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Feeling hesitant about how to text a guy to invite him out? Don't worry! Men can sometimes appear to be a mystery, but chances are, you might be overthinking it. To help you out, we've compiled a list of tips and strategies that you can use to get him by your side – whether it's relaxing together watching Netflix or simply going out to have fun.
Steps
Start by boosting his ego a bit.
Compliment him on being attractive, funny, or smart before asking. A little flattery can go a long way – send a few messages complimenting traits you admire about him. He'll appreciate it and might be more open to your invitation.
- Try texting, "You know, you're the funniest guy I've ever met" or "There's something so charming about you."
- You could also say, "Talking to a smart guy like you is such a pleasure. You're a real genius."
Ask a few playful, flirtatious questions to help him relax.
Keep the atmosphere light and easygoing to avoid tension and encourage him to chat. Ask questions that let the conversation flow naturally. Add a little humor and flirtation to make him feel at ease while talking to you. This way, he might be more inclined to spend time with you.
- Try asking, "How is it that you're still single? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. Does that mean guys like you are available for people like me? But seriously, why are you still single?"
- You could also say, "How's your family? Got any rich uncles? Let me know so I can start making plans!"
Suggest the idea of hanging out together to test the waters.
Bring up the idea of going out together as a way to gauge his feelings without actually inviting him. Throw out the idea to see his response. If he’s excited, great! You can easily follow up with a direct invitation. If he's not that enthusiastic, simply drop it without feeling awkward.
- Try texting, "Maybe we should meet up sometime" or more casually, "We definitely need to hang out soon!"
- You could also try texting, "How about we have dinner together sometime?" or "It’s been so long since I went to the movies! We should go soon."
- Don’t worry if he responds with a neutral attitude, neither eager nor dismissive. You can still invite him without fearing rejection.
Ask about his free time.
Find out when he's available before inviting him to hang out. If you already have plans or events you'd like to attend together, check if he's free during those times. If you're planning something with him, figure out when he's usually free so you can select a suitable time.
- For example, you might ask, "Are you free around 7 PM on Friday?" or "What are you up to this weekend? Do you have any plans?"
Pick something specific to invite him to.
A specific invitation makes it easier for him to say yes. Avoid being vague, as he might decline or agree hesitantly (and possibly not show up). Instead, choose a particular event or place when inviting him, which increases the likelihood of him agreeing.
- For example, text, "Hùng, would you like to join me for dinner at the new Italian restaurant this Friday?" instead of, "Do you want to go out for dinner sometime?"
- You could also text, "I'm planning to visit this art exhibition in the city. Want to come with me?"
Say that you need a companion.
Make him feel like you need his company. If you genuinely just want to hang out as friends, invite him to be your companion to a bar, a party, or even a singles event. Even if you like him more than a friend, he may find you more attractive when you ask for his help in a friendly manner.
- You could text, "Hey, I have to go to a company party. Would you like to be my plus-one?"
- Or, "I'm thinking of attending a singles event at this club. Want to join me?"
Include him in your plans.
Invite him to join one of your plans. To make it feel more natural, talk about the activities you're doing and invite him to join in. This way, it seems more casual, and he's more likely to accept.
- For example, you might text, "Hey Toàn, I'm having a few friends over this weekend to watch the Olympics. Would you like to join us?"
- You could also text, "There’s a free yoga class in the park this Saturday that I’m going to. You should come with me!"
Invite him to hang out for drinks with some of your friends.
He’s more likely to say yes if there are other people there too. He might feel a bit shy if you invite him to hang out one-on-one. Let him know you’re going out with friends, and it will be fun and relaxed. This makes it easier for him to agree, and if he declines, it’s not a big deal—you’ll still have a good time with your friends!
- For example, text, "Hey Tuấn, my friends and I are going out for pizza and drinks this Friday. Want to join us?"
- Or, you could try texting, "A few friends are inviting me to a live electronic music show. Would you like to come with us?"
Ask if he wants to grab a coffee or lunch together.
Create a natural, pressure-free vibe. If you just want to hang out with him as a friend or if you're worried he might reject an evening invitation, try asking him to hang out during the day. Introduce him to a great café or a place with tasty lunch options to make it easier for him to say yes—who doesn’t like coffee and lunch?
- For example, you could text, "I'm starving. Want to grab lunch with me, Hoàng?" or "I'm really craving coffee. Would you like to check out this new café with me?"
Phrase the invitation as a fun question.
Make it seem like he’s getting a chance to be with you. Turn yourself into something he could win by bouncing the ball into his court each time you invite him out. Phrase the invitation in a way that makes it sound like he's getting the opportunity to hang out with you, rather than simply asking if he wants to meet up. He might find this exciting and say yes!
- For example, try texting, "By the way, I'm going to the city museum this weekend. If you'd like, come with me" instead of "Would you like to visit the city museum with me this weekend?"
Provide an easy out to reduce the pressure.
Give him the chance to decline to ease the pressure. If you’re worried he might refuse or you don’t want him to feel obligated, let him know it's fine if he can't come. He can say yes or no, but at least you’ve extended the invite!
- You might text, "I'm thinking of checking out the new Lotte Cinema this weekend if you're free. If not, no worries!"
- Or you could say, "Hey, if you can’t make it, that’s totally fine, but I’m going to an 80s-themed party at this bar tonight, if you want to join!"
Cut back on texting once he’s already agreed. Avoid overwhelming him with constant messages once he’s accepted the invitation. Try to stay patient and wait until you meet in person. Congratulations, you’ve succeeded! Don’t spoil it by sending too many texts.
- Don’t stress if he declines. He might be busy or change his mind later. Anything can happen in the future.
Be mindful not to send excessive texts and make him lose interest.
Advice
- If you share mutual friends, consider inviting him out with a group. This might make it easier for him to say yes.
