated you. You can send pictures like:
- Both of you at a dance or wedding.
- Both of you smiling at a significant milestone.
- Both of you playing on a lake or beach.
- Both of you hiking together.
- Both of you embracing each other lovingly.
“Do you still like this?”
Ask your ex about something they care about to start a conversation. This way, you can break the ice while showing that you remember the small details of their life. Choose something they’re passionate about, like a band they love or a personal goal they’ve been working towards. Here are some ideas:
- “Do you still like Taylor Swift?”
- “You still enjoy that blueberry cream cheese spread on your bagels, right?”
- “Are you still into K-pop?”
- “Are you still writing that novel?”
“What’s the thing you miss most about our relationship?”
Asking open-ended questions is a great way to spark a conversation. This works especially well if you two parted on good terms, but it feels like your ex wasn’t deeply invested in the relationship. Try focusing on the positive moments you shared to help them recall the good times. You could ask:
- “What have you been doing since we broke up?”
- “What’s your favorite memory from our time together?”
- “What do you think could have saved our relationship?”
- “When you think of me, what comes to mind?”
“I truly apologize for what I did. What can I do to make it right?”
Apologize if you’ve made mistakes in the past. You can start with this if you genuinely hurt them when you were together. Acknowledge that you messed things up and promise to treat them better moving forward. Here are some ways to apologize:
- “I’ve been feeling guilty for making you sad. I deeply regret what I did and want to make it up to you.”
- “I know I’ve wronged you. I’m working hard to be a better person, and I know things will be different going forward.”
- “I’m truly sorry for hurting you. I know I was wrong, and I promise to change. Would you give me another chance?”
“I miss you so much.”
Be honest and don't be afraid to show your vulnerability when sharing your feelings with your ex. Although it might be intimidating, expressing how you feel is the best way to win their heart back. Hopefully, they’ll feel the same way, and the two of you can rekindle your relationship. Here are other ways to express your emotions:
- “I can’t stop thinking about you. I’m serious. I hope you’ll give me another chance.”
- “I’ve really missed you over the past few weeks.”
- “I’m so happy we’re talking again. I’ve been really sad since we broke up. I miss you.”
- “Honestly, I still love you.”
“Would you like to hang out with the group?”
Invite your ex to hang out with a group of friends as the first step. Your goal is to bring your ex back, but you may not be ready to ask for a date yet. A group hangout is a great first step to reignite the spark you once had. You can try sending:
- “This weekend, everyone’s getting together at Mai’s place to play games. Do you want to come?”
- “My friends are organizing a bowling night this weekend. Would you like to join?”
- “I’ve started a study group for English. We’re meeting tomorrow at 4 PM at the café. Would you like to come?”
- Linh just started a sci-fi book club. I think you’ll like it. We’re meeting on Saturday to choose the first book. Do you want to join?”
“Would you like to hang out?”
Invite your ex out when you feel ready. You might be eager to get back with your ex, but this process will take some time. Start by reconnecting with an invitation for a date. Here are some ways to ask them out:
- “I’ve been craving Japanese food lately. Would you like to have dinner with me at the sushi restaurant this Friday?”
- “Do you still want to play mini-golf again? How about we go to the golf course this Saturday?”
- “I miss laughing with you. Are you free tomorrow to grab coffee with me?”
- “I have an extra game ticket for this weekend. Would you like to come with me?”
Advice
- If you had a difficult breakup, tell your ex that you’ve changed and that things will be different this time around.
- If your ex isn’t responding, it may mean they don’t want to get back together.
Warning
- Stop texting if your ex clearly indicates they need some space. It's important to respect their personal boundaries.
- Make sure you understand why you want to get back together with your ex. If it's just because you feel lonely, it's better to let go, no matter how hard it is. Try focusing on your hobbies and spending time with friends during this period.
