Buzz
Breakups are undeniably difficult, and things can become even more complicated when your ex contacts you to express that they miss you. Before responding, consider these options and choose the one that best reflects your true emotions. With carefully chosen words, you can communicate your thoughts clearly and let your ex know how you truly feel—whether or not you miss them too.
Steps to Consider
Stay silent and don’t respond.
You owe him no response if that’s what you prefer. If your relationship ended badly or he was unfaithful, silence might be the best option. If he continues to contact you, blocking his number could be a necessary step.
- This is especially relevant if he messages you late at night or under the influence. Such behavior often indicates insincerity.
“I’m sorry, but I no longer have romantic feelings for you.”
Be kind but firm when rejecting him. If you’ve moved on or are working toward moving on, make it clear to him. This approach is compassionate yet decisive, letting him know he needs to release any lingering attachment.
- Don’t be shocked if he doesn’t reply to this message. He may feel hurt and require time to process his emotions.
- If he reacts with anger, consider blocking his number to avoid further conflict.
- Keep your responses brief and straightforward to avoid misunderstandings.
“You’re already in a relationship.”
Point out that his focus should be on his current partner. While receiving an “I miss you” from an ex might feel validating, it’s unfair to his new partner to maintain contact. Politely inform him that communication isn’t appropriate while he’s committed to someone else.
- His new partner likely has no idea you’re still in touch. It’s inconsiderate of your ex to keep this hidden from them.
“I’m currently in a relationship.”
Inform him that you’re no longer available. Engaging with your ex while in a new relationship can be risky, and it might be best to avoid responding altogether. However, if your ex is unaware of your current relationship status, letting him know might discourage further contact.
- If your new relationship is serious, consider informing your partner about the message to maintain transparency and avoid potential trust issues later.
- Even if you’re not in a relationship, you can use this as a reason to stop your ex from contacting you.
“You only miss the idea of who I was.”
Nostalgia often makes people focus on the positives. Gently remind your ex of the reasons your relationship ended. If he questions your response, highlight the challenges and incompatibilities that made the relationship unsustainable.
- For example, you might say, “Remember how different our interests were? You spent time with your friends, and I with mine. We barely connected.”
“Then why did you end things with me?”
If he initiated the breakup, ask him to explain his reasons. This response is ideal if you’re seeking closure. If he reaches out without addressing the past, encourage him to reflect on his actions and decisions. If he’s genuinely interested in reconciling, he should be willing to discuss everything openly.
“LOL.”
This response will definitely catch him off guard. If his message strikes you as absurd or you’re amused by his audacity, a laughing emoji or a blunt “lmfao” will do the trick. This sharp reply sends a clear message, and if he’s perceptive, he won’t bother responding again.
- This is an ideal reply if he’s messaging you late at night or under the influence.
Shift the conversation to a new topic.
Ignore the “I miss you” entirely and steer the conversation elsewhere. If you were already chatting, continue as if he never brought it up. If his message came unexpectedly, try something like:
- “By the way, have you seen my blue sweater? I’ve been looking everywhere for it.”
- “I really miss your dog, though. How’s she doing these days?”
“I’m thriving now, and I don’t miss you at all.”
Let him know you’ve moved on and are no longer interested. This straightforward response should make him reconsider his actions. If he persists, don’t hesitate to block his number or firmly ask him to stop contacting you.
- Don’t let his message disrupt your progress. If you’ve been doing well without him, keep moving forward confidently.
“I miss you too.”
Only use this response if you’re open to rekindling the relationship. Before responding, carefully reflect on why the relationship ended and whether a future together is realistic. If you believe there’s potential for a healthier relationship, this reply might be what he’s hoping for.
- Late-night or intoxicated messages aren’t the right time for serious discussions. If he reaches out during the day with genuine intent, consider having an honest conversation.
- Instead of jumping straight back into a relationship, suggest starting with a casual date to test the waters.
- Reader Poll: We surveyed 404 Mytour readers considering reconciliation, and 52% expressed their biggest fear is repeating past mistakes and getting hurt again. [Take Poll] Reuniting with an ex can be rewarding, but it’s crucial to ensure changes are made to avoid the same outcome.
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Avoid making impulsive decisions about reconciling with an ex. Take your time, seek advice from friends and family, and ensure you’re making the best choice for your well-being.
