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Texting is a fantastic way to get to know a girl without the discomfort of face-to-face interaction. But when she messages you with "what are you up to?" you might feel unsure how to reply. If you're stuck on how to keep the conversation going, don't worry—you're not alone! We've compiled a variety of responses to this question to help you keep the chat engaging and fun with your crush.
Steps
"Looking at memes. Check out this pic."
Make her laugh with a funny image to keep the conversation going. If you know her well, you can pick a meme saved on your phone to make her smile. If you're unsure about her preferences, browse Instagram or Facebook until you find a meme that makes you laugh. Hopefully, she'll send one back! You can also say something like:
- "Nothing much, just laughing at this meme."
- "Swapping memes with my friends, like this one."
"Thinking about you."
This is a flirty message to let her know you like her. If you've been dating or have made it clear that you're interested, this is a suitable message. However, if you're just friends, opt for a more innocent text. Telling her you're thinking about her will make her happy, as it shows she's on your mind even when she's not around. You could also say:
- "Trying to focus on work, but I keep thinking about you."
"Getting ready to go out. Want to join us?"
Invite her to join your group if you're heading out. Sometimes, when a girl asks what you're up to, she might be hinting that she wants to hang out. Inviting her to join your group is a casual way to spend time with her without making it a formal date. Let her know where you're going and ask if she'd like to come along. You could also say:
- "Heading out for drinks with a friend. Want to join?"
- "Thinking of going out later. Want to meet up?"
"Planning our next date spot."
This is a great way to ask her out for a second or third date. If you've been on a few dates, let her know you're looking forward to the next one. You can spark her excitement by vaguely hinting at your plans for the next meetup. This builds anticipation and shows her you're serious about spending time together. You could text:
- "Looking up restaurants. How do you feel about Italian food?"
- "Nothing much, just buying tickets for an exhibit this weekend. Are you free on Friday?"
- "Checking the weather to make sure our park camping trip next week goes smoothly."
"Trying to focus in class. Want to skip and hang out with me?"
If you want to hang out with her right now, try this response. This reply is a bit risky—if she's busy with work or school, she might not want to skip just to see you. However, if she's home alone and bored, she might be up for it. You could also text:
- "Nothing much, can't focus on anything. Are you busy?"
- "Nothing much, really looking forward to seeing you. Want to meet up sooner?"
"Trying to sleep but can't."
Let her know you're up for late-night texting. If she messages you close to bedtime, tell her you're still awake and ready to chat. Sometimes, texting someone can help you fall asleep easier, especially if you're feeling anxious. It shows her you're willing to stay up to talk. You could also say:
- "Lying in bed but can't sleep. How about you?"
- "About to go to sleep but would rather talk to you."
"Not much. What are you up to?"
Ask about what she's doing to keep the conversation going. If a girl texts you and you know what she's up to, you can ask about it to continue the chat. This works especially well if she's doing something fun or unusual, as people enjoy talking about such plans. You could also say:
- "Nothing beats talking to you! How's the beach?"
- "Not much, just at home. Send me some pics from your vacation!"
"Not much. Want to come over?"
This is a more direct way to let her know you're interested. If you've been flirting for a while and you're feeling bold, try sending this message. Since she asked what you're doing, it might mean she's looking for a reason to come over, so she might appreciate the suggestion. However, if you're just friends, this could come off as too forward. You could also text:
- "Home alone, super bored. What are you up to?"
- "Just at home. Want to come over?"
"Sorry, I was sleeping."
If you want to avoid a late-night flirty call, this is how to respond. When a girl suddenly texts you late at night asking what you're up to, it might indicate she has more physical than romantic intentions. If you're not into casual relationships or simply not interested, you can ignore the message until morning. If you don't feel like replying, you don't have to.
- A "what are you up to" text can come off as casual and might suggest she's not being serious. If you think she's texting out of obligation, you don't need to respond unless you want to.
- You can also ignore late-night texts if you know she's been drinking.
