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Sending a message is an excellent way to connect with someone you're interested in, especially if you're a bit shy or nervous about approaching them directly. This method gives you more control over your words, allowing you to take the initiative. Instead of just saying, 'I like you,' start by asking questions to get to know the guy better. You can send playful messages and don't hesitate to tease them. When the time feels right, send a short and sweet message confessing your feelings—this might be nerve-wracking, but you'll feel proud for being honest with your emotions!
Steps
Start the Conversation
Say 'Hello' and ask a question to start the conversation. Instead of simply saying 'Hello' or 'How’s it going?' have a clear plan for the conversation. For example, you could say, 'Hi Bình, do you know the English class homework? I forgot to write it down.' Or, 'Hi Lân! I saw you in the school play. Are they looking for anyone to help backstage?'
- You can also comment instead of asking a question. Instead of saying, 'What do you think of today’s History class?' you could say, 'I think today's class was so boring. Mr. Dũng’s lecture on the American Civil War was NOT interesting at all.' This approach will start a casual chat and help you share your personality with the other person.
Advice: Be brave and message them first! There's no reason to wait for them to contact you first.
Ask open-ended questions. Open-ended questions require more than just a 'yes' or 'no' answer, and they're an effective way to learn more about the other person and keep the conversation going. Ask about their favorite movies, books, games, TV shows, YouTube channels, travel destinations, or anything else that comes to mind.
- For example, instead of asking, 'Do you like watching movies?' you could ask, 'What are your top 3 favorite movies?'
- Instead of asking, 'Did you have a good weekend?', try asking 'What did you do over the weekend?'
Give detailed responses instead of just one-word answers. Don’t hesitate to share your personal thoughts! The quickest way to end a conversation is by responding with a simple 'yes' or 'okay'. If you share common interests with the guy you like, chat about that topic. Don’t be afraid to disagree with them—sometimes differing opinions can keep the conversation flowing.
- For example, if they think a certain Marvel movie is the best but you don’t agree, tell them why! You could start an interesting discussion about the characters and plotlines.
- If you don’t know exactly what they’re talking about, ask them. For instance, if you’ve never heard of their favorite band, you could say, 'I’ve never listened to them before. Which album do you like? I’ll check it out!'
Compliment and praise them. The key to giving a great compliment is being sincere and concise. For example, you could send a message like, 'You played really well in the game last Friday!' or 'I’m really impressed with how you aced that essay in class. You’re amazing!'
- Feel free to send compliments even if you’re not discussing any other topic. Just wait for their response before sending another message.
- Avoid mentioning any emotional feelings when sending these types of messages. Saying, 'I don’t know if I should say this because I feel a bit awkward, but I think you're really good at football' can make the message sound strange! Just say it directly: 'You’re really good at football!'
Send flirty compliments:
'I love the scent of your cologne! What brand do you use?'
'I was so happy to see you in class during my presentation today! It was great to see you.'
'I never realized how beautiful your eyes are. That shirt you’re wearing today makes them even more captivating.'
'I’m really excited to know what you think about the latest Lost Boy movie season!'
Send emojis and gifs to showcase your sense of humor. Look for emojis and gifs that align with the topic you're discussing. For example, if you're texting about a boring weekend, send a gif of someone sleeping at their desk. Or, you could send a message filled entirely with emojis for the other person to guess what you're trying to say.
- Be creative and playful in your messages! It's a great way to break the ice and feel comfortable with the other person, making it easier for you to eventually confess your feelings.
Send funny images and videos that remind you of him. The next time you come across a funny image or video, share it with him and add a message like, “This made me think of you!” along with a smiley emoji. You can also say, “I’m thinking of you. Hope you like it!”
- For example, if he mentions he loves cats, find a hilarious cat video on YouTube and send it along with a message like, “For you, the cat lover,” and add a cat emoji.
- Letting him know you’re thinking of him is a great way to move towards sending more flirty texts.
Tease him about habits or things you don’t quite agree with. Be sure to keep it lighthearted and fun, avoiding teasing him about anything that might hurt his feelings. For example, it’s not a good idea to tease him about a stutter. But if he tells you that he still loves watching a movie he liked as a kid, feel free to poke fun about it.
- For instance, send a gif from the secret movie or TV show he loves and text, “I know what your Friday night plans are!” with a winking or sticking-out tongue emoji.
- Or, if you believe Ron Weasley from the Harry Potter series is the best character but he thinks Hermione Granger is the superior one, you could say, “Wow, I can’t agree with you, HERMIONE FOREVER!” with a smiling emoji.
Tip: If you accidentally hurt the guy you're interested in, address it directly. You can say, “I’m sorry for making you upset. I was just trying to be funny, but clearly, it didn’t work! Sorry!” with a blushing emoji.
