How to Touch a Guy

To make a guy like you, it’s important to know how to touch him in a way that’s appropriate and ensures your actions are welcomed. There are many reasons to touch a guy, depending on the relationship level with him. If you’ve just met him, gentle touches can express affection. If you want to take things further, playful touches can be used to flirt. If you’re already dating or in an intimate relationship, physical contact can be used to spark attraction. Read on for tips on how to touch a guy.

Hug the guy. To show affection, you can hug him to convey your care. Just approach him, wrap your arms around his body, and don’t hold the hug for too long unless you want him to know you genuinely like him. Look for a good reason to hug him, such as congratulating him on an achievement or greeting him when entering a room if you already know him.

• Turn your head slightly to avoid your faces getting too close, which could make the moment feel awkward.

Press on his shoulder. This is another way to show that you care about him. Approach and give his shoulder a quick squeeze while sitting next to him or facing him. You can do this to reassure him, let him know everything is fine, or simply to show that you're happy to see him.

Touch his elbow. When standing across from the guy, you can lightly touch his elbow with your hand. A gentle touch shows affection and helps break the barrier. A longer touch might seem more intimate, but a quick tap on his elbow also expresses care and can lead to something more.

Tap his hand. If you and the guy are sitting with your hands on the table, or he's sitting with his hand resting on his knee, you can gently tap the back of his hand for a second. This is a subtle way to comfort him and make him feel special without being overly intimate. Avoid holding hands or lingering your hand on his. You can repeat this in future moments if you wish.

Pat his back to show you care. Giving his back a quick pat once or twice is a good way to say goodbye or greet him with a half hug, without making it awkward.

Wrap your arm around him. This is also a way to show fondness. You can wrap your arm around his shoulder while walking, placing your arm under his. This gesture can indicate friendship or something more. Be sure he doesn’t feel uncomfortable.

Kiss his cheek. A kiss on the cheek is a way to make physical contact with someone in a playful yet not overly intimate way. This action typically happens when you greet or say goodbye while hugging, both of you getting close to kiss each other's cheek. Just make sure you're familiar enough with the guy and the moment feels right. Avoid doing this when greeting him in formal places like a hall or classroom, but it's perfect when parting at a party or hanging out with friends.

Tap him playfully. One way to flirt is by lightly tapping the person while talking. You can gently tap his upper arm if you're both standing, or his knee if sitting. This action signals "Hey, stop it! But not really…" Remember, keep it light to avoid discomfort.

Kick his foot under the table. This is a subtle but effective way to make intimate contact with a guy. If you're sitting close and he says something that makes you laugh or elicits a reaction like "Oh!" or "That's crazy!", you can lightly tap his foot with yours as a playful challenge.

Mess with his hair. Playfully teasing his hair is a flirty move. It's a bold gesture, so don’t overdo it and find a natural reason to do so. For example, if he just got a haircut, you can lightly grab a strand of hair to tease him. If his hair is messy, you can fix it as an excuse to touch him. Just ensure he enjoys it, as this is an intimate gesture, and not all guys like having their hair touched.

Touch knees together. If you're sitting across from each other, you can move closer until your knees are almost touching. Then, if he moves closer or feels confident, you can let your knees gently touch his, or adjust your position so one knee rests outside his calf and the other between his legs, leaning in toward him to complete the move.

Rub his cheek. If you really want to flirt, wait for a moment when he has a stray eyelash or food on his cheek. Then, move in gently and brush it away with your hand, softly caressing his skin. Hold it just long enough to flirt, getting close enough to make him feel you're being more intimate.

Hold his hand. Once you're closer, you can hold his hand while standing. You can hold hands while walking, sitting and chatting, or watching a movie. If you're sitting across from each other, you can hold hands on the table, either underneath or on top. Occasionally gripping his hand tightly can help maintain a sense of intimacy.

Touch his chest. If you want to flirt with him, you can place a hand on his chest while talking and get closer. This is especially effective if he's leaning against a wall or you're in a confined space.

