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If you’re wondering whether she’s interested in you as more than a friend, it can be tough to figure out what’s really going on in her mind. Does she like you or think of you only as a friend? Or is she even aware of your feelings? Don’t worry—we’re here to help you understand her actions and words. We’ve gathered the most revealing signs to help you decode her true feelings for you. Keep reading to learn if you should ask her out!
This article is based on an interview with our expert dating coach, Connell Barrett, founder of Dating Transformation. Check out the full interview here.
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She makes prolonged eye contact, twirls her hair, or seems anxious.
Her body language will reveal more than she intends. A girl who likes you will behave differently around you compared to how she acts around her friends. She might either be overly attentive to you or appear nervous and fidgety. Here are a few signs that suggest she has feelings for you:
- She looks you in the eyes and then quickly looks away.
- She smiles at you frequently.
- She plays with her hair when talking to you.
- She licks her lips while gazing at you.
- She appears restless or fidgety in your presence.
- She blushes when you’re around.
- She seems to care a lot about her appearance.
- She leans in closer when speaking with you.
- Her feet and toes point toward you.
She often uses emojis when texting you.
Girls enjoy using emojis, and they might use more when they’re interested in you. Look back through your text conversations to see if her messages are filled with emojis. If so, it might be a sign she likes you. However, it could simply mean she’s just an emoji fan, so keep an eye out for other clues if you're unsure about asking her out.
- Some emojis have a more flirtatious vibe! If she's sending heart, heart-eyes, or winking face emojis, it’s a good indication that she might have feelings for you.
She laughs at all your jokes.
Test her sense of humor with a cheesy joke. Remember a few corny jokes to share with her the next time you're together. You could also try texting her a joke to see if she replies with an emoji, gif, or a comment like “That’s hilarious!” Here are some jokes you could use:
- “What do you call a pig who does karate?” “A pork chop.”
- “What does a tree say when you ask why it got cut down?” “I’m stumped.”
- “Why did the farmer cross the road?” “He saw the chicken do it.”
- “Why doesn’t James Bond fart in bed?” “He’d blow his cover!”
She mentions that she's single.
She wants you to know she’s single so you’ll ask her out! Pay close attention when she speaks to catch any hints about her relationship status. She might drop hints like these:
- “I’m single.”
- “Everyone else is dating, but I’m still alone.”
- “I wonder if I’ll ever meet someone.”
- “It’s been forever since I’ve been on a date.”
- “I haven’t found a date for the dance yet.”
She mimics your actions.
When a girl likes you, she’ll often copy your expressions and movements. Try making a small gesture and see if she mirrors you. If she does, it could be a sign that she’s into you. Here are a few things you might try:
- Nod your head.
- Cross your legs.
- Clasp your hands together.
- Smile.
- Raise your eyebrows.
She lights up when you compliment her.
Give her a compliment and observe how she reacts. Whether in person or through text, tell her you love something about her, like her style or a recent achievement. If she seems overly happy or returns the compliment, it could mean she likes you. Here are some examples:
- “That outfit looks amazing on you!” “You were awesome at karaoke last night!” or “You’re the funniest person I know!”
She wants to keep the conversation going.
Start a conversation in person or via text to gauge her interest. Initiate a conversation by asking her about herself, her hobbies, or current happenings. If she’s interested in you, she’ll enjoy talking with you and will ask about your plans too. Here are some questions you might try:
- What movie do you think I should watch on Netflix and why?
- What do you love most about this city?
- Do you have any hidden talents?
- I’m searching for a book to read. Got any good recommendations?
- Which superhero is your favorite?
- What’s your dream job?
- How’s your project coming along?
- What did you think about the movie you watched last night?
She enjoys hugging and touching you.
Test the waters with a casual touch to see how she responds. This one might take a bit of time to build up, so don’t force any touch with someone you don’t know well. When the moment feels right, gently touch her arm or lean toward her. If you’re close friends or acquaintances, try offering a quick hug to see if she reciprocates. If she touches or hugs you back, it could indicate she’s interested.
- Start small, like brushing against her or sitting near her to see if she stays close or moves away.
- You could also ask for a hug by saying, “Great to see you! How about a hug?”
- If she pulls back or seems tense, it could mean she only sees you as a friend. Give her space to avoid making her uncomfortable.
She remembers little things about you.
