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It's common to form soul ties with significant others—and if you’re still emotionally connected to your ex, cutting that bond may be essential to moving on. Soul ties are profound emotional connections that make you feel like your soul is tethered to someone else's. Though breaking this bond might feel daunting, we’re here to guide you through it. Continue reading for a step-by-step process on how to break a soul tie with an ex.
Steps
Recognize the Soul Tie.
The first step to breaking a soul tie is acknowledging its existence. Even if you desire to move on from your ex, your heart may still cling to the remnants of the relationship. Understand that only you have the power to break this connection, and you must fully commit to severing it—despite the potential emotional discomfort.
- To recognize the soul tie, watch for signs such as feeling as though you’ve known the person forever, or sensing that your emotions are deeply intertwined with theirs. You may also believe that meeting them was destined, and find yourself thinking about them regularly.
- After a relationship ends, the soul tie can still make you feel connected. You might struggle to forget details of the relationship or even dream about your ex.
- If letting go is especially difficult for you, this step is crucial for eventually cutting the soul tie between you and your ex.
- It’s important to remember that it’s normal to have lingering feelings for an ex. Loving someone for different reasons is natural, and it’s okay to feel this way. Your ex was once a significant part of your life, and it’s not easy to simply close your heart.
Sever ties with your ex.
Breaking the soul tie is easier and more lasting when you cut off all contact. Commit to not texting or calling them, and consider deleting their contact info if you feel ready. If you’re not ready to delete, at least block them to prevent unexpected calls or texts from your ex.
- Some people try to stay friends with their ex to maintain some connection. Remember, until the soul tie is fully severed, maintaining a friendship might keep you emotionally attached, making it harder to move on.
Get rid of reminders of your ex.
Clearing your space of your ex’s belongings is essential to breaking the soul tie. Gather all items related to your relationship, including gifts, mementos, and anything that carries emotional weight. Dispose of them, donate them, or give them away.
- For some, burning these items in a safe and controlled manner can be a cathartic experience—ensure it’s done safely, burning only items like letters and photos that are safe to discard.
- Don’t simply tuck them away in a closet, attic, or basement. Keeping them nearby means you might revisit those memories.
Remove your ex from your social media.
Out of sight, out of mind. Unfriend, block, and delete any photos of your ex from your social media. Do whatever is necessary to remove their presence from your accounts. It's easier to sever the soul tie when you no longer see your ex’s pictures, read their posts, or receive messages from them.
- Remember, you are not obligated to remain friends with your ex—especially if you're still working on breaking the soul tie. Take the time you need to heal.
Release your ex from your heart by forgiving them.
Letting go of past hurt brings peace. When a relationship ends painfully, it’s easy to become fixated on blame or hold onto resentment. Reflect on the situation and acknowledge the negative emotions. Then, decide to forgive your ex and free yourself from grudges.
- Though forgiveness can be hard, it’s incredibly beneficial. Holding onto anger or resentment can damage your mental health and affect your other relationships.
- Forgiving your ex is an act of self-care, allowing you to move forward without emotional baggage.
Contemplate the soul tie.
Clear your mind and focus on your intention. For basic meditation, find a quiet and comfortable place, and start by concentrating on your breathing. Focus on a fixed point and be aware of how the air moves through your body with each breath.
- Meditation helps you slow down and tune into your emotions. It creates the mental space needed to cut the soul tie with your ex.
- As you meditate, try speaking directly to your ex’s soul, telling them that you’ve chosen to no longer be bound by them.
- Even short sessions—just five minutes a day—can be highly effective.
Imagine severing the soul tie.
Let your imagination help you release your ex emotionally. Close your eyes during meditation and visualize the soul tie between you and your ex as a physical cord or rope. Picture yourself cutting that cord. If it helps make the act feel real and permanent, you can even mime the motion of cutting the rope.
- Come back to this visualization over the days or weeks that follow. Does the cord begin to reform, or is it still severed? Keep repeating the act of cutting the bond until it's truly gone.
Seek spiritual guidance and strength through prayer.
If you follow a religious path, prayer can provide the strength you need to break the soul tie. Offer a heartfelt prayer as you mentally sever the connection with your ex. This spiritual commitment can help you feel like you've decisively and completely removed them from your life. On days when breaking the soul tie feels too difficult, turning to prayer can keep you focused and determined to move forward.
- If you're more spiritual than religious, consider seeking help from a spirit guide through prayer.
Write a letter to your ex.
This gives you an opportunity to express all the emotions you've been holding back regarding your ex and finally let them go. Write about why you've chosen to forgive them, and tell them you're releasing them once and for all. Pour all your thoughts and emotions about the relationship into this letter, so you can let go of everything you've been holding inside.
- There’s no need to send the letter to your ex. Simply writing it out is a powerful way to release your feelings and break the soul tie.
- Breaking a soul tie may take some time. If one letter isn't enough, maintain a journal to continue expressing your emotions and release negative feelings over time.
Focus on strengthening your self-worth.
After a soul tie relationship, your self-confidence might feel shaken. Soul ties, when positive, can make you feel amazing about yourself, so it’s natural to feel vulnerable and discouraged when they break. Focus on rebuilding your self-esteem by affirming your strengths, using positive self-talk, and eliminating negative thoughts.
- It may be tempting to think the soul tie made you complete, but that’s a misconception. You’ve always been whole. Strengthening your self-esteem allows you to move past the past and look toward your future!
Seek support from a professional.
Spiritual mentors or mental health professionals can guide you in severing soul ties. Find a professional who specializes in helping individuals recover from past relationships. They can offer advice and provide support as you work through disconnecting from your ex. Their guidance can empower you to move forward and help you feel less isolated during this process.
- You can also book an appointment with a therapist to assist you with navigating your breakup and processing your emotions of loss.
