How to Win a Girl from Her Boyfriend

You may have encountered an amazing girl, only to find out that she’s already in a relationship. While this might seem like an obstacle, it doesn’t mean you’re out of options. With the right approach, you might still have a chance to win her over from her boyfriend.

Build Trust. To do this, spend time with her whenever possible. Treat her as you would any other friend. Listen to her problems, try to understand her better, and engage in fun activities like going out for meals or watching movies together.

• Don’t rush to make her your girlfriend, or she might see you as an annoyance, only using her for entertainment.
• Be independent. If you act clingy, she will only see you as a regular friend, with no potential for anything romantic.

Make Fun Memories. When she shares happy moments with you, she will keep thinking about you. Pay attention to her, hang out together, and engage in activities you both enjoy. If she likes bowling but her boyfriend doesn’t, take the chance to play together. Avoid arguments or delving into her personal relationship issues, and never speak badly of her boyfriend.

• This means you need to discover the weaknesses in her relationship and fill in the gaps her boyfriend leaves behind. Listen attentively to her complaints.
• Finding common ground is a great way to strengthen the connection. If she wants to try skydiving but you prefer hunting, explain how both activities share the thrill of adventure.
• If she wants to spend a lot of time with you, it may be a sign that she's dissatisfied with her current relationship.

Perceive Her as She Desires. Flirting can be fine, but always treat her as a person, not just a romantic target. To do so, listen to her and offer support. If she dreams of becoming a photographer, for example, give her positive feedback and encouragement. Remember, there are plenty of guys attracted to her beauty, and they may block her from reaching her dreams, including her current boyfriend.

Keep in Touch with Other Girls. Being clingy will only turn her off. Show her you’re confident and don't depend on her. This trick is particularly useful for girls who tend to send mixed signals. For instance, if you’re in the same class and she doesn’t seem to notice you, talk to other girls. Make them laugh, and jealousy might prompt her to act.

• After interacting with other girls, invite her to do something with you, like having lunch one day. If she seems hesitant to agree, she may not yet like you enough to hang out.

Build Communication. Establish a foundation first. This might take time, but a girl won’t break up with her boyfriend for someone she barely knows. The happier her relationship is, the more patience you’ll need. When you talk to her, make sure she sees you as confident, relaxed, and decisive.

• To achieve this, develop your personal value. Maintain good hygiene, exercise, eat healthily, and practice speaking by talking to others or standing in front of a mirror.
• Approach her calmly. Speak clearly and maintain eye contact.
• Always be straightforward when starting a topic related to her. For example, if she’s reading a book, ask about it and stay focused on it until the conversation starts to fade, then shift the topic.

Discuss a Variety of Topics. It's easy to fall into the trap of talking about your work or friends, but that's a mistake. These topics can quickly become boring since most people talk about the same things with their friends. Instead, focus on her. Remember interesting details and stories about her and bring them up from time to time.

• A popular communication tip is to ask open-ended questions that can't be answered with just "Yes" or "No," like: "Working at a bank, you must meet a lot of fascinating people. Can you tell me about a customer who stood out to you?"

Promote Yourself. To do this, find out what her ideal boyfriend looks like. Ask her, "If you could love anyone, what would they look like? How would they act? How would you feel about them?" The more details you gather, the better you can compare yourself to her ideal.

• For example, if she says, "I want someone who listens well," you can reply, "Your boyfriend seems busy, but I’m sure he’s trying his best."
• Never insult her boyfriend or blatantly point out his flaws in a direct manner to her.

Don’t Act Like Her Second Boyfriend. The girl you like may have countless other guys complimenting her beauty. Don’t sit there constantly praising her or doing things her boyfriend doesn't do, like listening to her relationship problems or buying her food. These actions could make you seem like a regular friend, an ATM, or even a "rainy day brother" before she eventually goes back to her boyfriend.

• Use your personality to your advantage. Always remain mysterious, attractive, and independent, rather than showing intentions to replace her boyfriend.

Flirt with Her. The key to showing your interest is to act without saying a word. Make her want you without directly expressing it. Be patient and charm her with your words. Occasionally, you can lightly touch her hand, wrist, or shoulder, as long as she’s comfortable with it. Over time, you’ll find opportunities to interact with her more, like showing her how to play bowling or helping her climb during a hike.

• Don’t reveal your intentions to her. She’ll see you as a threat to her relationship, which will make her uncomfortable or even feel used.
• Since you’re trying to influence her feelings, some discomfort may occur, but you should never make her feel threatened. Stop touching her if she asks you to.
• Never demand anything. Don’t force her to choose between you and her boyfriend.

Steal a Kiss. After becoming friends for a while, you can attempt to express your feelings through action. Consider the right moment. You should be in a private place, and there should be mutual attraction after flirtation, closeness, and enjoyable experiences together. Don’t force it if she rejects the gesture.

• Instead of insisting, it may be better to give her a quick kiss and leave her to think about it.
• This is a risky move but essential if you want to escape the friend zone. If it scares her off and she distances herself from you, it’s time to stop pursuing her.

• Be there for her when her boyfriend isn't around, but don't just become a shoulder for her to lean on.
• Act wisely. Stand up for her when the time is right. She will appreciate your courage.
• Be cautious around her boyfriend. While you should defend her, avoid disrespecting or fighting with him.
• Don't get angry with her boyfriend. Generally, he hasn't wronged you. Being rude toward him will make you seem immature and overly jealous.
• Be ready to invest time. Building trust and romantic feelings takes time.
• Let her break up with her boyfriend naturally. Deception is wrong, and if she cheats on him, she might do the same to you.
• Don’t text or call too much, as it will make you seem desperate.

• Suggesting she break up with her boyfriend will expose your intentions and make her feel manipulated, which can almost completely destroy your chances with her.
• Girls who quickly break up with their boyfriends or are not entirely willing to leave them may end up hurting you. Unless they're in a really bad relationship, there's a high chance she may cheat on you just as she did with him.
• Prepare yourself for the possibility of someone else using the same tactics as you to win her over. You'll need to earn her trust and maintain your advantage.
• Doing things that are meant for her boyfriend or just casual friends, like listening to her relationship problems or shopping together, will make you seem like just a regular friend.
• Be cautious of girls who may exploit or deceive you. Always maintain control over your own life.