How to Tell if a Guy is Flirting with You

Observe how he treats other girls. If he’s flirting with you, it might be because there’s something special about you. However, if he flirts with everyone, he’s likely just a natural charmer with smooth talking skills. If you’re out with him and other girls, pay attention to how he interacts with them. If his behavior is the same as with you, he probably doesn’t have any special feelings for you.

Consider whether flirting is part of his job. If he works in roles like bartending or customer service, flirting might just be part of his job description. Don’t read too much into how he treats you during work hours. Instead, focus on how he acts around you outside of work. This will give you a clearer picture of his true feelings. On the other hand, if you both work in a professional environment, he might avoid flirting to prevent complications or simply because he’s not in the mood during work hours.

See if he dares to break the ice. If a guy likes you, he’ll find any excuse to get closer to you. He might lightly touch your hand when passing you a pen, brush past you, place his hand on your back, or sit close enough for your knees or feet to touch. If he frequently finds reasons to make physical contact, it’s likely a sign he’s flirting.

Does he laugh at your jokes? You might have a natural sense of humor, but if someone likes you, everything you say becomes even funnier to them. He’ll laugh at everything you say, even if it’s not meant to be funny. If you notice him laughing a bit too loudly at your jokes or chuckling awkwardly when you mention what you had for lunch, chances are he’s into you. He laughs a lot because he enjoys being around you.

Does he often borrow your things? If a guy is interested in you, he’ll find excuses to spend time with you. He might borrow books, movies, or class notes, all just to have a reason to talk to you. Holding onto your belongings also makes him think of you more. He wants to share interests with you, hoping it’ll make you like him back.

Does he act chivalrous around you? While many guys are naturally polite, if he likes you, he’ll go out of his way to open doors, pull out chairs, or even offer you his coat when you’re cold. If you’re walking down the street, he’ll position himself on the outside to protect you from traffic. Observe how he treats other girls—if he’s only this attentive with you, he’s likely pursuing you.

Does he tease you? Teasing is a common flirting tactic. If he gently pokes fun at your outfits, mannerisms, laugh, or anything about you because he finds them endearing, he’s probably flirting. If you feel like a guy is playfully pointing out every little "flaw," it’s likely because he likes you and pays extra attention to everything you do.

Does he pretend to share your interests? It’s great if you both enjoy the same books, music, movies, or food, but sometimes tastes don’t align. If he seems overly enthusiastic and nods a lot when you mention a favorite film or band, he might be trying to impress you by creating a false connection. Don’t be annoyed—this harmless lie is just his way of winning your heart.

Does he give you small gifts? He might hand you a brand-new pen because you don’t have one or offer you lip balm when he notices your lips are chapped. These gestures might not be as grand as a huge bouquet, but they show he’s paying attention to your needs. He’s thoughtful and doesn’t want to overwhelm you with expensive gifts, especially if he’s unsure about your feelings.

Does he joke about guys you hang out with? This is a classic sign he’s flirting and showing interest. If he frequently makes sarcastic or teasing comments about guys you’ve been with, it’s a clear sign he’s jealous because you’re giving attention to others instead of him. If he asks, “What do you even see in him?” he’s definitely into you.

Does he tease you about dating someone else? If he jokingly calls someone your boyfriend or teases you about having a hot date, he’s likely flirting. He’s subtly checking if you’re single or seeing someone because he wants to be that person. It’s his way (subtle or not) of letting you know he’s interested in taking you out.

Does he blush when he sees you? If a guy turns red while talking to you, it’s a clear sign he likes you. Pay attention to his face during conversations—if it flushes for no reason or after something slightly personal, it’s a strong indicator he has feelings for you.

He compliments you subtly. Instead of saying, “You’re so hot,” he’ll find a more refined way to express his admiration. If he praises your eyes, hair, smile, or a personality trait, he’s likely flirting. He might tease you a bit, like saying, “That sweater is blindingly bright,” but it’s still a form of flirtation. Some guys even struggle to give straightforward compliments and resort to playful jabs, though always within acceptable limits.

Does he maintain eye contact with you? If he’s pursuing you, he’ll tend to look into your eyes during conversations. If he likes you, nothing else will distract him—not his phone or scanning the room for friends. His gaze lingers on you briefly, then he might look away nervously with a shy smile. He might even exchange meaningful glances from across the room. If you catch him staring, it’s a clear sign he’s interested.

Does he lean toward you? Body language speaks volumes. If he angles his shoulders, arms, or feet toward you instead of turning away, it shows he’s open and flirting. He’ll keep his arms relaxed instead of crossing them and will turn his whole body to face you. This behavior indicates he’s drawn to you and wants to be closer, often leaning in during conversations.

Does he play with his hair around you? This is another key sign he’s into you. If he likes you, he’ll be more self-conscious about his appearance and how you perceive him, especially his hair. Notice how often he touches or smooths his hair when you’re nearby. He might also fidget with his hair out of nervousness, a clear indicator he’s attracted to you.

Does he groom himself in your presence? If a guy likes you, he’ll want to look his best around you. He’ll smooth out wrinkles in his shirt, brush off crumbs from his pants, and generally aim to appear neat and tidy. He wants you to see the best version of himself and will go out of his way to look attractive. Next time you see him, notice how he fusses over his appearance—it’s a telling sign.

Observe his facial features when he talks to you. If someone likes you, their eyebrows tend to rise, nostrils flare slightly, and their mouth may part a bit. This is a biological response. When someone is attracted to you, their face reveals it all, and you can pick up on these cues by 'reading' their expressions. Just avoid staring directly at their nostrils or eyebrows—it might make them uncomfortable.

He speaks in a deeper tone. If a guy is into you, he’ll lower his voice slightly, which is a clear sign of interest. If you notice his voice is deeper when talking to you compared to how he speaks with other girls, friends, or teachers, it’s a strong indication that he likes you.

He confides in you. If a guy shares personal details about himself with you, it’s a sure sign he has feelings for you. Whether he talks about his family, pets, friends, or his relationship with his parents, he’s trying to show you a deeper side of himself. If he shares things he hasn’t told anyone else, it means the two of you are sharing intimate moments, and it’s clear he’s interested in you.