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Let's be honest, no one wants to be apart from the person they love. Long-distance relationships present a major challenge, but they are not impossible. In fact, sometimes couples in long-distance relationships develop even stronger feelings for each other than those who live nearby. It's not as difficult as it may seem. To help, we've compiled a list of tips and strategies you can apply to keep the love and connection with your partner alive, even when you're miles apart.
Steps
Make frequent communication a priority
Regular communication helps maintain the emotional connection. It’s likely that both you and your partner have busy schedules with work and other commitments, so making time for each other as part of your daily routine is essential. Set aside a fixed time each day to call or video chat, so you can both adjust your work around that time and look forward to these moments together.
- Try to find a time that works for both of you. For example, if your partner finishes work at 5 PM and you have a break between classes at that time, use that opportunity for a quick phone call.
- Life happens, and sometimes unexpected events may prevent you from calling. Don’t worry; just let your partner know in advance so they’re not left waiting.
Remind them often how important they are to you
Let them know how much you enjoy being by their side. The distance may make your heart ache, but it also deepens your longing. Express your love frequently and mention the specific things they do that make your heart skip a beat. Saying affectionate words often helps eliminate doubts and strengthens the emotional bond between you two.
- For example, you could say: “Every time I talk to you, I feel so much more at ease. You are the best thing that ever happened to me.”
- You can also say: “You’re so funny. You’re not just my partner, but also my best friend.”
Be open about your thoughts and feelings with them
Open communication is vital in any relationship. Whenever you talk to them, don’t hide or hold back anything. Share what’s happening in your life, your negative emotions, and your current moods. They may offer encouragement or advice, or simply listen as you vent.
- If you feel your emotional needs aren’t being met, talk openly about it with them. Don’t try to bury your feelings or pretend everything is fine. They can help and give you what you need.
- Tell them everything that’s going on in your life! Make them feel special and bridge the gap between you two. Tell them about your tough boss, your goofy friend, and those weird dreams you’ve had recently. Make them feel like a part of your life.
- Since you’re far apart, sometimes words can get muddled or unclear. Don’t hesitate to ask for clarification if you’re unsure whether you understood them correctly.
Talk about the little, everyday details
These little moments can help you and your partner feel closer to each other. Share with them the frustrations of traffic, the mistake of getting the wrong coffee, or the cold lunch you had to eat. Talk about random tidbits you came across online, discuss everything that crosses your mind, and encourage them to do the same. Sharing these small aspects of your day can bring you closer despite the physical distance.
- Sure, the big events of the day might sound more interesting, but true closeness is often found in the small details.
Remind each other why you’re apart
This can provide both of you with comfort. Whether you're separated due to studies, work, military service, or any other reason, you both made the decision that it's worth it. Whenever either of you feels sad about the distance, talk about the reasons behind this decision and how wonderful life will be when you're finally reunited. Focus on the day you'll be together again—it will help both of you feel closer.
- For instance, you could say: “I know you’re finding it tough right now, but once I finish my studies, I’ll come back and we’ll live anywhere we want together.”
- Or you could say: “I hate being apart from you, but this time will pass quickly, and I’m sure the wait will be worth it.”
Set up online date nights
Cook dinner together, watch a movie, or simply spend time together. Use technology to bridge the gap between you and your partner! You could pick a recipe, start a video call, and cook together while keeping your phones or computers on the table. Choose a movie both of you are excited to watch, and start it at the same time during a video call, or use apps like ‘Netflix Party’ or ‘Google Watch Party’ to sync the viewing experience. Or simply make a video call and chat to stay connected.
- Try to plan your online date a few days in advance, so you both have time to arrange your schedules and look forward to the occasion.
- With video calling, you can try out countless romantic ideas for a virtual date! Play video games together, have fun, or even host a dance party for just the two of you.
Exchange gifts with each other
Give them a meaningful keepsake to remind them of you. Gifts can help close the distance in a long-distance relationship and offer something physical to hold onto. Look for something in a local store or online that you think your partner would love. Surprise them with it to brighten their day and show them you're always thinking about them.
- For example, if your partner enjoys collecting stones or crystals, you could add to their collection. Every time they see the gift, they'll think of you.
- You don’t need to pick an expensive gift, what matters is the love and thought behind it. A thoughtful gift will strengthen your bond.
Surprise them with a love letter
Show them that you care and want them in your life. Love letters might sound old-fashioned, but sometimes that’s what makes them special! Write a letter expressing your affection and love, and send it to them without warning. They’ll be surprised and may even send one back to you.
Advice
- Always keep the day in mind when both of you can reunite. When things get tough, this reminder will prove to be extremely helpful.
- Make an effort to travel together. Escaping from your usual living space and exploring the world together will be a wonderful experience.
