How to tell if a girl likes you even though she already has a boyfriend

Notice the boundaries of physical contact. Observe if she crosses any physical boundaries with you. If she touches you, try to determine if it’s out of friendliness or flirtation. She might just tap your back or she could be playfully flirting because she’s interested in you. Frequent touches may indicate she’s flirting with you.

• The duration of the touch matters. Does she touch you briefly or does her hand linger for a few seconds?
• The location of the touch can give you a clue. A touch on the back may be casual, but a touch on the hand or face could signal deeper interest.
• Pay attention to how she responds to your touches. If you hug her and she leans in, she might like you. If she seems uncomfortable and pulls away, she likely doesn’t share your feelings.

Observe her body language. If she keeps her distance while talking to you, she might not have feelings for you. However, if she turns her body and points her toes toward you, it could be a sign that she likes you. Some women feel shy around men they like. Playing with her hair or touching her neck can indicate that she’s nervous and feels attracted to you.

Pay attention to her eye contact. Some women can’t help but gaze at the man they like. If she likes you, she’ll likely maintain eye contact with you during conversations. If you notice her looking into your eyes, it might be a sign that she’s interested. On the other hand, if she’s shy and avoids looking at you, that could also mean she has feelings for you, though in a more reserved way.

Observe her behavior when she's with her boyfriend. If she’s always happy and smiling when around her boyfriend, it’s a sign you should back off. However, if she seems down or sad, it might suggest that her heart could still be open to someone else. While observing her mood around her boyfriend can give you some clues about her feelings, it doesn’t necessarily mean anything. If she appears unhappy with him, it doesn’t mean she’s not in love with him or wants to be with you.

Assess her sense of humor. If she’s always serious when around you, she may not be interested. It could also mean that she’s shy or not a very playful person, but girls often joke around when they’re around a guy they like. If she seems genuinely happy, teases you, and laughs at your jokes, there’s a good chance she likes you.

Pay attention to what she talks to you about. If your conversations mainly revolve around simple, everyday topics like 'How was your weekend?' or 'It’s so warm today, isn’t it?', it might suggest she doesn't have feelings for you. However, it could also mean she's too shy to ask anything more personal. If she asks about your life and interests, then shares her own, she is likely interested in you.

Be attentive when she talks about her boyfriend. If she never mentions him or only says negative things, it could mean her feelings for him are fading. If she talks about how perfect he is, it’s likely she’s not interested in you. However, this can be complicated, as a girl may have feelings for more than one guy.

• If she says, 'Yesterday, Tanner gave me roses and we’re going out to dinner tonight! He’s the best boyfriend,' it seems she’s not interested in you. But if she says, 'Tanner and I had a huge argument last night because we never get along,' it could indicate that her heart is no longer in that relationship.

Notice when she talks to you. If she goes out of her way to start a conversation or shows interest in you, it’s a sign she may like you. Does she walk faster to catch up and chat with you, or does she only talk to you when you're near? If she seems to act differently from her usual routine and makes an effort to engage with you, it’s likely she has feelings for you.

Evaluate her messages. Pay attention not only to your face-to-face conversations but also to your online chats. If she never messages you or uses Snapchat to chat with you, she probably doesn’t like you (although it could be because she already has a boyfriend). If she regularly messages or uses Snapchat to talk about daily activities or checks in with you, she’s interested. If she only messages once a month to ask about school or work, she likely doesn’t have feelings for you.

Understand your intentions. Before asking her how she feels about you, first clarify your own intentions. Do you just want a one-night fling with her, or do you truly love her? If you don't have genuine feelings for her, it might not be worth your time or hers to pursue it. However, if you truly like her, it's worth asking how she feels about you.

Flirt with her. Don’t rush to ask how she feels about you. Start by flirting to send the message that you're interested in her. Be yourself and tease her when you're around her. Smile when you see her, and engage in eye contact. Try to break the physical touch barrier with a light touch or a gentle tap on her arm. Be genuine and avoid being fake.

Be direct about your feelings. If you feel like you’ve built a connection and you're confident that she likes you too, ask her about her feelings. This can be a nerve-wracking experience, but ultimately, you need a clear answer. Be confident, but also recognize that this is a sensitive situation, and you may be putting her in an awkward position. Even if she is flirting with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn't love her boyfriend.

• You could say something like: 'I know you have a boyfriend – and I don’t want to interfere – but I just want you to know that I have feelings for you. I fully understand that you’re committed to someone else, but I just want you to know that if you don’t love him, I’d like to date you.'
• Give her time to think about what you’ve said and allow her to process her emotions.

Step back if necessary. If she says she doesn’t have feelings for you, it means she doesn’t like you. Let her be and allow her to be happy with her boyfriend. Persisting in pursuing her would be rude and disrespectful. If both of you feel comfortable, continue being friends.

• If she doesn't like you, there are plenty of other girls who might.
• Be warm and sincere when you're courting her.
• Don't assume that if she behaves flirtatiously, it automatically means she likes you.

• Don't tell everyone you have feelings for her, or her boyfriend will find out.