Ask for his advice or suggestions to do something fun. This not only flatters him, but also gives you the opportunity to invite him to hang out. Try saying something like, “My friends and I are looking for a good café to study at. Where do you usually go?” Or, “I’m so bored! I want to watch a new TV show for fun. Can you recommend one?”
- A great way to continue this is to actually go to the place or do the activity he suggested, and then send a follow-up message. For example, you could say, “I started watching Riverdale and I LOVE it! I’m excited to see what happens next,” along with a gif from the show.
- If he suggested a new café in town, go there with a few friends and send a message like, “I visited the new café, and I loved it! It’s a great spot! Thanks for the recommendation.”
- If you want to ask him out, wait a week and send a message like, “Hey, I’m thinking of going to the café you recommended today. Would you like to meet up and study together?”
Share your feelings
Send the other person a casual message to start a conversation. Whether you simply want to confess your feelings or need something to break the ice, sending that first message will drive you crazy while you wait for a response. If you send the first message and get a reply, at least you'll know that the person is active. Try asking a question or referring to something you've chatted about before.
- For example, you could say, “I need to review for next week's exam, but I can't concentrate. I just want to go to sleep!”
Exchange a few messages to get a sense of the other person's current mood. If the person is in a bad mood or hanging out with friends, this may not be the best time to confess your feelings. Ask how they're doing, what plans they have, or what they're up to. Their responses can give you a clue about their emotional state.
- If they reply briefly or take a while to respond, it might be better to try talking another day.
Tip: If waiting for the “right moment” is holding you back from sending the key message, “I like you,” try setting a deadline for yourself. Some moments will definitely be better than others, but overall, there’s no such thing as a “perfect moment.” If you want, pick a day and commit to confessing your feelings then.
Draft a brief message to tell the person that you like them. Don’t overcomplicate it with too many details. Keeping it short and simple is the most effective way to express yourself. You could say something like, “I like you. Let’s hang out sometime!” or, “I just wanted to let you know that I like you. No pressure. I just want to share my feelings.”
- If you've been texting each other for a while and exchanging flirtatious messages, the person may not be surprised by your confession.
- A lengthy, detailed message about your emotional struggles might overwhelm them. Make sure to give them space to respond and respect their feelings, no matter what.
Resist sending additional messages until you receive a reply. Waiting for him to text back can be tough, but repeatedly sending messages can make you seem clingy and inconsiderate, which could ruin the situation. Try putting your phone down for a while and do something else, like take a walk, watch a movie, or tidy up your wardrobe.
- If he doesn’t reply, that’s his answer. Hopefully, the other person won’t behave this way and will respond, even if they don’t have feelings for you.
Consider his texting habits when reading his response. Does he usually reply in a few minutes, hours, or days? Does he often use emojis and complete sentences, or keep it brief? Analyzing the difference between his usual responses and his reply after your confession could give you insight into his thoughts.
- For instance, if you normally get quick replies but no response after hours of confessing, it means he's taking time to think about how to reply.
- If he usually sends meaningful messages with emojis and gifs but only replies to your confession with one word or a short sentence, it suggests he’s uninterested and doesn’t have feelings for you.
- Remember, everyone reacts differently to confessions. Some people may need time to sort out their feelings if they haven’t considered it before.
Celebrate a "like" response by inviting him out on a date. If he likes you back, that’s wonderful! Try sending a message like, "Phuong, that moment was so nerve-wracking! I’m so happy you like me too! Let’s meet this Friday and catch that new movie! We can grab dinner before the movie, what do you think?"
- If you’re not allowed to go on a date with someone, consider organizing a group outing like watching a movie, bowling, playing golf, or attending a school event.
Handle a "no" answer by giving the other person some space. If the response isn’t what you hoped for, it’s okay to feel sad. Don’t bombard them with more messages asking why they don’t like you, or try to act like you weren’t serious. Simply say, "I completely understand. I hope we can still be friends!"
- Remember, there’s nothing wrong with confessing your feelings, and just because they don’t like you doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
Be proud of yourself for doing something difficult, regardless of the outcome. Whether or not the other person likes you, you’ve done something that most people find hard to do. Take a moment to appreciate how much you’ve grown and how well you now understand yourself through the process.
- You might even take time to reflect on what you’d like to do differently in the future. View every opportunity as a learning experience!
Advice
- If you've never been able to get the other person to open up or reply to your messages, it likely means they aren't interested, and it might be time for you to move on.
- Occasionally, try to disconnect from your phone. It can be hard to put it down when you're waiting for a response, but consider leaving it in another room for at least an hour each day so you don't become overly obsessed.
