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Having a conversation with someone you secretly admire can be both thrilling and nerve-wracking. You might find yourself unsure of what to say or do when you're around them. But don't worry! You can become more comfortable chatting with them. Start by introducing yourself so they know who you are and can initiate conversations in the future. Stay calm and confidently find topics to discuss to keep the conversation flowing. Ask for their phone number in a natural, stress-free way so you can text each other later. You can also use social media to connect with the person you like and get to know them better.
Steps
Introduce Yourself to Them
Share your name with them so they know who you are. If you have a crush on someone at school, work, or anywhere else, start with a greeting and introduce yourself. This way, you can talk and interact with them in the future without being seen as a stranger.
- Don't try to act cool and keep your distance. They might think you're strange or not interested and won't want to talk to you.
- Keep it simple and say, 'Hi! I'm Nam, I don't think we've met.'
Engage in small talk to gradually feel more comfortable conversing with them. Small talk is a great way to start a dialogue and get both of you talking, making future conversations more likely to happen.
- Try commenting on the weather. It might sound boring, but it’s an easy way to get a response from them.
Tip: If there’s a current event happening, like a sports game or political buzz, you can also comment on those. Try saying something like, 'Wasn’t last week’s game amazing?'
Greet them whenever you see them to stay on their radar. If you want to talk to someone you like, this helps them remember you and shows that you’re happy to see them. Smile warmly and say hello whenever you cross paths.
- If you see them every morning at school, greet them with, 'Good morning, Phuong.'
- Be mindful of the situation when greeting them. For example, if they arrive after getting caught in the rain and seem upset, don’t be overly cheerful. Instead, say something simple but caring like, 'Hey, it’s rough out there. Are you okay?'
Add them on social media so you can chat online. Once you’ve introduced yourself and they know who you are, it’s fine to connect with them online. You can browse to see if you have mutual friends or shared interests to use as conversation starters.
- Don’t send a friend request if they don’t know who you are; it might scare them off and ruin your chances of talking to them.
Talk in person
Maintain a calm and positive attitude when talking to them. They’ll be more open to you if you’re upbeat and not anxious or nervous whenever you meet.
- Take deep breaths to stay calm before starting a conversation.
- If you’re having a bad day or feeling upset about something, be honest without being negative. For example, you could say, 'Hey Phuong, sorry if I seem off, I’m just worried about my friend who seems to be going through a tough time.'
Maintain eye contact with them during the conversation. They’ll be more inclined to talk to you if they see you’re genuinely interested in what they’re saying. Eye contact shows you’re listening and engaged.
- Avoid staring from a distance, as it can come off as creepy.
- Don’t stare too intensely at them.
Ask them about their day and keep the conversation flowing. If the person you like feels comfortable talking to you, they’ll share more about themselves. This helps you understand them better, and they’ll talk to you more often if they feel they can trust you.
- Pay attention and listen actively when they speak.
- For example, if the conversation lags and an awkward silence arises, try asking, 'So, how was your day? Anything exciting happen?'
Talk to them about shared interests. Once you know more about them, you’ll find common ground to discuss. You can talk about things you both do at school or mention mutual acquaintances to keep the conversation going.
- For example, if you both like the band Cá Hồi Hoang, discuss your favorite songs or a concert you could attend together.
Tip: Browse their social media profile to see what they’re into and bring up those topics in conversation.
Compliment them at the right moments. If you feel comfortable and confident talking to them, a genuine compliment can make them like you more. Avoid overdoing it; just a sincere and well-timed remark can go a long way.
- For example, if they’ve just gotten a new haircut, you could say, 'Hey, I really like your new hairstyle!'
- Avoid making inappropriate or teasing comments about their body, as it might make them uncomfortable and less likely to talk to you.
- You don’t need to compliment them every time you talk. Overdoing it can make your words seem insincere.
Flirt a little to see if they reciprocate. Once you’ve established a friendship, you can try light flirting. If they respond positively or flirt back, it could be a sign they like you too. If they’re interested, they’ll want to keep talking to you.
- Try giving them a casual but friendly compliment, like, 'You look really nice in that outfit.'
- Don’t overdo the flirting; otherwise, they might feel uncomfortable and pull away.
- If they don’t respond or seem uninterested, dial it back. You can try again later, but don’t ruin your chances.
Ask them for help with something to create a reason to talk. If you work or study together, ask for their assistance with an assignment or project. If they agree, it’s a great opportunity to interact and chat.
- If you don’t have a project they can help with, ask for their advice or opinion on something. For example, you could say, 'Hey, I’m not sure what to get my parents for their anniversary. Any ideas?'
- Asking for their help shows that you value their thoughts and opinions.
Texting them
Ask for their phone number naturally. Once you’ve introduced yourself and had a few conversations, asking for their number doesn’t have to be a big deal. Frame it casually, like you need it for practical reasons.
- Try asking for their number in a way that feels natural, like, 'Hey, what’s your number? I’ll text you in case I need to reach you.'
- Don’t make it awkward by asking too soon; they might feel pressured and hesitate to share it.
Send them an introductory text so they have your number. Once you’ve got their number, send a friendly message with your name and a short note so they can save your contact and be ready for future conversations.
- Send a message like, 'Hey, it’s Khang. Just saved your number! Thanks.'
- You can add a smiley face or friendly emoji to show you’re approachable.
Send funny memes to make them laugh. Making the person you like laugh is a great way to keep them engaged. Share memes or jokes you know they’ll find amusing to start or continue a conversation.
- Send something specific to their sense of humor, like a cat meme, to show you’ve noticed their interests.
Tip: Create custom memes tailored to their interests. For example, use their photo and add a funny caption related to something they’ve said or done.
Create a group chat with them and mutual friends. You can talk to them without pressure by starting a group chat with friends, classmates, or coworkers. Share funny stories, memes, or use the chat to plan hangouts.
- Use a practical reason to start the group, like, 'Hey everyone, it’s Duong. Anyone figured out Mr. Hung’s homework? I’m struggling with it haha.'
- They might see you as a friend if you only talk in the group, but it’s a good way to show your fun side. For more personal or flirty conversations, message them directly.
Invite them to casual hangouts to chat. Use the relaxed nature of texting to invite them out. Keep it low-pressure and casual to avoid awkwardness.
- For example, text them, 'Want to try the new ramen place? I’m craving noodles—feel like joining me?'
- If they decline, stay calm and reply with something like, 'No worries, maybe next time!'
Connect through social media platforms.
Click 'like' on their social media posts to get their attention. This is a subtle and natural way to interact with someone you're interested in. However, avoid overdoing it by liking too many posts at once, as it might come off as strange or obsessive.
Comment on their social media posts. Once you've had a few conversations, it's appropriate to leave comments. Keep your comments positive and friendly to encourage a response.
Tag them in funny or interesting posts to spark a conversation. Social media is a great place to start casual conversations without seeming too forward. Share something you think they'll enjoy and tag them to get their attention.
Send them a direct message to start a conversation. Many social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram allow you to send direct messages. Use this feature to talk to someone you like, but be careful not to come on too strong to avoid being blocked.
Tip: Avoid sending multiple messages if they haven't replied yet. They might not have checked their account, and you don't want to come across as pushy or overbearing.