A girl who likes you will remember the things you tell her. Pay attention to your conversations with her, whether in person or via text. Bring up topics you’ve discussed previously and see if she remembers them. If she does, it’s a good sign she’s interested in you.
- For instance, if you’re a fan of superhero movies and a new Marvel movie is coming out, you might say, “I can’t wait to see the new movie this weekend. Can you guess which one it is?”
- Alternatively, if you’ve talked about your dog’s habit of escaping, you could send her a picture of your dog near the door with the question, “Can you guess what she’s up to?”
She’s eager to learn everything about you and share her own life with you.
Open up to her to see if she’ll do the same. You don’t have to reveal your deepest secrets, but share something personal you wouldn’t tell just anyone. Tell her some stories, talk about your dreams, and discuss your hobbies. Encourage her to open up as well.
- For example, you might share your childhood dream of becoming an astronaut or a story about a time you almost drowned while swimming.
- After sharing, ask her questions to get her to open up, like “That’s why I’m so obsessed with space. What did you want to be when you grew up?”
She talks about you to her friends.
If she likes you, she won’t be able to stop mentioning you. Her friends will most likely know all about you, including some details you haven’t shared with them. Talk to her friends to gauge what they know about you. Here are a few signs she’s been talking about you:
- They know your name, even though it’s your first time meeting them.
- They know things about you that you never mentioned.
- They talk about her when you’re around.
- They ask your opinion on her.
- If she invites you to join her and her friends, that’s a strong sign of her interest, though she might just see you as a friend. Keep watching for other signs to confirm her feelings.
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She appears to be open to something beyond friendship.
Be direct with her about wanting more than just a friendship and observe how she responds. While it may feel uncomfortable to be upfront, doing so can prevent you from getting stuck in the “friend zone.” If she’s not interested, she’ll likely back off, but if she likes you, she’ll indicate that. Make sure you do this only if you’re truly not interested in just staying friends.
- You could say, “I think you’re really interesting, and I enjoy spending time with you, but I just want you to know I’m not looking for a friendship.”
- Alternatively, try saying, “You seem really cool, and I’d love to hang out with you this weekend. I’d like to get to know you as more than just a friend.”
She says yes when you ask her out.
Take the plunge and ask her out. Although it can be intimidating, doing this will give you a clear answer on whether she’s interested. If you’re too nervous, you can always ask her over text. Even if she turns you down, you can shift your attention to someone who may be a better fit.
- You could say, “Hey, are you free for coffee this Thursday? I’d really like to get to know you better,” or “I always seem to find myself hanging out near you at these group events. Would you be interested in dinner sometime, just the two of us?”
- Alternatively, you might text her, “The winter formal is approaching. Would you be interested in going with me?” or “There’s a new Italian restaurant in town. How about we grab dinner there this Friday?”
Join the Conversation...
How can I figure out if a girl likes me? There’s this girl in school who I’m into, and I think she’s into me too, but I’m not sure. I don’t want to risk asking her to be my girlfriend if she’s not interested. Should I ask her directly over text if she likes me, or just pay attention to the subtle clues?
John Keegan
Dating Coach
Dating Coach
One clear indicator that a girl likes you is when she consistently gives you her attention. Sometimes, though, that attention might not always feel entirely positive. A lot of girls will tease or jokingly pick on the guys they like when they flirt. But regardless of how she expresses it, any form of attention is a good sign.
Another clue is if she invites you to hang out with her and her friends. If that happens, it’s a great sign that she sees you as someone she likes, and the relationship could grow into something more. She might even start complimenting you on things like your style or appearance or ask you for advice or help with tasks just to have a reason to talk to you.
Another clue is if she invites you to hang out with her and her friends. If that happens, it’s a great sign that she sees you as someone she likes, and the relationship could grow into something more. She might even start complimenting you on things like your style or appearance or ask you for advice or help with tasks just to have a reason to talk to you.
Pay close attention to her behavior when she's around you. Watch for signs like whether she struggles to make or maintain eye contact with you. If she doesn’t pull away when you're near her, or if she becomes flustered when you're close, these could be signs. If she smiles a lot or seems happier when you’re around, or leans toward you during conversations, it’s a good clue. Additionally, if she stays close to you in group settings or often looks your way, it could indicate that she likes you.
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It’s important to express your feelings clearly and directly. If you don't, she might think you only see her as a friend.
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Don’t rely solely on these signs. Make sure to observe multiple signs that indicate she might have feelings for you before jumping to conclusions.
