How to Start a Text Conversation with a Girl

So, you've managed to get a girl's phone number, but how do you start a conversation that will grab her attention? Texting can be a fantastic way to get to know someone and make a lasting impression on the girl you like. The key here is to come up with conversation starters that go beyond the basic 'hello' and ask interesting questions that will make her want to respond. Fortunately, flirting and texting with a girl isn't as hard as it may seem. With expert advice in the dating field, we'll guide you through the texting process with a list of easy conversation starters.

A simple 'Hello' can be hard to respond to, but asking questions will spark a natural flow in the conversation. Look for open-ended questions that tend to work better than simple yes/no questions, as they give both of you material to keep the conversation going. You can start with a basic greeting like 'Hey, how's your day going?' or try something more specific. Add a bit of context around the question to make it feel more natural. Here are a few examples:

• 'What do you think of the English homework? I feel this way 😬'
• 'Random question: Is there something you've always wanted to do if given the chance?'
• 'I'm making a list of the best movies of all time. What's your favorite movie?'

She will feel appreciated when you ask for her advice. Additionally, this helps you discover more about her likes. Be sure to remember what she shares so you can surprise her later and start your next conversation based on her interests. This also gives you great ideas for a first date, such as a restaurant she recommended or a shopping center she loves.

• 'What book will you read next?'
• 'I'm looking for new music. Can you recommend something for me?'
• 'If someone asked you where they should go for breakfast or lunch, where would you suggest?'

She's more likely to respond if you bring up topics she's passionate about. If you know she loves a band, a movie, or a TV show, ask her about it! Inquire about her thoughts on the latest episode of her favorite show, or if she has any good songs to recommend. Remembering what she likes and dislikes is a great way to show you care about her, and you might even find common ground between you two.

• 'You like The Bleachers, right? I just found their new EP. What's your favorite song from it?'
• 'I saw your Facebook post about coral reefs. How did you join the ocean club?'
• 'You're really into sports. If you had to choose between giving up basketball or soccer, which one would you pick?'
• If you two disagree about something, don't worry! A small debate on 'Which Beatles song is the best' might help you understand each other better and could even bring some laughter between you.

Include some images to make the conversation more lively. It's often said that a picture is worth a thousand words, and it can also change the rhythm of your chat. You can send her a photo of something interesting you saw or a meme you know she'll like.

• Send her a message like "You won’t believe what I saw today," followed by a picture of your friends doing something crazy or a breathtaking sunset.
• Send her a funny GIF and say, "I thought you were the cutest, but this one might just top it."
• Want to change the vibe? If you’re already close with her, send her a song with a note like "This song made me think of you."
• If you don’t know her well yet, send her a link to a movie trailer or a new album from a famous band with the message, "Have you seen this yet?"

Bring up an upcoming event to avoid seeming like you just sent a random message that popped into your head. This is a great approach if you're worried that your message might come off as too sudden or too eager. Mention a popular band's new EP, the upcoming math test, or ask if she's heard the latest news about the athlete she follows.

• For example, you might ask, "Are you going to the game/play/dance tonight?" You can even invite her along (or with a group if you’re afraid of rushing into a first date).
• You could also share a casual story about something you both experienced, like "It’s so funny we ran into each other at Starbucks today!" or "You won’t believe how Ms. Phuong scolded that student in English class!"

Games like 'Would You Rather' can help you learn more about her. Plus, if you two disagree on something, it's a perfect opportunity to spark an interesting debate. You can use this to start a conversation or switch topics if she’s not enjoying the previous one. Here are a few ideas to help get you started:

• "Would you rather travel to the past or the future?"
• "Would you rather travel solo or with a group?"
• "Would you rather live in a place with snow all year round or one that’s incredibly hot?"

One easy way to flirt is by offering genuine and sweet compliments. Unless you and she are already close (and you think she likes you too), avoid compliments about her body or appearance. Compliment her personality and let her know how much you appreciate her.

• "I’ve been thinking about you. I’m lucky to have smart people like you in my life."
• "Every time I talk to you, you make my day 😊"
• "I thought I was the funniest person around until I met you."
• Check out the article Texting Someone You Like if you want more ideas.

Emojis can bring life and personality into your messages. It’s hard to gauge tone through text, but emojis can make your conversation more engaging. The smiley face conveys happiness and flirtation but is harmless enough to avoid seeming too bold or forward. Just drop a smiley, and she’ll notice.

• You can even start a conversation with a girl by sending a series of emojis and asking her to guess what they mean. Try saying something like, "Guess what I’m doing right now! 🎡🎈🍿"
• If you’re unsure how to use smileys, start by adding one at the end of your message, like "Did you watch the latest episode of 'The Quirky Girl'? It was so good😁"
• Generally, the winking face has more suggestiveness and is often used with flirtatious messages. Don’t use the winking emoji where a smiley face is usually found, as it may seem out of place or even confusing.

Use text messages to invite her to meet in person. Texting is fun, but meeting up in real life can take your relationship to the next level. Once you’re ready, you can use text messages to arrange an in-person meeting, whether it’s a date, a casual hangout, or a group outing.

• "Hey, Vân, would you like to study together after physics class on Tuesday?"
• "I’ve got 2 tickets to a concert in the park. Want to come with me?"
• "Are you free this weekend? How about we grab some coffee?"

Sending multiple texts can overwhelm the recipient. Stay calm and give her time to respond to the first message before sending the next. However, if she’s someone who tends to reply quickly, feel free to send multiple messages as she does.

• A good rule to follow is to match her pace. If it takes her 1 minute to reply, you should aim to respond within a minute as well.

Short, one-word messages or curt replies may signal a lack of interest. Give her space to respond, as she might be busy. In the meantime, find something fun to do. After a few hours, you can send another message, but don’t overdo it. Remember, texting should be fun, and someone else might be eager to chat with you.

• Stop texting immediately if she’s not interested. It’s important to respect her boundaries.

• Flirting can be sweet, but it can also become annoying or uncomfortable if done at the wrong time. While flirting, pay attention to her responses. If she replies with flirtatious messages and quick responses, that’s a good sign. If she seems indifferent or even a bit uncomfortable, slow down and return to more casual conversations.
• Don’t over-message, as this could disrupt the relationship. Relax and engage when she’s not busy. Excessive texting might make her feel like you only want to chat through messages and have no interest in meeting in person.

• Be cautious when texting. Remember that messages leave a written record, and sometimes even images that you can’t delete. Never send messages you wouldn’t want to be seen by others, whether shared by the recipient, or due to a lost or stolen phone.