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Do you wish you and her could be more than just friends? Sometimes, it’s hard to figure out what’s going on in her mind. Does she like you, or does she just see you as a friend? Maybe she doesn’t even realize you exist? Don’t stress too much because we’re here to help you decode her actions and words. This article compiles all the reliable signs and tips to understand her feelings toward you. Keep reading to find out if you should ask her out.
Steps
She makes eye contact, plays with her hair, or seems nervous.
Her body language can’t keep secrets for long. If she likes you, her behavior around you will differ from how she acts with friends. She’ll either focus entirely on you or fidget restlessly. Here are some signs that she might like you:
- She maintains eye contact or quickly looks away.
- She smiles at you frequently.
- She plays with her hair while talking to you.
- She licks her lips when looking at you.
- She fidgets or seems restless when you’re around.
- She blushes when she sees you.
- She seems overly concerned about her appearance.
- She leans toward you.
- She points her feet in your direction.
She uses a lot of emojis when texting you.
Girls often love emojis, and she might use even more if she secretly likes you. Scroll through your messages to see if she sends a lot of emojis. However, it could just be her texting style, so look for other signs if you’re nervous about asking her out.
- Some emojis are flirtier than others! If she sends you a heart, heart eyes, or a winking face, there’s a good chance she likes you.
She laughs at all your jokes.
Tell an old joke and see if she laughs. Think of a few cheesy jokes to share with her next time. You could also text her some jokes and see if she responds with an emoji, a GIF, or a comment like “So funny!” Try using riddles like:
- “Which mouse walks on two legs?” “Mickey Mouse.”
- “What chicken doesn’t crow but is still called a chicken?” “A hen and a chick.”
- “Why do people close one eye when shooting?” “Because you can’t see anything if you close both eyes.”
- “Why do lions eat raw meat?” “Because they don’t know how to cook!”
She tells you she’s “still single.”
She wants you to know she’s single, giving you the green light to ask her out! Pay attention when she talks to see if she mentions her relationship status. Here are a few examples:
- “I’m still single.”
- “All my friends are in relationships, but I’m still single!”
- “I wonder if I’ll ever find someone who’s right for me.”
- “It’s been a long time since I’ve gone on a date.”
- “I still haven’t found a dance partner for the ball.”
She mirrors your gestures.
When a girl likes you, she’ll often mimic your expressions and gestures. Try making a small movement and see if she does the same. If she does, it’s a sign she might like you. Here are some postures and gestures you can test:
- Nodding.
- Crossing her legs.
- Interlacing her fingers.
- Smiling.
- Raising her eyebrows.
She gets excited when you compliment her.
Give her a compliment and observe her reaction. You can compliment her in person or through a message. Tell her you love her style today or that you’re impressed by something she did. If she’s overjoyed or compliments you back, it’s a clear sign she’s into you.
- Try saying something like, “That outfit looks amazing on you!” “You were the best karaoke singer last night!” or “I’ve never met anyone as funny as you!”
She wishes to continue the conversation.
Initiate a conversation when you meet her or through messages to gauge her interest in chatting. Start the conversation with a question about herself, her interests, or current events. A girl who has feelings for you will want to keep the conversation going and ask about your plans. Here are some questions you might try to start a conversation:
- What movie on Netflix do you recommend I watch?
- What do you like about this city?
- Do you have any hidden talents?
- I'm looking for a book to read. Do you have any good recommendations?
- Who is your favorite superhero?
- What is your dream job?
- How is your project coming along?
- What did you think of the movie we watched last night?
She enjoys hugging and touching you.
Touch her naturally to see how she reacts. This step should usually be gradual, so don't try to touch a girl you're not very familiar with. When the timing feels right, try lightly touching her arm or leaning into her. If she is your friend or acquaintance, give her a quick hug to see if she reciprocates. If she hugs or touches you back, it's a sign that she likes you.
- Start with a very natural gesture, such as a light touch or sitting closer to see if she stays still or moves away.
- You can also try asking for a hug. Say, "It's great to see you! How about a hug?"
- If she pulls back or tenses up, she might not like you more than a friend. Keep your distance so she doesn't feel uncomfortable.
She remembers many details about you.
A girl who likes you will remember the things you tell her. Review what you’ve said or messaged her, then bring up topics you’ve discussed. Hopefully, she’ll recall your words, as it’s a good sign she’s interested in you.
- For example, if you’re passionate about superhero movies and Marvel just released a new film, you could say, “Can’t wait for this weekend to watch the movie. Can you guess what I’m watching?”
- Or, if you recently told her about your dog always trying to escape, you could send her a photo of your dog by the door with the caption, “Any guesses what he’s plotting now?”
She wants to know everything about you – and wants you to know about her.
Be open with her if she does the same for you. You don’t need to share your deepest secrets, but let her in on things you wouldn’t tell just anyone. Share personal stories, talk about your goals and interests, and encourage her to share her thoughts with you.
- For instance, you could tell her about your childhood dream of becoming an astronaut or the time you almost drowned while learning to swim.
- After sharing a story, you might say, “That’s why I’m so fascinated by space. What did you dream of becoming when you were little?”
She talks about you with her friends.
She won’t stop talking about you if she likes you. This means her friends will definitely know your name and probably some interesting details about you. Talk to her friends and see what they say. Here are signs she’s into you:
- All her friends know your name, even if it’s your first time meeting them.
- They know things about you that you’ve never told them.
- They bring her up in conversations with you.
- They ask you what you think of her.
It seems she likes you more than just a friend.
Tell her you want your relationship to be more than just friendship and gauge her reaction. While it might feel awkward to be so direct, this approach can help you avoid the dreaded “friend zone.” She might either pull back if she doesn’t feel the same way or admit she likes you too. Remember, only do this if you genuinely don’t want to remain “just friends.”
- You could say, “You’re such an amazing person. I really enjoy spending time with you, but I want you to know that I see you as more than just a friend.”
- Or, “I think you’re really special. I was hoping we could spend some time together this weekend. I’d like to get to know you on a deeper level.”
She agrees to go out with you.
Take the bold step of asking her out on a date. It might be nerve-wracking, but this will give you clarity about her feelings. If you’re too nervous, try suggesting it over text. She might say no, but at least you’ll know and can focus on someone who’s a better match for you.
- You could say, “Are you free for coffee this Thursday? I’d love to get to know you better,” or “I feel like I’m always drawn to you when we hang out in a group. Would you like to have dinner sometime, just the two of us?”
- Text something like, “The school dance is coming up in a few weeks. Would you like to go with me?” or “There’s a new Italian restaurant that just opened. Would you like to have dinner there with me this Friday?”
Advice
- Do not rely solely on one of the signs mentioned above. You should look for additional signs to be certain that she secretly loves you.
- It's best to be clear and honest about your feelings, otherwise she might think you just want to be friends.