Embrace him from behind. If you want to excite him, you can hug him from behind. Stand behind him, wrap your arms around his waist, and pull both of your bodies close together. Rest your chin on his shoulder or press your forehead against his back, depending on your height. Let him feel your breath against the back of his neck. He will turn and kiss you instantly.

Kiss his neck. Kissing the nape of his neck is a great way to stimulate him. To do this, stand behind him, wrap your arms around him or gently grip his shoulders, then start kissing his neck lightly, moving towards his ear.

• You could also kiss the front of his neck, or try kissing the front while you're both lying in bed, leaning into each other.

Place your hands on his lower back. Position your hands on his lower back, just above his waist, to signal that you're ready for more. As you move closer to him, raise your hands to his lower back, turn his face toward you, and use your hands to draw him even closer.

Touch the back of his head. The area just above his neck is an ideal spot to excite him. Touch the back of his head while you're kissing or speaking intimately, especially when you're both leaning toward each other. You can also massage his scalp or run your fingers through his hair at the back of his head.

Touch behind his ears. This is a sensitive area, and by gently touching it with your fingers or lips, you'll send a tingling sensation down his spine. You can caress the area behind his ears with your hands and even gently touch his ears and earlobes.

Touch the inside of his ear. This intimate action can make any man feel aroused. Gently lick the inside of his ear with the tip of your tongue, then blow softly into it to send him into a frenzy. If using your tongue feels uncomfortable, simply blowing into his ear will have the same effect. You can also trace your lips over his ear when leaning in to whisper in his ear.

Touch his feet. This method can also stimulate him. Gently stroke his toes, run your fingers along the arch of his foot to tickle him lightly, and massage his foot by moving your hands along the joints in a circular motion to excite him.

• Avoid doing this if he's wearing socks and sneakers. His feet might be a bit dirty or sweaty. However, if you're both barefoot on the bed, this approach works well.

Touch his skin. Any kind of skin contact will make a man feel attracted. Touch his cheek, upper arm, inside of his wrist, forehead, bare knee, or even trace your hand over his lips.

• Maintain good personal hygiene. Otherwise, you'll make him uncomfortable.
• When standing and talking to him, instead of facing him awkwardly, stand next to him and gently touch his shoulder. This will make the intimate contact feel natural without being too forward.
• Try walking alongside him. While starting a conversation, lightly place your fingertip on his arm's muscle for a brief moment. As you pull your hand away, casually linger for a second and continue the conversation as if nothing happened.
• Avoid being too obvious or overly sensitive, or he might think you're intimidating.
• During conversation, you can naturally react by touching his knee, upper arm, or hand for a second or two to emphasize a point.
• Touches should be firm enough for him to feel them but gentle, as if grooming rather than forcefully touching.
• Touching can serve as a way to emphasize something, like holding his hand firmly to apologize for upsetting him.
• When shaking hands, you can place your other hand over his. Hold for a few seconds while looking into his eyes. However, avoid doing this on the first meeting.
• Don't rush things. Take your time to establish this behavior.
• Do something playful. You might say, "Some girls like holding hands like this, some prefer it like this," and demonstrate.
• "Trip" and fall into his arms. He'll catch you, but note that this action is more than just a light touch and might not be appreciated. If you plan on doing this, make sure it's an accident and he can catch you!
• Start off gently, then gradually become more intimate as you get to know him better.

• Avoid grabbing the guy while he is talking to someone else. This is not the time for tug-of-war games.
• Unless you are known as someone who always offers emotional support to everyone, do not touch anyone who already has a girlfriend!
• When meeting a guy for the first time, do not touch him for too long, as this could be seen as too forward and might provoke a negative reaction.
• Excessive physical contact may come across as pleading if overdone, and it might seem as though you're trying to seduce him to earn his affection.
• Some guys are not comfortable with physical contact and may appear hesitant, so be mentally prepared. This is usually not personal.