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As women, we all know how we want to be treated, so consider this a 'give and take' scenario and learn to treat the men in your life fairly. This primarily revolves around love, respect, and kindness—but it also means having fun together! Read Step 1 below to learn more!
Steps
Treat Him Well
Be Honest. In any relationship, honesty is the most effective policy.
- If you want him to be honest with you, make sure you offer him the same courtesy.
- Never withhold or hide anything from your man—you might think you're protecting him from hurt or anger, but this can backfire in the long run when he eventually finds out.
Be Kind. Kindness is a crucial element in any relationship, yet it is often overlooked.
- The saying 'go with the flow' might work while dating, but it doesn't hold up when you're building a serious relationship.
- Kindness encompasses many things—it means being patient and understanding when your guy makes mistakes, doing nice things for him simply because you care, and treating him with dignity and respect, just as you would want to be treated.
Show Affection. Men might not admit it, but most of them occasionally crave a bit of tender loving care.
- So, don't forget to express your feelings by giving him a tight hug and a kiss when he seems down.
- If you're in the 'confession' phase, don't hesitate to remind him of your emotions or let him express his first.
Be Spontaneous. In many cases, couples tend to fall into a comfortable and predictable routine.
- While this has its benefits, it's exciting to add a fun element to the relationship and occasionally do something spontaneous to keep the spark alive.
- Plan a romantic weekend getaway for the two of you, or arrange a day out visiting a museum, zoo, or art exhibition. Book tickets for a skydiving or snorkeling experience. Step out of your comfort zone, and you'll discover a whole new side of your partner!
Be Honest. Treating a guy well means being honest with him—don't just be kind to his face and then gossip about him behind his back to family and friends.
- He needs to know that you're there for him and that you have his back 100%—just as he supports you.
- The next time someone disagrees or criticizes him for something, stand up for him—it will show that you're on his side.
Support Him
Trust Him. If you want him to trust you 100%, then you need to offer him the same in return. Trust is a two-way street.
- Don’t panic if he doesn’t answer your call or text immediately—guys often forget things—it doesn’t mean he’s up to something shady.
- If he’s open and honest with you and has never done anything to hurt you before, there’s no reason not to trust him. So, if he wants a guys’ night out, you should feel completely at ease with it!
Make Him Feel Comfortable. Helping a guy feel good about himself is a key part of treating him well. You wouldn’t want to be with someone who constantly puts you down, and neither does he.
- Be mindful of his feelings—thank him when he does something kind for you to show you appreciate him, and apologize if you say something harsh or hurtful.
- If he’s struggling at work, let him know you believe in him and his abilities. He’ll feel better about himself afterward.
Be a Good Listener. Sometimes, all we need is to vent and share our feelings with someone.
- You want to be that person for your guy when he needs it, so show him he can talk to you about anything by being a good listener.
- Don’t interrupt or make critical comments—just listen to what he has to say, try to empathize, and offer helpful advice.
Boost His Ego. Men often take pride in themselves, so stroking his ego with a well-timed compliment can make him incredibly happy.
- Tell him he looks great today, his workout routine is really paying off, or his new haircut suits him perfectly.
- Let him know he’s the only man for you and that you feel lucky to have him.
Show Him He Can Rely on You. He should know that he can count on you no matter the issue and that you’ll always be there to support him when he needs it.
- Be his safe space when he needs it—cheer him on if he wants to take a risk with a new business idea, support him if he’s dealing with family issues, and be the shoulder he can cry on when something bad happens.
- Maintaining a loving relationship means being there for each other through the tough times as well as the good—so don’t just be a girlfriend when things are easy and great!
Perform kind acts for him
Plan an exciting date night. Being good to a guy means occasionally doing nice things for him, so take the initiative and organize a fun date night for the two of you!
- Cook dinner and watch a movie if it’s been a while since you’ve done that together, or try something a bit more adventurous, like paintball, a dance class, or attending a live concert.
- Even a quiet evening can turn romantic with some candles, love songs, and a bottle of wine!
Cook a meal for him. There’s an old saying that "the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach"—and it’s quite true. So, do something thoughtful for your man by preparing a delicious meal, whether it’s an old favorite or something new.
- Don’t worry if you’re not a great cook—choose a simple yet tasty recipe, like pasta or curry, and give yourself plenty of time to prepare.
- Alternatively, you could order from his favorite restaurant and plate it elegantly—use your nice dishes instead of plastic containers!
Give him a massage. It’s incredibly effective to give your man a massage, especially after a long, stressful day.
- Use aromatic massage oil, dim the lights (or light some candles), and play relaxing music.
- Ask him to remove his shirt and lie down. Move to his back, working from one shoulder to the other, and focus on any tense spots. He’ll feel so relaxed, he might even fall asleep!
Look your absolute best. Sometimes, it helps to dress up for him and make him feel lucky to have you. You’ll feel amazing seeing the pleased look on his face!
- Do all the things you used to do when you first started dating—spend three hours grooming—shaving, moisturizing, applying makeup, and styling your hair.
- Wear your prettiest dress and high heels—now you’re all set for your date, whether it’s a night out dancing or a romantic evening at home.
Be bold in the bedroom. Almost all men appreciate a woman who takes charge in intimate moments, so let loose and make him putty in your hands!
- Try taking the lead if you’re usually the one following—experiment by tying him down or cuffing his hands to the bed if he’s comfortable with it.
- Remember that physical intimacy is a crucial part of any healthy relationship, so don’t shut it out if you’re upset—work things out between the sheets!
Advice
- Keep in mind that what you give is what you’ll receive, so treat him the way you’d like to be treated.
- Men are just as sensitive as women, even if they don’t show it—they definitely have feelings. If he’s upset, care for him as you would a sad friend. Be empathetic yet close. Show your nurturing side.
Warnings
- Don’t become overbearing or make him feel suffocated—let him be himself.
