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In today's world, texting has become a standard way to build friendships and even transition into romantic relationships. If you want a girl to like you, texting is one of the simplest methods. Now, stay calm, pick up your phone, and get started.
Steps
Getting Started
Ask for her phone number. You can only text her if you have her number. While it might not always be easy to ask for a girl's number, try to make it seem casual. Simply say: "Hey, I don’t think I have your number. Let’s exchange contacts!" and the task is almost done.
- When asking for her number, avoid:
- Getting her number from someone else. If she hasn’t given it to you directly, it means she might not want you to text her. She might even feel uncomfortable if you have her number without her consent.
- Asking for her number online or through the internet. When you ask in person, it’s harder for her to refuse. Unless she’s in full control of the situation and doesn’t mind showing disinterest, 9 out of 10 times, you’ll get her number.
- Acting like it’s a big deal. The more casual you are, the higher your chances of success. If you seem overly eager, she might hesitate.
Introduce yourself in the first message if she doesn’t have your number. If she gave you her number and is waiting for you to text, start with something like:
- "Hi, it’s Nam from yesterday, remember me?"
- "Hey Thao, it’s Nam. I just watched an amazing video and thought of sharing it with you. Have you seen this one?"
- Or add a touch of intentional humor: "It’s the guy who turned red while asking for your number yesterday."
Text regularly. Keep texting to gauge her responses. Avoid bombarding her phone with hundreds of messages early on. Send a few texts each day, then pause for a day or two to show you’re not overly obsessed (though this might backfire with some girls).
Look for signs that you’re on the right track. Everyone has body language, and you probably know that. But did you know body language can also show up in texts? Watch for these signs to see if you’re heading in the right direction:
- Quick replies. Does she respond quickly to your texts? If she’s unpredictable, she might not reply immediately, so don’t rely solely on this sign.
- Laughter and emojis. Does she often reply with "haha" or "hihi"? That’s a good sign. Smiley faces and other emojis are also positive indicators.
- Green lights. You’ll know when you see it. If she responds with "Wow, I need to watch this right away" (when you share an interesting video) or texts "I always feel happy talking to you," you’re on the right track. Keep it up!
Notice signs that she’s not interested. Alongside positive signals, be aware of negative ones. Pay attention to these when texting:
- She ignores some of your messages. If she simply overlooks them, especially if the content seems impolite or unrefined, take note and avoid repeating it. Give her some space.
- Very short replies. If you send thoughtful, engaging messages and only get responses like "Yeah, cool," she might not be interested in the conversation.
- She never initiates texts. If you’re always the one starting the conversation and she never does, things might not be going well.
Stay relaxed
Think about what you want to text. Start with general topics and gradually personalize the conversation.
- For example, you can begin by discussing upcoming parties or events.
- Later, you can text about what you’re currently doing or planning to do.
- Finally, you can send messages just to say you’re thinking about her and mention the things you like or love about her. (Only use this approach if you’re already in a relationship or at a stage where you’re confident she won’t feel uncomfortable).
Try to incorporate humor into your texts. Humor makes texting easier. If you’re naturally funny, use that to your advantage. If not, work on developing inside jokes, playfully tease her, or comment on funny situations you’ve both experienced.
Make sure you read everything she texts. Beyond answering her questions, respond in a way that shows you’ve read and understood her messages. Girls appreciate this.
- Don’t reply immediately every time she texts. Wait a few minutes before responding. Gradually increase the delay. Sometimes, wait a bit longer before replying, then return to normal, and occasionally wait even longer.
Avoid flirting with her too much. Don’t bombard her with advances every day. Once you start flirting, take it slow. Sometimes less is more, and learn to diversify your texts by discussing:
- Her daily life. "How are you?" "How was your day?" and "Did you have a fun weekend?" are common texts.
- Any issues she’s facing. Let her open up about her problems. Avoid prying into her personal life, but if she starts sharing, try to offer advice.
- What’s happening in your life. While it’s great to focus on her, sometimes (just sometimes) she might want to know about your world too. Share what you’re doing, who you’re meeting, and where you’re going. These small details can significantly contribute to the success of your relationship. Keep everything within your control.
Develop the relationship beyond texting. Once you start getting to know a girl, don’t stop at texting. Take it further by hanging out, talking on the phone, and going on dates. If she likes you too, this is what she’ll expect.
Advice
- Be sweet and polite. Show her that you care.
- Use smileys when texting a girl. If you receive similar emojis in return, it’s likely she enjoys talking to you.
- Avoid repeating the same content if she didn’t respond to it earlier.
- Don’t take too long to reply. She might think you’re ignoring her.
- Be yourself; don’t change for anyone. Remember, girls appreciate genuine guys.
- Avoid letting her know you’re waiting for her texts. It might make you seem desperate.
- Drop subtle hints that you like her, but don’t be too direct. She might get scared off.
- Always remember, being yourself is the best approach!
