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Have you ever wondered if she’s actually flirting with you or if she’s just being friendly? Do you find yourself overanalyzing that smile, or do you question if she truly likes you? While some girls might try to hide their feelings, there are still signs you can look for to gauge how she feels. In this article, Mytour will guide you through some of the flirting signals you can spot in girls aged 10 to 18. Remember, not every girl is the same, and these tips represent only a few of the many ways girls flirt. Think of these signs as clues to help you figure out if she’s into you, but they’re not a guarantee.
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Clear Signs That She Likes You
Pay attention to how often she looks at you. Do you catch her gazing at you from across the room? When you’re hanging out with a group, does she seem to sneak glances at you to see how you’re reacting? If she quickly looks away when you notice, only to sneak another peek, she might just have feelings for you.
- Smiling, making eye contact, or raising her eyebrows are obvious signs that she’s trying to flirt with you.
Does she often tease you? It may not be flirting if she genuinely means it, but if she's slightly rude, laughing or making fun of something you just said or did, she could be showing interest in you.
- Playfully tease her back if you're interested, but be cautious with your words – avoid saying anything that might hurt her feelings.
Pay attention to whether she frequently touches you. Does she touch your arm when talking or when excited? Does she hold your hand? Does she pat your back while laughing with you?
- Does she sneak up from behind and tickle you in a spot that's sensitive? This playful action could be her way of flirting with you.
Does she sometimes send you a fun message, or only necessary ones? If she messages you about something funny in class, a silly photo, or just a random question (like 'If you were a superhero, what power would you want?'), it means you're on her mind. She's trying to start a conversation with you because she likes you.
Cher Gopman
Dating Expert
Dating Expert
If you two go on a date, pay attention to her messages after the date. People can talk about all sorts of things over text, and it's an easy way to flirt. After your date, keep the conversation going and notice the messages she sends. You can use texting to make her eager to meet again and start flirting with you.
Consider whether she is often the one to start conversations. If a girl takes the initiative to start a conversation, it's a very strong sign that she likes you. Usually, girls wait for the guy to approach them, so this is a great sign for you.
Think about when and how often she tries to reach out to you. Does she often try to connect with you online? Does she send you a "good morning" or "good night" message? These are clear signs that she's thinking about you.
Notice how she uses emojis. Does she frequently send messages with smiling faces, shy faces, or winking emojis? If she sends you an emoji with eyes as two hearts, you can be confident that she likes you.
- Avoid using emojis carelessly. Think before sending one and don't abbreviate too much, as it can make you seem immature.
Signs that she may like you
Pay attention to whether she laughs when you tell a story. If she consistently laughs or smiles at your stories (even if they aren't that funny), it's because she likes you – possibly as a friend or maybe even more.
- When a girl likes you, there's often a phenomenon known as the "halo effect," where you seem perfect in her eyes. She'll be the first to laugh at your jokes, no matter how silly or ridiculous the story is.
- This is a subtle compliment where she wants you to know that she finds you funny and enjoys your company every time you're around.
Notice how she comes up with cute nicknames for you. This is a way for her to remind you of a funny story or moment you shared together (perhaps she calls you 'lemon soda' because you once spilled an entire can of soda on yourself), and it helps strengthen your connection. It's also another way to tease you.
- If everyone calls you 'Bear' and she does too, it might not mean much. But if she invents a special nickname just for you, it means she's interested in you.
Don't worry if she stops initiating conversation or doesn't respond right away to your messages. This could be a flirting tactic to draw you in. She may avoid replying immediately because she doesn't want to seem too eager. By replying late, she might also want you to know that other people are interested in her too.
Pay attention to her updates about gaming. She might think gaming is a good way to get closer to you. The following signs indicate that she likes you:
- Does she boast about beating you in a video game? She might be teasing you and trying to lure you into a playful competition as a way of flirting.
- Does she mention losing in a game? She might want you to feel sympathy for her.
- Has she invited you to play a game together? This is her way of finding a common ground where you both can spend more time together.
Think back to whether she ever made odd excuses to talk to you. You might smile quietly when you realize this, but it's something to be proud of. If she's brave enough, she'll walk right up to you and start a conversation. Here are some tricks that many girls (and even guys) use:
- 'Hey, I forgot to bring my notebook, do you remember what the homework was?' She might have genuinely forgotten her notebook but chose to ask you.
- 'Can you help me with this question? I don't even know what this problem is about.' This is especially clear if she's a good student. Why would a top student need help with homework?
- 'Can you hold my bag or carry these things for me? They're too heavy for me!' Girls tend to plan everything carefully. Why would she bring so much stuff to school if she can't even carry it?
Notice her signs of nervousness. When she's around you, does she adjust her clothes, twirl her ring, touch her lips, or play with her hair? If she does these things while looking into your eyes, or glances down after making eye contact, it shows that she's nervous, but in a good way.
- When flirting, girls often touch or lick their lips, or fiddle with a necklace or collar as a way of teasing to make you attracted to them.
Observe her foot position. When she sits next to you or if you're both standing and talking, try glancing at her feet. If both feet are pointed directly at you, it means she is focused on you and likes you. Don't worry if her feet are pointing in a different direction.
- If her body leans toward you, it signals she likes you. This is a strong indication, especially when you're standing in a group, as it shows she's separating you from the crowd.
- If she tilts her head to one side, it's also a sign that she is attracted to you.
- Even though her feet pointed towards you suggest she's open to dating you, if her feet point elsewhere, it doesn't necessarily mean she isn't interested. It’s not a matter of this or that; it’s all about the bigger picture.
Pay attention to how she speaks. If her tone of voice becomes higher or lower when you're around, it’s a sign she likes you. People often unconsciously change their tone when speaking to someone they are attracted to.
Signs she doesn't like you
Notice if she tries to avoid talking to you. Does she lean away from you while talking? Or does she constantly look to the left or right? She might be trying to find an escape.
Observe if she consistently maintains distance from you. Stand or sit near her when she's holding her purse or wallet to see how she reacts. If she grips her purse tightly, uses it to shield herself, or places it between the two of you when sitting close, it's a sign she’s not interested in you.
Observe her reactions when you tell a funny story or make a joke. If she doesn’t respond and rarely laughs at your jokes, that’s not a good sign. She may be going through something upsetting, but if she consistently rolls her eyes while you speak, appears indifferent to your story, or shows this clearly, she’s probably not the right girl for you.
- How does she speak to you? Does she often sound rushed or annoyed when talking to you?
Think about whether she treats you the same way as everyone else. Is she just being friendly? Usually, you can tell when a girl is interested because she treats you differently from others. Some girls may act shy around someone they like, while others might seek more attention from them. However, if she treats you like anyone else, it’s unlikely she’s interested in you.
Take a step back if she starts talking about someone she likes. If she talks about some guy or someone pursuing her, it might not give you much to go on. She could be trying to make you jealous. However, if she asks for advice on how to approach someone she likes or talks about dating others, it means she doesn’t see you as someone she wants to pursue.
