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Asking for a second date can still feel a bit daunting. If you managed to get through those nerves the first time, asking again should be a little easier. To make things smoother, consider asking via text. It’s a relaxed way to suggest and plan the next date without the pressure of a face-to-face conversation. We’ve compiled some examples to help you ask for that second date over text.
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“I really enjoyed the other night. I’d love to do it again sometime.”
Sometimes, being straightforward and simple works best. Clear communication will show them you’re someone who knows exactly what they want, and they’ll appreciate that. If they agree, follow up with ideas for the second date, and you can plan it together from there.
- Try suggesting a specific date to show you’re serious about your interest, and help get them excited for the second date.
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“How about going to that basketball game on Friday night?”
Take them to a place both of you enjoy for your second date. Whether it’s cheering on your favorite team at a game or dining at their favorite restaurant, showing interest in what they like will let them know you were paying attention on the first date—and could set you up for a second one.
“Why don’t we check out that new movie this weekend?”
The "why not" approach works well when asking for a second date. You’re proposing an idea and challenging them to come up with a reason not to go. It can be tough to pull off spontaneously, but it’s often a great way to get a yes. You could also ask about something they mentioned.
- “How about that restaurant you mentioned?”
- “Why don’t we go to that spot with the amazing view you wanted to visit?”
- Be cautious if your first date didn’t go as planned, as this approach may come across as a bit too eager if you’re too confident they’ll say yes.
“How about we make it a fun competition: whoever wins gets to decide where we go on the next date.”
Propose a fun competition or game to decide where your second date will be. There’s no need for a detailed plan—just see how things unfold. Maybe challenge each other to create the best ice cream sundae or decode some emojis into movie titles.
- If you’re unsure about what to do for a second date, choose a game where your date has a good chance of winning. Let them pick the activity, as winning boosts their mood and having input in the plan will make them feel involved.
“I bet you can’t make me laugh that hard again.”
Get them excited for a second date by reminiscing about the first one. Tell them you couldn’t take your eyes off them, or recall that hilarious moment when you laughed so hard at their joke that soda came out your nose. It’s a subtle way to hint at a second date, and making them laugh is a great way to improve their mood, increasing the chance of a yes.
- If your first date didn’t go as planned, humor can still show that you're interested. Reminisce about the fun moments, and you might find yourself on the path to a second date.
“I’m heading to the beach this weekend, want to come along?”
Focusing on the activity you’ll be doing makes things simpler. If you suggest something they mentioned or suggested, it shows that you were paying attention and share some common interests. It also leaves room for them to offer other ideas, like catching a movie and grabbing ice cream afterward.
- If they decline, don’t take it personally. Simply ask if there’s something else they’d prefer to do. If they’ve already seen the movie or don’t feel like joining you, suggest meeting up for a quick bite afterward to talk about the film.
“Do you know of any great spots for a picnic around here?”
Once they answer, invite them to join you. This makes them feel more at ease and helps position the second date as something they helped create. If they’re into sports, you could ask if they know of any good fitness classes nearby or if that new park in town is worth a visit.
“How about I take you to that new bakery? I think you’ll really like it!”
Suggesting something both of you will enjoy is a great way to set up a second date. This tactic gets them excited about agreeing. You can even suggest a place they’ve mentioned, such as a museum with a new exhibit or a library hosting a guest speaker event.
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Sports events make for excellent second date suggestions you can propose via text. Opting for something relaxed like a hike or a light jog on the weekend can help keep things casual, and having other people around can ease any nerves. Consider suggesting activities such as running, cycling, or dancing to ensure you both have plenty of time to enjoy each other's company.
“I’ll tell you when I see you next.”
Send them a text about something you can’t wait to share face-to-face. This is a laid-back way to spark some curiosity and initiate a second date with just a simple message. Begin with a funny childhood story or something exciting you encountered recently to grab their attention. Creating a bit of intrigue is a great way to reel them in for a second date.
“When can I hear your voice again?”
If texting feels too reserved, consider following up with a phone call. Asking for a second date over the phone feels more personal. Making a quick call with a compliment prepared, such as telling them how much you enjoyed hearing their voice or how much you like their laugh, can add a playful touch. Phone calls help move things along faster and ease any anxieties compared to texting alone.
“I bet you won’t be able to guess where our next date is going to be.”
Adding an element of surprise can make asking for a second date over text even more exciting. Fun activities like escape rooms or scavenger hunts can bring a fresh twist and allow you to try something completely different. You’ll see their personality shine through, and it’ll be interesting to see just how clever they are.
EXPERT ADVICE
Cher Gopman
Dating Expert
Dating Expert
Using emojis in moderation is perfectly fine when texting. Just avoid overdoing it, as too many can come across as overly eager. A little sprinkle of emojis can make you seem playful and approachable. Make sure to keep the conversation flowing as well—don’t dwell on a single topic for too long, as it might start to feel monotonous. Another great idea is to send a photo of a place that reminds you of them, or mention that a song came on that brought them to mind. This shows you’re thinking about them and can create an exciting sense of connection.
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So, I recently went on a first date where we hit it off really well. We agreed we’d have to meet up again soon, but now I’m stuck trying to come up with ideas. I want something that allows us to keep talking and getting to know each other, but I also want to show my fun side! Any suggestions are welcome!
Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Expert
Dating & Relationship Expert
The best date ideas always involve movement! I’m a big fan of walking—whether it’s along a river, through a park, or exploring a fun place. It could be a shopping mall, an arcade, or even a bowling alley. Any kind of date that gets you moving is great. Even if you’re planning to grab dinner, consider getting takeout and walking somewhere with it, like sitting on a park bench to eat. Just pick a place that sparks your curiosity and enjoy exploring it together.
I've had a lot of success with mall dates as a second date idea! They’re perfect because as you walk around the mall, you’ll naturally come across things that spark conversations. Whether it's a funny store display or people-watching, there’s always something to talk about.
Here’s a little trick to make mall dates even better: plan to go about an hour or two before the mall closes. If the date isn’t going well, it gives you an easy way to wrap things up. But if things are going well, you'll have the chance to keep walking after the mall closes, giving you a more intimate, private space for deep and meaningful conversations. For my first and second dates with my boyfriend, we ended up spending 5 to 6 hours together!
Here’s a little trick to make mall dates even better: plan to go about an hour or two before the mall closes. If the date isn’t going well, it gives you an easy way to wrap things up. But if things are going well, you'll have the chance to keep walking after the mall closes, giving you a more intimate, private space for deep and meaningful conversations. For my first and second dates with my boyfriend, we ended up spending 5 to 6 hours together!
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