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Whether you meet a girl online, through a dating app, or in person, sending a message is the key first step to advancing the relationship. How you begin the conversation will determine the future of your connection, so it’s important to think about what you want to say before sending it. Check out this article to learn how to send that first message and keep the conversation engaging and lively with the girl you like.
Steps
Introduce yourself once more.
Reintroduce yourself so she remembers who you are and saves your contact number. If you two met through a dating app or in person, a brief message to introduce your name is enough. Keep it short and friendly—avoid lengthy messages in your first text. You can send a message like this:
- "Hi, I'm Nam from Tinder!"
- "Hey, I'm Khánh, we met at the party last night."
- "Hi, I'm Sơn, we met the day before yesterday."
- "Hey, I'm Khoa, Đức's friend."
Refer to the previous conversation.
You may have had a brief conversation with her when you got her phone number. Whether you’ve spoken online or met in person, you can always pick up where you left off. It’s a simple way to start the conversation again, and you already know the topics she enjoys discussing! You could say:
- "It seems like we didn’t finish our discussion about whether tea is actually a soup or not last night?"
- "I had to leave early last night, so I didn’t catch your answer—did you say you were born and raised here?"
Send a brief message.
A long message may overwhelm her. When texting her, keep your message to just one or two lines. Avoid sending long paragraphs, and try not to send multiple messages at once if you haven’t received a response yet. You want to grab her attention, but you certainly don’t want her to feel like she’s reading a whole novel when she opens her phone to check your messages.
Ask questions about her.
Keep the conversation going with open-ended questions. These are the types of questions that prevent her from simply answering with 'yes' or 'no.' When she responds, you can also share something about yourself so you both get to know each other better. You could ask questions like:
- "Where are you from?"
- "How many siblings do you have?"
- "What do you like to do in your free time?"
Compliment her.
Don’t just compliment her looks. You could tell her that you really enjoy talking with her and would like to get to know her better, or that she’s amazing. Most girls feel special when they receive compliments, and she might even return the favor! You could say:
- "You’re really interesting. I’m so glad to have the chance to get to know you."
- "I had such a great time chatting with you at the party the other night."
- "Talking to you is really comfortable."
Talk about common interests.
Maybe you both like watching the same shows or share similar hobbies. Whatever it is, you can ask her about it to continue the interesting conversation. Plus, you’ll learn more about her while chatting! If you’re not sure what you two have in common, try checking her social media to find out what she enjoys. You could ask:
- "Have you seen Rap Việt season 2? I’m always excited for the new episodes!"
- "When did you start taking photos? I’ve loved photography since I was a kid!"
- "Oh, you like mountain biking too? I’ve never met anyone with that interest before."
Nhờ cô ấy cho lời khuyên.
Đây là cách cho thấy bạn trân trọng ý kiến của cô ấy. Nếu cô ấy sống tại khu vực nào đó lâu hơn bạn, bạn có thể nhờ cô ấy giới thiệu một quán ăn ngon ở gần đó. Hoặc, nếu cô ấy thích đọc sách, bạn sẽ nhờ cô ấy giới thiệu vài quyển sách hay. Chẳng hạn như:
- “Em thường đến quán ăn nào ở khu vực trung tâm?”
- “Gần đây em có đọc quyển sách thú vị nào không?”
- “Em thích quán cà phê nào ở gần đây?”
Chia sẻ vài điều về bản thân.
Như vậy, cả hai bạn đều có thể hiểu nhau hơn. Khi hai người nhắn tin qua lại, bạn nên mở lòng và trả lời các câu hỏi của nàng. Nếu bạn muốn hẹn gặp cô ấy, có lẽ nàng sẽ thoải mái nhận lời.
- Một cách đơn giản giúp bạn chia sẻ thông tin là nói về bản thân, rồi hỏi cô ấy điều tương tự.
- Ví dụ, bạn có thể nói “Quê anh ở Đà Lạt, nhưng anh chuyển đến Sài Gòn năm 18 tuổi. Quê em ở đâu?”
- Hoặc, “Anh không thích bóng đá lắm, nhưng anh mê bóng rổ. Em có xem thi đấu thể thao không?”
Hẹn gặp trực tiếp.
If you like her, let her know. Texting is a good way to communicate, but meeting in person is the best way to truly get to know her. Try asking if she’s free to grab dinner or coffee with you. Don’t wait too long, or she might think you’re not interested. You could say:
- "Are you free next week? How about we grab a coffee together?"
- "Do you have any plans tomorrow? Would you like to join me for dinner?"
- "I really enjoy talking to you. Would you like to meet up to continue our conversation?"
Advice
- You may feel nervous when sending the first message to someone you like. If you're anxious, try taking a few deep breaths to calm yourself before hitting send.
