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Consistently giving compliments is essential for strengthening and maintaining your relationship. Mutual attraction may ignite a relationship, but it requires effort to sustain it. If you're looking to learn how to give thoughtful compliments that help nurture your bond, discover what to say and the best way to say it.
Steps
Knowing What To Say
Compliment appearance, but make it deeper. It's common for guys to be labeled as superficial. While appreciating the person's physical attractiveness is fine, don't make it the focal point when responding to your partner's question.
- Begin by mentioning what caught your attention, then shift focus to their personality: "The first thing I noticed were your eyes, but over time, I've come to admire your sense of humor. I love how you make me laugh."
- When complimenting appearance, refrain from referencing body parts. Instead, say, "You look stunning in that dress." or "You look sharp in that suit." Compliment their fashion sense.
- Always avoid crude language. Steer clear of slang for body parts, as it's neither humorous nor flattering.
Compliment your partner's character. Your partner is likely more interested in knowing what you like about their inner qualities, not just their physical appearance. This means you should look beyond the surface and praise the qualities you admire in them. Here are some great suggestions:
- "I admire how you remain calm when faced with challenges."
- "I love how you care for animals and bring joy with your playful nature."
- "I appreciate your deep passion for music."
- "I admire how you're such a wonderful sibling and an amazing child to your family."
- "I love how you're always ready to lend a helping hand to those in need."
Compliment your partner's intellect. If you're drawn to your partner's intelligence, it’s great to acknowledge their sharp mind. Compliment them on their intellectual abilities and insights.
- "I love how deeply you care about the environment and the world around us."
- "I appreciate your dedication to your studies and your commitment to attending a top college."
- "I love how well-read you are and your vast knowledge across various subjects."
- "I admire your involvement in politics and your genuine desire to make a positive impact."
Compliment your partner's abilities or talents. What unique traits or skills of your partner attract you? Compliments highlighting these distinct qualities are always special and meaningful.
- "I admire your dedication to your work. It’s something I deeply respect about you."
- "This pie you made is absolutely delicious! Your talent in baking is impressive."
- "I love your sense of humor. Hanging out with you is always a blast because you keep me laughing."
- "I admire how you manage your hobbies so well. You’re so talented and make great use of your free time."
Express how your partner makes you feel. Compliments feel more heartfelt when they're tied to your personal emotions and the connection you share. This makes them far more genuine than a generic compliment that could apply to anyone.
- "I love how much I care about you. I’m completely smitten by you."
- "I adore how you turn me on in ways no one else can."
- "I love how you make me laugh every single time we’re together."
- "I enjoy how we can simply hang out, doing nothing, and it still feels so exciting."
Be as detailed as possible. Avoid compliments that sound impersonal or generic. To make your compliments truly meaningful, personalize them and use vivid details that demonstrate how much you appreciate your partner. Here’s how you can do that:
- Instead of saying, "I like your body," say, "I love the way you walk and carry yourself. I love how you tuck your hair back when the wind blows while we stroll in the park."
- Instead of saying, "I like your personality," say, "I adore how you get visibly frustrated when something annoys you, and you become all fidgety and give me that knowing look. It makes me feel even closer to you."
- Instead of saying, "I like your sense of humor," share a moment together that shows it, like saying, "I love how you secretly eat peanut butter right out of the jar when you think no one is watching. It’s so adorable and makes me laugh every time."
Be honest and speak from the heart. When asked this question, most people simply want to know the truth, with no hidden agenda. If you admire someone because they make you laugh, say so. If you find someone attractive because of their physical features, be open about it. Show them the respect they deserve by sharing with them exactly what you appreciate about them, in a clear and honest way. This isn't a test you need to pass; it's a genuine question that can help you build a closer bond.
Mastering the Art of Delivery
Compliment without being prompted. If someone is asking for compliments, it might mean you haven't been sharing them freely enough or are doing so in the wrong way. Compliments should never be a result of feeling pressured or as a last-minute effort to fix something. Compliment just because you want to.
- When's the best time to give a compliment? Anytime. If the conversation slows down and you're struggling to come up with something to say, a sincere compliment can always brighten the moment.
- If your compliments are only given when you're apologizing, it's time to be more emotionally available in your relationship and show you care more often.
Compliment regularly, but don’t overdo it. Offering a couple of heartfelt compliments each week will make your partner feel appreciated, but if you're constantly showering them with praise about every little thing, it may come off as excessive. A few thoughtful, well-timed compliments are more meaningful than an endless stream of praise.
- What's a good rule? Give compliments when it feels right, but also surprise them occasionally with one just because.
Compliment your partner spontaneously. The best compliments are the ones that come naturally, as if you noticed something and immediately felt the urge to express it. If your partner does something that catches your attention, let them know right away. If you suddenly find yourself thinking, "Wow, their eyes look amazing today," then compliment them on it. There's no better time than right now.
Send compliments even when you're not physically present. Unexpected compliments are like little gifts throughout the day. While it’s important not to overdo it, sending a few thoughtful messages can show your partner that you care.
- Send a compliment by text during the day.
- Leave a sweet note with a compliment in their locker or on the fridge at home.
- If you're online, open up a chat window and send them a random reminder that will brighten their day.
Change it up a bit. If you keep complimenting the same things, like your partner's body in those jeans, they may start to feel less special. Just like you wouldn’t want to eat the same meal every day, don’t fall into the trap of repetitive compliments. Surprise your partner by appreciating different aspects of them each time. It will keep the spark alive and your connection strong.
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Practice your response when you're alone so when they ask, you won't be caught off guard or speechless.
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Always make eye contact when you answer their question.
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Be truthful and authentic in your response.
This section offers advice based on real-life experiences shared by Mytour readers like you. If you have a tip that could help others, feel free to share it by submitting it in the field below.
- If a girl asks why you like her and you need a moment to think, don't stay silent. She might think you don't have an answer. Instead, say something like, "Give me a second, I want to choose the right words to express myself properly."
- If you're struggling to find the right words, reflect on what made you decide to take your relationship beyond friendship.
