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So, you’ve texted a girl asking if she wants to hang out, and she replies with "maybe," "not sure," or "let’s see." What does this mean, and how should you respond? It’s crucial to consider the context of your conversation with her, especially through text or a dating app. If you look a little deeper, it’s not hard to figure out what she means and find a way to move forward. Read this guide to understand all the possible meanings behind a "maybe" and how to craft a clever response!
Steps
Flirt with her.
Maybe she’s just teasing you with a playful "maybe." Review your previous conversation—if it’s clear that you two are connecting and having fun, this is likely the case. If she adds an emoji like 😉 or 😏, it’s obvious she’s joking around. Respond with something lighthearted and playful:
- You: "Do you want to grab food tomorrow night?"
- Her: "Hm, Maybe 😏"
- You: "You know you don’t have to go get it yourself, right? A delivery person will bring it to you."
- Her: "Oh, that sounds good, definitely!"
- Emojis are great tools for flirting and joking—just don’t overuse them.
Pursue her a little.
If she’s playing hard to get, it means she’s giving you a chance to chase her further. If she often takes a while to reply or always says "maybe" or "let’s see," she might be trying to seem elusive. Don’t give up! Keep pursuing her—this phase usually passes after a few weeks.
- You: "Want to grab a drink tomorrow?"
- Her: "Maybe!"
- You: "Let me guess. Are you solving world hunger again? Maybe one day we can tackle it together!"
- Her: "Alright, you got me 😉"
Suggest rescheduling the date.
Try proposing a different time if she’s busy or has a conflicting schedule. Rescheduling works best when you really value the outing or when you two already have a good connection. Suggest another day or time so she doesn’t feel pressured.
- You: "Hey Van! Want to grab coffee tomorrow morning?"
- Her: "Not sure…it’s been a busy week. I might sleep in tomorrow."
- You: "Got it. How about Sunday instead?"
- Her: "Yeah, that works!"
Ask her to keep you updated.
If time is limited, ask her when she can give you a definite answer. Try this approach when the plan requires some preparation, like booking a table or buying tickets. There’s no guarantee she’ll reply on time (or at all), but you can take pride in handling the situation gracefully. Consider texting:
- "No rush. Tickets are available until Thursday. Let me know later!"
- "Great, keep me posted! The bar should still have space if we arrive before 6 PM."
- "Any updates on Friday’s dinner plan? This restaurant fills up fast."
End or change the topic.
Accept that she’s unsure and "maybe" is her answer for now. There could be many reasons—she might be overwhelmed with a busy schedule, or she’s still figuring out her feelings for you. A "maybe" doesn’t always mean "no," so there’s no need to feel disappointed. Gently move on—change the subject or end the conversation and try again later. Say something like:
- "Alright, let’s figure it out later. Have a great evening!"
- "Okay, hope everything goes well. Did you hear the weather forecast says it’ll rain tomorrow?"
- Avoid texting her every single day. Reach out a few times a week to show you care without overwhelming her.
Maintain a positive attitude during interactions.
Be polite and confident while she’s making up her mind. Her "maybe" could turn into a "yes!" if you’re understanding and patient, especially if she’s explained why she can’t commit yet. If you react with frustration or sarcasm, she might get annoyed (which could quickly turn a "maybe" into a "no").
- You: "Want to watch the new Marvel movie tomorrow?"
- Her: "Not sure. I’ve got a lot on my plate this week."
- You: "No worries, I get it. Hope things ease up soon!"
- Her: "Thanks 🙂"
- If you keep the conversation pleasant and light, she’ll be more inclined to continue engaging with you.
Ask if she has other plans.
If you’re close, this could be a way to nudge her for a response. This type of question is assertive, so only use it if you feel she won’t mind you digging a little deeper. Ask once to avoid coming off as pushy or rude. If she ignores it or gives a vague answer, it’s best to drop it.
- You: "Hey! Want to grab a drink later?"
- Her: "Let’s see."
- You: "Oh, are you busy tonight?"
- Her: "Yeah, my sister’s visiting, and I’m not sure when she’s leaving."
Give her a quick call.
If you’re really close, a lighthearted conversation might clear things up. This only works with people you have a strong, trusting relationship with, like close friends (or someone you’re hoping to get closer to). Otherwise, it might feel awkward and lead to misunderstandings. Keep it playful and fun to set a cheerful tone.
- You (texting): "Hey Quynh, want to hit up Pizza Hut tonight?"
- Her: "Maybe…"
- You (calling): "Not Pizza Hut? Are you kidding? It’s the best pizza in town!"
- Her: "Oh my gosh, I’ve had pizza six times this week!"
- You: "Alright, where do you want to go?"
- Her: "How about sushi…"
- You: "Deal! Sushi it is."
- Her: "Haha, okay! Pick me up around 7?"
Let it go (for now).
Sometimes "maybe" implies a "no," but she doesn’t want to say it directly. This often happens when her responses are short or abrupt. When she reacts this way, you can politely end the conversation and stop texting for a while. If her feelings change, let her reach out to you.
- "Maybe" doesn’t mean "never." If she’s someone you know, you might cross paths again, and feelings could rekindle. Reach out to her if it seems like she might say yes.
Move on if she doesn’t give you a clear answer.
It’s unfair to you if she’s indifferent or dismissive of your feelings. While a little playfulness can be charming, you deserve someone who considers your needs and makes time for you. Wait a few weeks to see if things blossom. If not, put the phone down and look elsewhere.
