Buzz
Are you interested in another guy but unsure if he feels the same way about you? Figuring out whether a guy likes you can be challenging and even a bit intimidating. However, there are certain signs that can help you determine if it's worth pursuing him.
Steps
Observe Body Language
Notice if he frequently smiles at you and maintains eye contact. Guys who are just friends may occasionally smile and make eye contact, but if a guy often gazes deeply into your eyes or smiles at you constantly, it’s a sign that his feelings for you go beyond ordinary friendship.
Look for signs of nervousness. If a guy likes you, he might feel anxious about what you think of him. This can lead to fidgety behavior or awkward gestures when he's around you. Watch for signs like:
- Sweaty palms
- Nervous laughter
- Stammering
- Restlessness
Notice if he sneaks glances at you. If you suspect he likes you, observe him discreetly. If you catch him glancing at you frequently, it’s likely he’s smitten.
- If he looks away when you catch him, it’s a sign he might be shy or unsure about your feelings.
Pay attention to unnecessary physical contact. Guys might high-five, shake hands, or even wrestle, but intimate touches are rare. If a guy touches you in ways that feel more personal, he might be testing the waters or trying to get closer. Look for actions like:
- Lightly touching your hand
- Placing his hands on your shoulders
- Frequent hugs
- Finding excuses to touch your hair
See if he treats you differently from other guys. Not all guys wear their hearts on their sleeves; some hide their feelings until they feel safe. If you sense he likes you but isn’t showing it, notice how he acts around you compared to others. For example:
- Does he avoid eye contact? If so, he might be too shy to ask you out.
- Is he more protective of you than others? If yes, he likely values you deeply.
- Does he flirt with others in your presence? He might be trying to make you jealous.
Pay attention to what he says
Notice if he wants to know everything about you. If a guy asks you numerous questions about your personal life, it means he's not just making small talk but is interested in getting to know you on a deeper level. This could simply be because he sees you as a close friend, or it might indicate that he's interested in something more.
Pay attention if he gives you a nickname. Guys often give each other nicknames when someone leaves a memorable impression. However, if a guy calls you by a unique nickname he's created, especially if you haven't done anything to earn it, it might suggest that he sees your relationship as something special.
Try making small changes to see if he notices. If a guy likes you, he's likely to notice when you change your style or accomplish something you've been working on. If he compliments you or simply acknowledges these changes, it's a sign that he's paying close attention to you.
Observe if he teases you or tries to make you laugh. Everyone has that funny friend who captures the crowd's attention. However, if a guy seems to direct his jokes specifically at you or often playfully teases you, he might be flirting.
Joshua Pompey
Relationship Expert
Relationship Expert
Experts agree: If a guy has feelings for you, you'll notice signs of flirtation like eye contact, playful teasing, or light touches here and there.
Pay attention to how often he asks you out. A guy who is into you will want to spend as much time with you as possible. He might come up with various reasons to invite you out. If he only asks you out a couple of times a month, it might not mean much, but if he invites you several times a week, it's likely he has feelings for you.
- Take special note if he invites you out one-on-one.
Gauge his intentions
Try making a gesture and see if he mimics you. When people are engaged in conversation, they often unconsciously mirror each other's body language. Next time you're talking to him, try gestures like crossing your arms, resting your chin on your hand, or leaning forward. If he does the same, it means he's very focused on you.
Sit closer and see if he's comfortable. Next time you're out with him, try sitting closer than usual. When it feels right, lean in slightly. If he moves away, he might not be interested. But if he doesn't react or leans in too, it's likely he has feelings for you.
- If you feel comfortable, try putting your arm around his shoulder.
Break the touch barrier by reaching for his hand. If your previous tests have gone well, try breaking the touch barrier by letting your hand "accidentally" brush against his. If he quickly pulls away, he might not be interested, but if he doesn’t, there’s a good chance he likes you as more than a friend.
- If you’re not ready to touch his hand, start by gently touching his shoulder or arm.
Ask him directly if he likes you. If he responds positively to your romantic gestures, go ahead and ask if he has feelings for you. Give him time to think about it. If he genuinely likes you, you can ask if he’d like to start dating. If he’s not interested or isn’t ready to take things further, apologize for the misunderstanding and let him know you’re happy to remain friends.
- Before asking, you can start by saying you’ve noticed his signals. For example, you could say, “I’ve been picking up on some vibes from you, and I’ve been wondering if my feelings are mutual. Are we just friends, or is there something more?”
- If he says he’s not interested, give him some space. Things might feel awkward for a while, but your relationship will likely return to normal over time.
